Is a man paying for "her" nails really a thing?

[Pebblepoppy]

I don't mean in realtionships with generally shared finances, but in newish relationships.

"A man" should contribute to the costs of her looking the way she needs to for a date?

I've no odea what I've clicked on to get this in my feed, but all of a sudden my FB is full of memes about good/bad men who do/don't pay for nails.

Of course the woman shouldn't pay for the shirt.
And of course the guy shouldn't pay for the woman to get her nails done!

I don't get your point actually..

He obviously is in arrears then haha 😜

You say it’s puts her on the level of a doll he dresses for his amusement my point is she probably has her nails done because she wants them to look nice for her.
The shirt comment was for those agreeing he should pay for her nails because she’s had them done for a date but to point out how stupid that is I flipped it to say a woman wouldn’t pay for a man’s new shirt

Even if she wanted the nails done herself him paying for it gives him ownership. Gives him a say in what she does with her own body. It's pretty sick actually.

I've genuinely never met a man who gives a shit what his girlfriend's nails look like.

In fact the only people who seem to notice/mention nails at all are women and girls.

A male friend said to me that men notice everything!
Doesn't necessarily mean they like painted nails, but they definitely notice!

Agree with this- it’s a woman thing. Women do it for themselves and/or other women I think. It’s not something I’ve ever been interested in and my DH has never commented on my nails in 27 years. I don’t believe I’ve ever commented on his either apart from his toenails because he had a fungal thing and I said that they were disgusting 😂

I’ve seen this on FB too OP. First time I saw it, I probably watched the video or engaged with the comments cause I was trying to understand what it was about. So then the internet thought I was interested and I got more of that content. I haven’t seen any for a while though.

Gay men might be an exception- some gay men would notice and comment, but not many straight men IME.

No, as I said, straight men notice. If they don't comment it's probably because they don't like it, but they definitely notice.

I think he's completely wrong!

Step away from the vacuous numbskulls on FB.

That would be my advice.

I wouldn't expect a man to pay for my nails or hair, but I certainly would expect him to pay for the first date meals and drinks.

I don't think it is a thing, other than in gold digger circles. And TBH, the biggest gold diggers I've ever met where would-be cock-lodging men.

BUT I would absolutely love a bloke who occasionally offered to pay for me to get my nails done.

The nearest I've ever got was a bloke paying for me to have a fanny wax. And we all know why he funded that one-off little treat.

Well that’s up to you. I think it’s a very old-fashioned and regressive way to think/act. Why on earth should they? Just because they are ‘the man’? That’s not a reason, it’s old-fashioned sexism dressed up as chivalry. I pay my own way in this world.

Because they earn more on average is a reasonable opinion imo.
I wouldn't expect it these days, but when I was on a low income I might have done. It is true that we generally have to make more effort.

Unless you ask to see someone’s payslip you have no idea how much they earn. You also don’t know what their outgoings are. I’m sorry but you can’t use the gender pay gap as an excuse not to pay your own way in this world. More of an effort how?

This is quite common in a number of cultures, but it isn't common in the UK or other Westernised cultures. It's just a cultural difference. That's it.

You do you. I don't like the kind of man who expects me to pay on the first date.

I certainly will. I quite like living in 2025 not 1905. If you want to let a man pay for your company then crack on. It’s gross, but crack on.

Do you tell them that before you go out?

Do you not even feel obliged to pay half?
Do you offer to pay on the second date?
Do you ever worry he might think you're a transactional diva and want 'something' back from you in return?
Do you get many second dates?
Are you a Georgian rector's daughter?

I have never asked a man out, and so if he asks, he pays. I might offer to go halves on the second date, but never on the first. It's called being treated like a lady, something which is derided as old fashioned but actually isn't as bad as people make out.

This happened on the current series of Married At First Sight Uk. Could that be why it’s trending? Caused a furore.

Being treated like a lady?

I’m a lady. I pay for what I eat and drink.

What rot.

No it isn’t a thing, unless you’re a grasper.

‘It isn’t as bad as people make out’

That’s the kind of vibe I really love for a first date. Not.

And that’s why I like first dates where no money changes hands.