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Daughter in hospital - full thickness burns

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Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:00

Title says it all really. I took dd to have her hair coloured today - and she's ended up in burns ward, with full thickness chemical burn on her forehead and a 50/50 chance of needing a skin graft. WTF??? Can't believe it.

Am in bits.

(have namechanged)

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Snugglemonkey · 22/10/2025 23:12

She is your child. Go to her! Is she alone?!

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Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:13

She's not on her own

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2025 23:13

Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:13

She's not on her own

Who is she with?

Overthebow · 22/10/2025 23:14

Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:13

She's not on her own

Who’s with her? You’re her mum, please go be with her she needs you.

Snugglemonkey · 22/10/2025 23:15

Is she with a parent?

ninjahamster · 22/10/2025 23:15

I think it’s ok if she’s with her other parent. Take care x

QuickPeachPoet · 22/10/2025 23:16

Go and be with your sick child! She needs you!

ResusciAnnie · 22/10/2025 23:16

Jeez this didn’t take long to turn from sympathy and support to mum-shaming! Classic MN! We don’t know she’s not with her other parent, do we?

Snugglemonkey · 22/10/2025 23:17

I appreciate that you are grieving, but I am sorry, that is not relevant right now (I have lost my mum, slowly and hideously to cancer, I also had to show up for my family).

She needs you. This is one of the critical moments in her life. You need to be by her side.

WeNeedToTalkAboutIT · 22/10/2025 23:18

Or a grandparent or mature sibling she is close too. Jesus people, back off!

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Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:18

She is fine and being looked after.

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Stichintime · 22/10/2025 23:19

Gather yourself. Sit quietly for a moment, take some slow deep breaths and go back to you daughter. Shes had an accident. Unless you applied the dye yourself, its not your fault. Put your feelings aside and focus on her treatment and recovery. She doesn't need you falling apart right now.

Fuckitydoodah · 22/10/2025 23:20

Oh ffs leave the OP alone. Her daughter has someone else there, likely her other parent.

I'm sure the OP will go back to her when she's gathered herself. Better to have a meltdown away from her daughter so she doesn't panic her and make her feel even more scared.

purpleme12 · 22/10/2025 23:21

ResusciAnnie · 22/10/2025 23:16

Jeez this didn’t take long to turn from sympathy and support to mum-shaming! Classic MN! We don’t know she’s not with her other parent, do we?

Exactly

My first assumption would be that she's with her other parent to be honest

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Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:21

There is nothing I can do for her tonight. She'll need me tomorrow, and the next day and the next day. It's going to be a long journey

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nhsmanagersanonymous · 22/10/2025 23:22

She’s clearly not with a parent or the op would say this.
I know this is ghastly OP but this is your child, being there is your job. You cannot fall apart just now. Your kid may need a skin graft on her forehead. You have to get hold of yourself.

ninjahamster · 22/10/2025 23:23

A few years ago my son was in and out of hospital due to attempts on his life. Me and DH took it in turns to be with him according to who was mentally stronger each day. If one of us was really struggling, we knew that they needed to take time out.Its important to care for yourself too in these situations.

Lifeissodifficult · 22/10/2025 23:23

Your poor daughter 😢

Irenesortof · 22/10/2025 23:24

Poor girl, what a dreadful thing to happen.
I'm sure she'll be OK in time, people recover from burns and her injuries are obviously being taken seriously at the hospital. It'll be a long haul but she'll get there. x

Nutmuncher · 22/10/2025 23:26

yeah, definitely one big example why 16 year olds shouldn’t be getting their hair dyed unnecessarily. Scarred for life, poor thing. I hope they mange to disguise it as much as possible op and that she’s ok.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 22/10/2025 23:27

First thing tomorrow morning you report this to Trading Standards ( if it's not them they will tell you who to report it too ) It will be investigated.

ninjahamster · 22/10/2025 23:27

Nutmuncher · 22/10/2025 23:26

yeah, definitely one big example why 16 year olds shouldn’t be getting their hair dyed unnecessarily. Scarred for life, poor thing. I hope they mange to disguise it as much as possible op and that she’s ok.

Yeah that’s really helpful! Plenty of 16 year olds get their hair coloured.

Loreimvo · 22/10/2025 23:28

I have had a skin graft on my forehead too, hopefully she will not need it, but if she does
(edit pressed too soon) there are ways to help minimise scaring and the drs dealing with burns will be some of the best for advice on that. All the best to her ❤️

sosorryimnotsorry · 22/10/2025 23:30

This pile on @Nightmarehairinjuryis horrible. FFS none of you know what the DD needs better than the OP. In many ways far better that the OP is home overnight and gets some rest before dealing with the doctors and possibly be needed to make decisions tomorrow. It sounds like the DD is stable and being looked after both by the hospital and whoever is with her.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 22/10/2025 23:31

Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:21

There is nothing I can do for her tonight. She'll need me tomorrow, and the next day and the next day. It's going to be a long journey

She's in a safe place and I agree there is nothing you can do tonight.