Daughter in hospital - full thickness burns

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Title says it all really. I took dd to have her hair coloured today - and she's ended up in burns ward, with full thickness chemical burn on her forehead and a 50/50 chance of needing a skin graft. WTF??? Can't believe it.

Am in bits.

(have namechanged)

I wouldn't have stayed overnight.

Same here. I had my tonsils out at 16, my mum dropped me off in the morning and the came to see me in the early evening - I was in perfectly good hands during the day and given I was sleeping for most of the time I didn't know too much about it. I only had to stay one night, but she wasn't allowed to stay past visiting hours. But I didn't need her to, I was 16 not 6. Plus she had to work, there was no choice.

Sorry to hear about this OP - have you let the hairdresser know so that it doesn't happen to anyone else (in the short term)? I'm sure you will be having other conversations with them once the way forward is clearer. I hope that she doesn't need a graft and that she gets a good prognosis for healing swiftly.

Hope your daughter’s ok this morning.

hairdresser sounds negligent. Hope they have good insurance.

The poor girl! And please, OP, get your arse back to the hospital! Your daughter should not be facing this alone!
Fingers crossed for a speeding and successful treatment and recovery.

Is op likely to be upset, yes, she’s been through stuff with her mother and she took her to the hairdressers (it’s not your fault but I know you’re going to be feeling things about that, it is not your fault.)

is the best person to be on the ward with dd, the person who is upset and possibly crying? No.

ive had a skin graft and reconstruction on face, I’ve sat beside older teens in hospitals the same boat. Sometimes the best thing a parent can do is acknowledge they shouldn’t be there at that moment. It’s such a hard to describe situation, it’s on your face, everyone can see it, you know it, for a large amount of people they really need someone in the initial days who is just stoic can listen to the info and that’s about it, the needing someone to hug and cry with comes later.

berating op to go in, upsetting her more, and trying to shame her into going in, in not the right state of mind, will be shit for dd and her. op says dd has someone with her, taking a day to pull yourself into a state that can go in and not be upset, is not a bad thing.

Accidental double post

dear OP, I hope you get a clear plan today from the doctors of your DD's treatment and path to recovery. My neice was badly burned as a child, on her hand and it was a long haul but she recovered really well, and I'm sending you and your DD love and best wishes.

For those attacking OP, how cruel you are, she has already said her dd is not alone. Far better she can be with her today and going forward, hopefully after some rest and time to process what has happened so she can be the best support possible for her DD.

Her DD was not alone, and in practical terms when the OP posted at 11pm, after intitial assessments her daughter will most likely at that time have been given strong pain relief and something to make her sleep and will barely aware of who is with her.

Your poor dd. Grab some chocolate, books her favourite anything and return using them as excuse why you left. She 16 she needs her mum and dad to be strong. I know you had a tough with your mum in hospital but you need to go back and be there for your daughter. You've got this x

Oh my god this thread is ridiculous. Really showing the cream of the Mumsnet crop here.

Absolutely disgusting group of people sticking the boot into a worried mum. The daughter is 16 not 6, she doesn't need someone up her arse every minute of the day, even when in hospital. She needs rest too, she needs to sleep and she very well might need time alone to process.

OP, I was hospitalised with burns when I was 16 and I completely understand why you've gone home to rest your body and mind - Burns and burn recovery are a marathon not a sprint and if she's on the adult ward (likely), you couldn't stay overnight anyway.

You know your daughter better than any of these people do and you know if and when she needs you. Don't let a bunch of judgemental harpies make you feel bad for doing what you need to do, most of them probably couldn't look you in the eyes and say hello at the same time in real life, they enjoy taking out their own inadequacies on other people hidden behind the anonymity of the internet.

If it helps, the chemical burns I got on my neck at 16 are now almost invisible, and I have a wonderful relationship with my mum even though she went home to sleep and shower and take care of my younger brother, and left me in hospital alone a few times. You're doing fine 💐

She'll be getting a skin graft tomorrow. I've been at hospital since 5am - either her dad or I have been here the whole time. She is on an adult ward, in a side room thankfully.

Thanks to those who have shown support. To those who've declared what a shit mum I am - heard.

Bless her. Thank goodness for modern medicine!

You are her mother, if not for you to think of yourself your child needs you!

@Skybluepinky her dad was with her

Thanks for the update. Ignore the nasty comments. She had a parent with her and it sounds like you are putting in long hours too.
I hope the skin graft goes well.

I'm so sorry about your daughter and hope she's getting good pain relief. You said there was a rectangular shape on her skin - does it look like the hairdresser has rested the container on her skin? If the container of bleach was standing in something, it could have transferred onto your daughter's skin.

Hope all goes well and she's better soon.

Don't listen to the awful comments.

Your child had a parent with her thats all that matters. Dad's are just as important as Mams and she is lucky enough to have two parents who love her and make her feel safe.

You most definitely NOT a shit mum! Please do not think that, she loves you and its the hairdresser that should be scorned not you.

Her dad being in the hospital with her does not make you a shit mum. Some posters on this thread are absolutely horrid.

I hope that the skin graft goes well. Poor girl.

Long time ago but I had an emergency appendectomy when I was 16. DM was allowed to stay with me until I went down to theatre in the middle of the night. But after the operation I was on an adult surgical ward with limited visiting hours and stayed in for about a week (no keyhole surgery in those days)

You are not a shit mum. You were unfortunate to have attracted the dregs of mumsnet to your thread. People that never stop to think how they come across. They are not worth even a first never mind a second thought.

You are not a shit mum. Some of the posters on here are shit though.

You are not a shit mum at all. Op who have put you down are not worth the effort of trying to explain your actions. Tbh they don’t have enough brain cells between them to understand.

Wishing your daughter a speedy recovery.

You are doing great❤️

Please ignore the ignorant morons who have implied you are a shit mum.

you are not a shit mum at all, take lots of pics of the area throughout this for if you need or want to go down a legal route later but also as I said in pp being able to see how much her skin has improved will really help later

At least have the decency to read OPs posts before berating her for not being there. The girls dad was with her and the mother has been there since 5am.