Could you cope with twin beds for one night?

[AnnaQuayInTheUk]

Just interested in what people think.

Our DC have grown up and left home, so we have two spare bedrooms. One has a double bed in, and is the room we usually give to guests. The other has twin beds in, both 3'6" beds with a small chest of drawers in between them on which there's a bedside light, a few books etc.

We've just had two sets of friends to stay for the weekend. Couple A arrived on Friday night and have just gone home. They got the double room.

Couple B arrived on Saturday afternoon and went a few hours ago (longer drive) and we put them the twin room. When they've visited before they've been the only couple here so have had the double room. They asked if we could rearrange the furniture so that the two single beds could be pushed together as they "couldn't sleep apart". So we ended up having to empty the chest of drawers, lug everything around and reassemble it on Saturday only to do it all in reverse this afternoon.

We've all known each other since uni, all been married for 30+ years and I was a bit surprised that they couldn't sleep with 3ft gap between them for one night. But then I decided maybe I was the exception.

So, for those of you who've been married/together for years, could you bear to sleep in the same room but not the same bed as your partner for one night, or would you have to rearrange all the furniture so that you could snuggle up together?

Exactly my response too!

I've ot read all the replies.
We sleep with me snuggled up to dh. I have do e for 35 years so its mu normal
I would prefer both beds together. However I wouldn't have made a fuss.
In ops shoes I would have said,' yeah if you want the beds together,thats fine' and left them to it.

I think Couple B sound wet. When we go and stay away from home, we are grateful simply to have a bed, wouldn’t think of putting hosts out or to any extra trouble.

Blimey. We were unexpectedly were given twin beds on holiday in Portugal in 2024 for 10 days. And we didn't push them together. It was bliss.

I'm another one whose DH appreciates having a bed to himself on occasion. Apparently I steal the duvet and hog all the space... Even though I like being snuggled up, I wouldn't be remotely bothered for one night, or even two.

Haha… this… I always request twin rooms if we are in a hotel but then I can’t shove him when snoring 😆

Surely the bit where the beds meet is uncomfortable anyway. How ridiculous of them. I would not have wasted any time pandering to that.

Together for 41 years and both DH and I would not like separate beds, I can't even put my finger on why, but even so we would not have asked you to rearrange the room for one night. How long have you been friends @AnnaQuayInTheUk and have you noticed any other quirks during your friendship?

"I'm sure you'll cope!" would have been my response. Twin beds wouldn't have bothered us in the slightest!

No problem at all. In fact, when we moved to our present house, we put two single beds in the bigger spare bedroom. It offers so much more flexibility as one person can use the room or two and it is much easier to change single beds than double. We are also at the stage of life and age where our friends really don't mind single beds and we are happy with this arrangement in other people's homes.

I would not mention it or ask anyone to rearrange, but I do sleep like crap when we don’t share a bed, I use his arm as a pillow every night for years.

DH and I recently went camping and, because I was camping without him as well, I took two twin airbeds instead of a queen. It was awesome! We both loved it. It was like being really young again, when you're not allowed to sleep in each others bedrooms and sneak into the twin bed and then go back to your own to sleep. Plus I then got to wrap myself up in my duvet and blanket and not share it at all. SUCH a good weekend 😀

Ahh okay, that makes sense.
Just think it’s a bit cheeky that you ended having to help, it should have been the couple themselves!

Sounds bliss 😂

I would take a twin over anything less than a super king any day!

They may be lovely people, but that was extremely rude and difficult behaviour.

Of course I/we could cope in single beds. I think your friends were rude.

Couple B.. get a grip!

In addition to them being rude to request a rearrangement of the furniture, this couple are also quite boring if they’re immune to the charms of an illicit single-bed shag.

Makes me feel like a horny teenager again in the days when I had boyfriends whose mums wouldn’t let me sleep over. There’s nothing better than sex in a situation that implies the disapproval of others.

I googled it after commenting!
They could be 3ft 6 wide but that is an extra wide single, 3ft is def the standard single size!
Even so, 3ft is generous enough just for a one off but I have a small double so what do I know! (I am on my own tho!)

@Kelly1969 I'm fairly sure they're whatever the standard width of a single bed is. So probably 3ft. I'll have to go and measure!

But as you say, that's still plenty of space. DH and I share a 5 ft bed so the single beds are more space per person than that.

That makes it even more weird then!

it wouldn't bother me, but I could almost understand it if they never slept apart.

hopefully this thread reassures you that your 'normal' & you can just shake your head & stop thinking about it.

Well since most of the rooms in hotels we stay in have this setup not sure why it would bother me so bad for a few nights

Yes I would have thought it obvious, not sure why the poster questions it like that!!

I feel that as ‘lovely’ as you think this friend is, she is not such a lovely friend to couple a. She (or he and she ) were making a not very subtle point that they felt entitled to the double bedded room. I’m surprised more pp haven’t picked up on this. In her head they travelled further or are better friends or whatever and she’s also making it clear what she will expect for future visits.
I imagine there are other ‘little’ issues too but you can’t see them or genuinely don’t mind.

I have close family members like this, they start off saying they don’t mind x or y. But then quickly assert their specialness around most issues such as food, seating arrangements, all kinds of stuff!

If it wasn’t that big a deal you wouldn’t have posted, I suspect you know that most couples lucky enough to be staying for free at a friends would be happy with any clean, comfortable beds.

He has 2 rooms with only single beds in. I think we are beyond squeezing in to a single now.