Daughter in hospital - full thickness burns

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Title says it all really. I took dd to have her hair coloured today - and she's ended up in burns ward, with full thickness chemical burn on her forehead and a 50/50 chance of needing a skin graft. WTF??? Can't believe it.

Am in bits.

(have namechanged)

I am sorry about your Mum but you do NOT leave a 16 year old in hospital alone
It will be hard but a lot of parenting is
Unless there is another trusted adult with her you need to go back there right now

What an unpleasant and unkind post. One of many unfortunately. You’ve no idea of the situation. To state that the OP simple has to have spent the night there as a matter of fact is ridiculous. There could be plenty of good reasons that that might not have been the right decision.

I'm glad she's had a good night - Im so sorry this has happened to her. Fingers crossed she continues to improve. Thinking of you both

As I said UNLESS there is another Trusted adult.
I have no need of any more information than that
IF there is one then of course its Ok for OP to leave (as long as her DD is ok with it) but I know my kids would want their Mum there.
Nothing unkind about it

OPs second post states the girl is not alone.

I'm sure it's not someone she picked up outside McDonald's and asked to sit with her injured daughter.

There is not alone and then there is your Mum (or Dad)

Anyway, I hope Op's DD recovers well and that The hairdresser takes full responsibility. I hd a perm burn once and it was nasty

I cannot believe that six pages in you haven’t read any of the OPs updates. DD is not on her own and is being looked after. OP clearly had a very recent distressing experience when her mum died in hospital and it’s triggered an entirely understandable trauma response.

DD is 16 and likely on an adult ward so it won’t be open visiting because it’s not a life threatening situation. OP doesn’t need to be unnecessarily guilt tripped because you can’t be bothered to read properly before you post to put the boot into an already difficult situation.

SHE IS NOT ALONE. AND EVEN IF THERE WAS NOONE ELSE WITH HER SHE STILL WOULDN'T BE ALONE AS SHE IS IN AN NHS HOSPITAL WARD.

That’s a huge assumption

This is very shocking and distressing, I'm so sorry op 💗🙏🏻
I hope your daughter makes a full recovery and the hairdresser compensates her for what happened.

And if the hospital ask you to leave because the 16 year old isn't on a children's ward and visiting hours are over?

DD is 16 and likely to be on an adult ward. So the visiting rules won’t be the same as for children and will be set times. OP has posted several time to say DD is fine and is being looked after, so maybe stop with the covert criticism of OPs parenting skills. You have no idea what she went through connected with her mothers’ death, which was clearly enough to trigger an understandable trauma response. DD is not a baby and the injury is not life threatening.

Yes, this was the case for us when my DS was admitted to our local hospital when he was just turned 16. 16 year olds are on adult wards here. The nurses let us stay on the ward til he was settled and then it was normal visiting times only. I didn't get to accompany him to theatre like I did when his younger brother was in children's ward and there was no possibility of anyone staying overnight. Going back in the middle of the night might not even have been an option for the OP.

Dear Lord

😆😆

Has that happened?
If OP mentioned that I must have missed it, if thats the case then apologies to OP

Exactly this. I’ve been in and out of hospital all my life and at 16 l was pretty much always treated on adult wards, so visiting was restricted to set times.

Nope.

The lack of empathy on the thread for a trauma response to what, quite obviously, was a very recent horrendous experience for OP is quite shocking.

Never mind whether the hospital allows family members to stay and all that, some people do really struggle in situations like this, or even just as a one off due to other stresses. When our eldest son was little, he had a febrile convulsion and I, the person who did everything for him, was rendered completely useless. DP called 999 and went through all the necessary stuff on the phone as they asked him to perform various checks, while I paced up and down in the hallway, an absolute gibbering wreck. DP (who doesn’t drive) accompanied him in the ambulance and I drove to the hospital separately. By the time I got there, I was calm and ready. If he hadn’t had another parent/family member, obviously it would have had to be me. But just once in my life, I was the one who had the ‘luxury’ of falling apart. There have been many emergencies involving both of our children since (one of whom has a chronic illness) and I have been there every step of the way, so I don’t feel guilty. On that particular occasion I was getting over an ectopic pregnancy. There is unknown shit in people’s lives. And even if there isn’t, it’s horrible to judge.

Not clear but if she’s been admitted as a matter of urgency, at 16 she’s more than likely to be on an adult ward.

For the future solicitor, take photos. You will need these to ensure your daughter obtains proper compensation.
Look on your home insurance to see if you have legal expenses but you may know you already have a separate policy; otherwise a “no win, no fee” solicitor.
This is extremely serious and the hairdresser should have an insurance policy to deal with these sorts of mistakes.
Give your daughter a huge hug and deal with each day as it comes but make a record of her progress.

She is 16 with a non-life threatening injury. It is not unlikely that she's on an adult ward.

For goodness sake please read the thread. She is not alone

Just what I was thinking. These threads really do bring out the very dregs of MN.

On a side note I was 17 when I had my first operation. My mum dropped me off and came in with me but once I was settled / checked in she was asked to leave. I waited on the (adult) ward without her, went down to theatre without her, came round without her, and stayed on the ward until she was allowed in for visiting hours or when she came to pick me up the next morning.

Honestly the main thing I remember is boredom (this was pre-smart phones and I was too dozy to read my book). As nice as it would have been to have her there, I really don't know what it would have achieved beyond us both being bored.