Is a man paying for "her" nails really a thing?

[Pebblepoppy]

I don't mean in realtionships with generally shared finances, but in newish relationships.

"A man" should contribute to the costs of her looking the way she needs to for a date?

I've no odea what I've clicked on to get this in my feed, but all of a sudden my FB is full of memes about good/bad men who do/don't pay for nails.

Not a thing I've ever heard of.

Eww. Stop clicking on those links! Patriarchal BS

This reminds me of women who think the man should foot the entire bill for a date because 'he's paying for the pleasure of my company'. It's horrible, pay for your own nails, pay for the food you eat and the drinks you drink - it's called being an independent woman and it's really not that hard. I also think when people say that they probably aren't pleasurable company in the first place...

I don't know what I've clicked on. Probably an add for handcream. It's certainly not the stuff that usually ends up in my feed.

I keep seeing this on Threads. It seems to be a very specific American cultural thing. Possibly rage bait as they call it. It's nonsense as far as I'm concerned.

The argument in the comments on these things is that it costs women a lot more to get ready for the date and that's all for the benefit of the men.

Personally I wouldn't go on a date that requires all that whoever's paying.

looks at own unpainted nails gasp!

However did I manage to navigate the dating pool, meet a lovely man and have a child without this key information?!

A very strange American thing from what I've seen. Makes no sense to me at all.

Ah now, I've learned that your shabby nails reflect very badly on your man, you see...

Back in college, most of the men I knew didn’t like long painted nails, but they weren’t as prevalent then, and porn wasn’t mainstream either, so maybe that perception has changed.

Me either - plus it's not universally true either is it? I've been on dates where I have put more effort into my appearance because I wanted to (not for anyone else) and usually because the location was somewhere a bit special. But equally I have gone on dates involving a romp through the countryside and a pint in a pub - no dressing up/special preparation required. Wellies and a hoody!

Luckily my man doesn't and never has given a shit.....

This is really distasteful.
It smacks of a woman having to dress and and style herself according to how a man wants to see her, not how she wants to be herself.
Puts her on the level of a doll he dresses for his own amusement.

I've seen a lot of those videos popping up in FB reels. I watched a couple with fascinated horror and now the algorithm keeps sending more! They are mostly American and very sexist. The theme seems to be how much would it cost your man to "keep" you (nails, hair, facials, lashes, brows) each month. And that a man should pay for everything but a woman can/should keep her own money to herself. I'd call such women golddiggers but there seems to be a real pride in finding a man who pays.

I had my nails done on Saturday and there was a teen lass in there having hers done too. As her appointment came to an end a bloke strode in and paid the bill. I hoped it was her dad but I'm not so sure ...

I wonder what they have to do in return <boak>.

My nails just grow by themselves? That's a money saver right there.

Pretty sure expecting someone to pay for your nails for a date equates to sugar baby territory.

Painting nails is for self expression. Most men couldn’t give a damn about them. I once asked my DP if he preferred my nails painted or unpainted and he said whatever made me happy. He has never once noticed whether they were painted or not.

Sounds like a cross between rage bait and some kind of commercialised semi-porn fantasy being marketed to women. Where the next step is the man asking to film your hands on his penis, since he’s paid for you. Or where he tells you not to do your nails any more because you’ve given him rights over your appearance.

Social media is getting worse and worse.

I’m American and I’ve seen it with certain subcultures online. It definitely isn’t part of the wider culture. The very idea is offensive in my subgroup.

Ew, it reminds me of those leaked messages between Tim Westwood and a young woman he was dating 🤮
https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/tim-westwood-accidentally-gave-out-22776900

I think this is only if you’re after a certain type man. 😂

Dd got her nails done with a friend for her birthday. I don’t know what sort, but they aren’t her real nails anymore.

Dh took one look at them and just said, god, I’m so glad you don’t do your nails. The last time I had my nails done, I mean like just painted with nail varnish in a nail salon was the day before our wedding. We just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. 🤣

No, I have not seen this anywhere and I’m very grateful.

I’m American and I’ve never seen this. What sort of sub-cultures are we talking about here?

I stumbled down an internet rabbit hole one day and discovered this. I’m not saying more because there are issues of race and class at play.

the thing op has observed exists. Not all Americans follow it.
I’m done

Stop believing Facebook memes mean anything. They don't. They're there to generate outrage and clicks. Ignore them. They are not real life.

But most women that have their nails done have them done because they like having them done and like the look of them. The guy might buy a new shirt for a date does that mean the woman should pay for the shirt because he’s buying it hoping he’ll look nice for her?