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Daughter in hospital - full thickness burns

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Nightmarehairinjury · 22/10/2025 23:00

Title says it all really. I took dd to have her hair coloured today - and she's ended up in burns ward, with full thickness chemical burn on her forehead and a 50/50 chance of needing a skin graft. WTF??? Can't believe it.

Am in bits.

(have namechanged)

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rainbowunicorn · 22/10/2025 23:54

SnowFrogJelly · 22/10/2025 23:47

But she’s 16 and needs you there

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Stop it. Just stop. You dont have a clue what the OPs family dynamic is. The daughter has someone with her and is being cared for. Stop trying to guilt trip someone when they are clearly struggling.

Funnywonder · 22/10/2025 23:55

Nutmuncher · 22/10/2025 23:26

yeah, definitely one big example why 16 year olds shouldn’t be getting their hair dyed unnecessarily. Scarred for life, poor thing. I hope they mange to disguise it as much as possible op and that she’s ok.

I suppose it would’ve been ok if she was scarred for life at 18🙄

odwaako · 22/10/2025 23:56

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 22/10/2025 23:42

That sounds awful, hope she is OK in the long run @Nightmarehairinjury

Different situation but as a child my dad fell into an open fire and his mum checked every room but the one with the fire in it. He ended up with severe burns but once healed he never had a single scar. Hopefully your dd will be lucky and had medical intervention early enough to prevent serious harm.

I hope your hairdresser has insurance!

In the kindest way i think you should be with her though. She will be terrified and she needs her mum. I appreciate that it is triggering, but this isn't abiut you and your feelings it is about a scared child. Please try and be there for her. This is one of those pivotal moments that will define your relationship for life. I am.notnteying to make you feel worse, but as a teen around the same age I underwent a serious op and my parents just left me there alone. I was terrified, alone, very sick after the anaesthetic and puking blood for hours. I just wanted my mum. Please think about it.

She isn't alone.

rainbowunicorn · 22/10/2025 23:56

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Does it make you feel good to come on a forum and berate someone who is clearly struggling? What exactly are you trying to achieve except sticking the boot in.

SnowFrogJelly · 22/10/2025 23:57

rainbowunicorn · 22/10/2025 23:54

Stop it. Just stop. You dont have a clue what the OPs family dynamic is. The daughter has someone with her and is being cared for. Stop trying to guilt trip someone when they are clearly struggling.

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Not trying to guilt trip anyone but I am allowed to voice an opinion

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2025 23:58

odwaako · 22/10/2025 23:56

She isn't alone.

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The poster didn’t say the DC was alone, they said they needed their mum. HTH

odwaako · 22/10/2025 23:58

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Oh, I have. Still, what does it have to do with them?

rainbowunicorn · 22/10/2025 23:59

mullers1977 · 22/10/2025 23:52

Based on her responses, I'm presuming that her daughter doesn't have a parent with her.

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Maybe it just isn't anyone's business who she has with her.

SnowFrogJelly · 22/10/2025 23:59

rainbowunicorn · 22/10/2025 23:56

Does it make you feel good to come on a forum and berate someone who is clearly struggling? What exactly are you trying to achieve except sticking the boot in.

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You seem to be berating everyone who has an opinion about the situation does that make you feel good

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/10/2025 00:00

odwaako · 22/10/2025 23:58

Oh, I have. Still, what does it have to do with them?

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Well what does it have to do with you?

odwaako · 23/10/2025 00:00

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2025 23:58

The poster didn’t say the DC was alone, they said they needed their mum. HTH

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PP was recalling how when she was a child she was left alone in hospital and hated it thus OP should return. Except her DD isn't alone. HTH

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 23/10/2025 00:00

I’m assuming dd has her parent oe boyfriend or someone else with her and I agree that she does need you to rest up
tonighr so that you can be there for her properly tomorrow. For goodness sake op don’t spend all night on mums net do defo get some rest so you can be useful in the morning!
your poor girl I hope she heals well. My son had a burn injury (see my post ex dp burnt my baby) and it’s the scariest thing when your child is in such pain. She’s in the best place now!

odwaako · 23/10/2025 00:01

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/10/2025 00:00

Well what does it have to do with you?

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Where did I demand OP answer who her daughter was with or any other information? Oh, I didn't. For the 3rd time, what does it have to do with you?

LillyPJ · 23/10/2025 00:01

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2025 23:58

The poster didn’t say the DC was alone, they said they needed their mum. HTH

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Why does it have to be the mum? There may well be other people DD would like to have there equally, or even prefer.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/10/2025 00:02

odwaako · 23/10/2025 00:00

PP was recalling how when she was a child she was left alone in hospital and hated it thus OP should return. Except her DD isn't alone. HTH

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Your comprehension is a bit shit really isn’t it.

rainbowunicorn · 23/10/2025 00:02

SnowFrogJelly · 22/10/2025 23:57

Not trying to guilt trip anyone but I am allowed to voice an opinion

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Of course you are trying to guilt trip. How do you even know that the daughter needs OP there? You dont know who the daughter prefers to be there. You just took the opportunity to have a little dig at someone who is struggling and looking for support.

suburberphobe · 23/10/2025 00:02

Stop judging a mother when she has come here for support.

Yes. Thank you.

So many of us single parents have no support at all.

Never judge. You might find yourself there one day.....

OP, sorry you are going through this. Here's a hug. From one mum to another.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/10/2025 00:03

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rainbowunicorn · 23/10/2025 00:04

SnowFrogJelly · 22/10/2025 23:59

You seem to be berating everyone who has an opinion about the situation does that make you feel good

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No, it dosent make me feel good that this forum seems to be full of people who will happily try and make an OP feel worse than they already do.

Waitingfordoggo · 23/10/2025 00:04

I’m so sorry about your DD OP. I hope you can get some rest tonight.

As for those expressing ‘opinions’, this isn’t AIBU, it is the chat forum. It seems clear that the OP is shocked and upset and has posted for support, she has not asked ‘AIBU for not being at the hospital with my DD?’ so nobody really needs to answer that question.

odwaako · 23/10/2025 00:05

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/10/2025 00:02

Your comprehension is a bit shit really isn’t it.

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I take it you can't answer as you know it isn't your business. Hope you manage to find something more positive to fill your night.

SnowFrogJelly · 23/10/2025 00:06

rainbowunicorn · 23/10/2025 00:02

Of course you are trying to guilt trip. How do you even know that the daughter needs OP there? You dont know who the daughter prefers to be there. You just took the opportunity to have a little dig at someone who is struggling and looking for support.

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No I was not trying to guilt trip and you have come on this thread to deliberately have a dig at anyone expressing an opinion you don’t like

wind your neck in

SnowFrogJelly · 23/10/2025 00:07

rainbowunicorn · 23/10/2025 00:04

No, it dosent make me feel good that this forum seems to be full of people who will happily try and make an OP feel worse than they already do.

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Bore off

odwaako · 23/10/2025 00:07

So sorry to hear this OP. She's in the best place. Needless to say ignore pps who are attempting to blame you.
I've been in hospital as a child and throughout my life and preferred my dad being there than my mum. You also wouldn't be on best form if you stayed there 24/7. It makes sense for you to get some rest overnight then arriving refreshed to deal with tomorrow. I hope you manage to catch some zzzzz ❤️

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/10/2025 00:07

odwaako · 23/10/2025 00:05

I take it you can't answer as you know it isn't your business. Hope you manage to find something more positive to fill your night.

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You hadn’t asked a question you silly billy. And if you mean to your initial question I answered that in my initial reply quite clearly.