Simple things that turn you on

[NoRagretsNC]

I could’ve sworn I saw a thread like this but can’t find it now. NC to protect the guilty (me!).

I’m early 40s and had a hysterectomy after a traumatic birth late last year. Hormones all over the place and sub-zero interest in sex since. Given my age and everything that happened I thought that part of me was quietly retiring.

But the other night we were driving home in the dark, DP at the wheel, sleeves pushed up so I could see his forearms, fresh haircut, calm focus, motorway lights flickering across his face… and suddenly BAM! Libido resurrected. Something about those exposed forearms, or his calm focus. I don’t know, but it did something!

If we hadn’t been on the road, I’d have climbed across the gearstick there and then 😅

Been a horny mess since. I’ve also taken to conspicuously peeking when he does press ups, never been so envious of a floor before 🥵

I’m sure it’ll pass soon, but in the meantime I’m enjoying the feeling while it lasts.

What are your simple/unexpected turn-ons? (Yes, I’m looking for ideas 😂)

Why didn’t you post this in the sex topic?

I guess because I thought it’s more about little moments of attraction than actual sex or kinks, just everyday sparks, nothing explicit. But if it’s not right for here I can always ask MNHQ to move it

My DH loves lifting weights.

When he’s doing something/anything and I see all of the muscles on his back, shoulders and arms moving under his shirt or T-shirt I cannot stop staring 😂

That feeling when you take the top off a new jar and there is a pop, phoar.

I hear you OP. Different reasons for my situation (came off the pill a few months ago) but I've gone from barely any interest at all to barely being able to think about anything else. DH is mostly delighted but slightly terrified!

I have a bit of a celeb crush, that helps when DH isn't around 😂

The little dimple in my husband’s shoulder when his arms are raised always gets me and when he’s getting changed after work and he just has his jeans on is a winner 😊

Ah yes - the stuff trashy novels should be based on.

CalmShaker had the kind of willpower that could make saints weep and sinners repent. In the glow of the supermarket aisle, she ran her fingers along the smooth glass of a jar, feeling the faint click of temptation beneath her touch. One twist - just one - and she could have it. But no. Not here. Not yet.

At the checkout, she moved with deliberate grace, sliding her shopping onto the belt like a slow, teasing dance. The cashier watched, spellbound, as CalmShaker’s lips formed a dangerous little smile. Her hand hovered over the lid of a jar, pausing — and then, with a slow wink that could weaken titanium, she let it pass untouched.

At home, CalmShaker unpacked her shopping with the same deliberate patience that had driven the cashier wild. The kitchen was quiet, save for the rustle of CalmShaker's bags for life and the low hum of her fridge. Her fingers brushed the cool glass of the jar again. Alone now, no fluorescent lights, no watchful eyes - just her and the gleam of the lid. She turned it slowly, savoring the moment, her breath catching as the metal gave a soft, satisfying pop. It was more than a sound. It was release — a reward earned through restraint.

(I admit, Iit is possible I might currently have too much time on my hands.)

@AuntyAngela Brilliant! Thank you.
Just this one post was needed to make this a classic thread.

I thought it was established fact that the sexiest possible pose for a male human is rolled up sleeves. In a car. Reversing. One arm on the back of the passenger seat.

I can see it.

Tell me you acted on your urge once you got home!…or wherever you were going!!

First bite..of a chocolate eclair.
Mmm creamy choux pastry chocolate goodness😋😋

Been a horny mess since. I’ve also taken to conspicuously peeking when he does press ups, never been so envious of a floor before

Why not just have sex with your DH?

My DH was putting his fingers through his (too long) hair the other night.

Similar to this...when you thrust a knife into the top of a new jar of coffee...hubba hubba....

Bore off

I’m ashamed to say, I did not 😔 Nothing like getting two exhausted, were perfectly asleep in the car and we clearly stuffed up the transfer so now they’re awake way past bed time and we’re trying desperately to get them back to sleep routine to snuff out any chance of romance 🫠
(so I guess my OP should’ve said had we not been on the road or had the kids in the car!)
I still woke up thinking about the car ride before though 😅

Because DH has his own stuff going on and like most women aren’t expected to be ready at a moment’s notice I don’t expect DP to be either.

@Theonewhogotthecake I genuinely don't understand why you would choose sexual frustration.

This

@PJHarveywe really need to know who your celebrity crush is now!

I’m perimenopausal and know when I’m ovulating by my reactions to men on Instagram. I watched the same thirst trap video of a man folding a fitted sheet at least 3 times in a row the other day, in my defence he was shirtless and did a really good job of folding the corners in!

😍

@NoRagretsNC why would he need to be ready at a moments notice? You said the car incidence happened the other night, is it controversial to suggest acting on your desires?

If we hadn’t been on the road, I’d have climbed across the gearstick there and then

So presumably then he would be expected to be ready at a moments notice! 😆

I’m sure it’ll pass soon, but in the meantime I’m enjoying the feeling while it lasts.

I genuinely don't understand why you wouldn't act on it?

I like when my DH does any form of DIY, he doesn't do it enough though!

I like when I come downstairs in the morning, he's made me a coffee and toast, AND washed up and walked the dog. 😍