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6 in 10 think toilet training isn't necessary?

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dontcomeatme · 19/10/2025 08:34

https://www.netmums.com/child/education/primary-schools/parents-say-potty-training-and-table-manners-not-essential-before-starting-school

"Commissioned by The Department for Education the poll, which included 2,000 parents with children aged under five, found that six in ten parents said toilet training isn’t essential before starting Reception."

I have known for years the number of children entering school still in nappies has risen, many of the schools around here have had to install changing tables and nappy bins etc. But this number has still shocked me! We're in the middle of potty training our 2.5YO and it's not easy at all, but definitely essential!
What's your view on this? If you have DC at what age did you potty train? Or not as the article suggests?

This doesn't include ND or SEN children. Nor is it a goady thread calling parents lazy. Just genuinely curious, I was really shocked reading the article. Although I suppose its good the NHS have made a "get prepared for school" guide for parents.

Parents say potty training and table manners 'not essential' before starting school - Netmums

A new government poll suggests many parents don't see potty training or basic self-care as essential before children start school.

https://www.netmums.com/child/education/primary-schools/parents-say-potty-training-and-table-manners-not-essential-before-starting-school

OP posts:
Soonenough · 22/10/2025 23:20

Many years ago I taught at a private school that also ran some pre school programmes . Many babies were taken by childminders often from an Caribbean / African background. They found the idea of an almost two year old in nappies to be a strange thing . Apparently kids were toilet trained by crawling age traditionally .
One of the entrance criteria to the reception age programmes was the need to be fully toilet trained ( also proof of vaccinations) . Main reason was safeguarding as not vetted to be alone with a child in any state of undress. Even at toilet time , not allowed to help with wiping etc.and always had to have 2 staff present.

KitTea3 · 23/10/2025 00:01

I must admit whilst (to my knowledge) I was definitely toilet trained before starting nursery, I do very much remember still having accidents 😔

But I can't imagine any of us (myself or siblings) going to nursery without having been potty trained at all.

SleepingStandingUp · 23/10/2025 00:19

childofthe607080s · 19/10/2025 08:49

I would have thought that ( disabilities excluded) a right to education would include a right be to be taught how to go to the toilet and that school should be teaching things beyond what we can expect from a parent

Schools don't have the time to be constantly changing kids outfits and underwear and cleaning up because they're doing compulsory toilet training in school. It's absolute9the parents job first and foremost. School should merely be supporting what the parents do

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