Daughter in hospital - full thickness burns

[Nightmarehairinjury]

Title says it all really. I took dd to have her hair coloured today - and she's ended up in burns ward, with full thickness chemical burn on her forehead and a 50/50 chance of needing a skin graft. WTF??? Can't believe it.

Am in bits.

(have namechanged)

I'm so sorry for what your dd and you are going through. 💜 Please ignore the sad little bullies on here. I hope she starts to feel better soon. 💐 It sounds like the hairdresser is definitely at fault here, it's worth looking into compensation for your dd. X

Exactly, I had this with dd when she was 16yo. I was not allowed to stay on the ward with her overnight. I had to kick off to be allowed in first thing in the morning as visiting didn't start till 2pm and I said there was no way I wasn't going to be there for the doctor's rounds. You'd have thought I'd asked for something totally unreasonable! But dd didn't understand what was happening, nor would she have asked questions.

It's understandable that hospitals are probably traumatic for you but you must go back to your daughter. She's still a child, probably very scared and will really need her mum.

First of all OP I am very sorry that your daughter has been injured and I hope she will soon be feeling more comfortable.

However, I am baffled as to how she got acid on her forehead ? Did you stay with her through the whole process?

I know of no chemicals a hairdresser would use (either as a hair product or a domestic cleaner) that contain acid strong enough to give a full-thickness burn.

If what you have been told is correct it sounds like an assault of some kind and I would involve the police if the hospital haven't contacted them already.

Don't they just! I'm quite shocked and saddened by the lack of empathy in many of the comments on this thread. People are far too quick to judge.

Night watch hid this thread overnight because of all the attacks on the OP for not staying with her daughter

Do PP want that to happen again?

Quite. I know things change a bit over time but I'm a bit skeptical about how many PPs crying "shame" have actually had a 16 year old in hospital, or remember being one themselves. Hopefully OP can just continue to ignore.

The OP doesnt say that though, does she? She doesn't mention not being able to stay. She says something along the lines of feeling bad about leaving her but not being able to cope.

I dont think most people are trying to be unkind but are just shocked that the OP would voluntarily leave her daughter. She's spoken about her own trauma, those posters are encouraging her to think about her daughter's.

There's an equal amount of what iffery and mental gymnastics going on here to both absolve and condemn OP. In reality, no-one knows, do they?

I know 16 is a child but the assumption that a 16 year old would NEED her mum and only her mum to stay with her overnight with her is crazy. I don’t think I would have in that situation.

Hope she’s ok OP!

as a children’s nurse. On a children’s ward. A 16 year old wouldn’t be with us! For the horrible commenters! So normal visiting times would be in place on adult wards!

@Nightmarehairinjury please ignore all the nasty comments which are awful in this horrible situation. I’m so sorry this has happened to your DD. I want to reassure you that burns usually heal very well, especially if they are treated quickly in hospital (which it is). Your DD will get excellent treatment from the NHS because they are amazing at dealing with emergency injuries.

I think the hairdresser that allowed this to happen to a teenager is absolute scum, but I know that isn’t your main priority at this point.

Sending best wishes to you and your DD.

I hope she's better soon. I'd be considering sueing the hairdresser!

It's fine if you're not there, as long as someone is. I'm sure you can go back and visit for an hour or so during the day?

Oh my gosh op how awful!

Hopefully it will not need a skin graft. Don't be put off posting for support by a small number of posters.

So far so good OP. Weird about the hairdresser. Perhaps they are horrified though and don’t dare get in touch.

Who else has done wrong?

Bloody hell you lot. ‘Mother’ isn’t the only significant figure in a child’s life! As if we don’t have enough to deal with, now it seems there isn’t even anywhere a woman can turn to for support without being dragged back fifty years to when we had to carry the entire ‘care’ load. The OP knows her child (and herself) better than anyone here and is absolutely entitled to take some time to process and gather strength for the days ahead. The child hasn’t been left alone.

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You need to take care of yourself OP to ensure that you are able to have the reserves to be there for your daughter.
Sending you strength

I'm sure her DD would have implored her Mum to find a way to stay if she truly needed her for whatever reason.
At 16 I would have found it quite odd for my Mum to sit and...I don't know...watch me sleep when she could go home, knowing I was in a safe place, and that Mum needed to be at home for my younger siblings.

I think it's a dig at OP for not staying overnight.
MN is so odd.
On posts where parents are anxious about their 16 yos going abroad, catching trains, staying home alone, drinking at parties etc etc, people are very quick to say they were living independently, had no need for any sort of parent involvement since the age of 14, were babysitting for 3 under 4s etc.

Either our 16 yo are young adults and can manage while parents look after their own welfare, or they're not.

A 16 year old in Scotland can leave home get married

There is no reason for anyone to sit overnight in a hospital with a 16 year old.

@Nightmarehairinjury I'm so sorry to read this. The poor wee thing. How does she seem today?

Can you clarify who else has done wrong? Maybe the father?

There's an equal amount of what iffery and mental gymnastics going on here to both absolve and condemn OP. In reality, no-one knows, do they?

So probably best for people to reserve judgement then. Rather than getting the boot in. The OP came here for support and might as well have been put in the stocks.