Daughter in hospital - full thickness burns

[Nightmarehairinjury]

Title says it all really. I took dd to have her hair coloured today - and she's ended up in burns ward, with full thickness chemical burn on her forehead and a 50/50 chance of needing a skin graft. WTF??? Can't believe it.

Am in bits.

(have namechanged)

What a delight you are.
On OPs behalf @StiffAsAVicar ....fuck right off

OP, there is no judgement from me. I have had poorly children in hospital and it's a marathon, not a sprint. Mostly i have been there with them but not always. Thinking of you and your dd.

I don’t think op is gossiping. This is going to be a long journey, presumably dd has who she wants there for tonight. It might be better to not be there if op is crying for example. Talking through it on mn or with friends and pulling it together tomorrow isn’t the worst thing ever.

Nothing physically, perhaps, but emotionally, she will need you; everyone needs their parent/s in situations like this.

I'd used colouring for years until one day I felt heat, then pain. Washed it off was left with a large bald circle. My hair did grow back.

My little boy had a burn. Dressings had to be changed every two days for ten days. They discussed a skin graft. Miraculously his skin healed. Being young does help. Take it a day at a time @Nightmarehairinjury

Some 16yo go on adult wards so assume wouldn’t be able to have someone with them overnight

Please take legal advice from someone when you feel able to (but don’t wait too long). And take photos.

Burns wards are so knowledgeable and will know all the best physical and mental help that your daughter needs.

But don’t forget the legal advice.

You wasn’t to know this was going to happen, it’s been a big shock but please go be with her she will want her mum, you can do this xx

As she's actually on a burns ward, they'll have a lot of expertise to help her. And yes, patch tests only work for allergies, not for chemical burns.

That sounds awful, hope she is OK in the long run @Nightmarehairinjury

Different situation but as a child my dad fell into an open fire and his mum checked every room but the one with the fire in it. He ended up with severe burns but once healed he never had a single scar. Hopefully your dd will be lucky and had medical intervention early enough to prevent serious harm.

I hope your hairdresser has insurance!

In the kindest way i think you should be with her though. She will be terrified and she needs her mum. I appreciate that it is triggering, but this isn't abiut you and your feelings it is about a scared child. Please try and be there for her. This is one of those pivotal moments that will define your relationship for life. I am.notnteying to make you feel worse, but as a teen around the same age I underwent a serious op and my parents just left me there alone. I was terrified, alone, very sick after the anaesthetic and puking blood for hours. I just wanted my mum. Please think about it.

This is not your fault. This is due to the hairdresser’s negligence. Please photograph and document everything you can remember as soon as possible, and seek legal advice. This could be the difference re quality of plastic surgery required.

Its always worse to sit with bad thoughts in the dark. If you cant sleep understandably either take a nytol if you have one or put on a side light. When my brain doom spirals putting on a light helps. Try listening to an audiobook or music.

whoever is with your DD you trust them to look after her and thats all we need to know ignore the scapegoat sayers.

fingers crossed for positive news in the morning

How do you know her other parent isn't there? Stop judging a mother when she has come here for support.

OP says DD is not alone. I don't know why everybody assumes people always want their mum. I would have preferred my dad or grandparents in that situation!

But she’s 16 and needs you there

What the hell has it got to do with you?!

It sounds almost unbelievable that hairdressers managed a full thickness acid burn. I have had a few incompetent hairdressers in my forty years of colouring my hair or rather having it coloured for me. I have never seen or heard of such a thing - yes I've heard stories of double process bleaching going wrong but more in terms of hair breaking rather than acid burns. Was your daughter after a dramatic colour change with high lift bleach? Nobody could have foreseen this though and the hairdressers shouldn't have taken the job on if they didn't think they could do it safely. I don't think her age has anything to do with it - it could have happened to somebody of any age.

Oh bore off. She’s chosen to post on a public forum and it’s a really basic question given OP just said she had left her. And obviously there’s a huge difference between leaving her with her other parent (which is clearly fine) or leaving her with the staff in the ward.

So it would be OK if she got her hair dyed at 18 and was burnt?

I wasn't aware burns were age-specific.

Again, what does it have to do with you?

@odwaako this reply was meant for you, the quote failed. Again, bore off.

Based on her responses, I'm presuming that her daughter doesn't have a parent with her.