Could you cope with twin beds for one night?

[AnnaQuayInTheUk]

Just interested in what people think.

Our DC have grown up and left home, so we have two spare bedrooms. One has a double bed in, and is the room we usually give to guests. The other has twin beds in, both 3'6" beds with a small chest of drawers in between them on which there's a bedside light, a few books etc.

We've just had two sets of friends to stay for the weekend. Couple A arrived on Friday night and have just gone home. They got the double room.

Couple B arrived on Saturday afternoon and went a few hours ago (longer drive) and we put them the twin room. When they've visited before they've been the only couple here so have had the double room. They asked if we could rearrange the furniture so that the two single beds could be pushed together as they "couldn't sleep apart". So we ended up having to empty the chest of drawers, lug everything around and reassemble it on Saturday only to do it all in reverse this afternoon.

We've all known each other since uni, all been married for 30+ years and I was a bit surprised that they couldn't sleep with 3ft gap between them for one night. But then I decided maybe I was the exception.

So, for those of you who've been married/together for years, could you bear to sleep in the same room but not the same bed as your partner for one night, or would you have to rearrange all the furniture so that you could snuggle up together?

My DH would probably have been delighted to have a little holiday from me thrashing around in my sleep!

I would have requested separate rooms. The other couple would have been thrown out!

Tbf, my oh snores, I need to roll him over so being in the same bed helps with that, but I’d suck it up for a night and certainly never make it an issue for the host.

I think your friends were rude tbh

Absolutely crazy - and then all the people here saying they couldn't possibly sleep apart from their dear halves are the ones who call their babies clingy and make them cry in bed for wanting the company of a parent to fall asleep

Brilliant!

We would push them together but I wouldn't dream of doing this in someone else's home so we'd probably just jump in to a single together.

I'm with @EerieDecorations - you might just have had to provide earplugs or a poking stick as it's a long reach when the snoring starts.

My dp and I don't live together (kids, although close we're in different towns) but we both sleep better when we're together. Although I do feel like we have the best of both worlds at the moment!

But I can't believe they asked you to move furniture around for one night. That's crazy... and they weren't apart, they were in the same room. I would have been massively irritated tbh.

That's ridic. We'd happily sleep in separate beds.

If we wanted to 'cuddle' (eg fuck in your spare bedroom), we'd just do that in one of the beds and then move.

My idea of hell is falling asleep in someone else's arms/face/armpit.

My DH died last year so not a current option. However, if twin beds were provided instead of a double, that was fine.

I’d love it. Separate rooms even better!

Sounds ridiculous

Your friends are being ridiculous! Are they codependent and clingy?? I just can’t imagine getting to this point with my partner…it’s so nauseatingly suffocating!! 🤮

Sorry for your loss

They are behaving in an extremely pedantic way for one night.

It really doesn’t matter for one night and they shouldn’t expect furniture to be moved to accommodate.

I would have just left them to it

Me too!

Been married 15 years, wouldn't bother me. Might bother hubby a little because he's 6ft5 and his feet would stick out the end but wouldn't complain. In my opinion, your friends were rude! If they're that bothered, book a hotel!

I did wonder if they wanted a shag and they thought it would be tricky in a single bed.

I know you don't think they were being rude OP but that doesn't change the fact that they were rude. It's incredibly ill mannered to ask your hosts to move the furniture around when they've kindly provided a bed for the night. You are not a hotel.

I also don't think it's any indication of how close they are as a couple. DH and I have been together for years and are still totally, hopelessly in love with one another. But we would happily sleep in twin beds if staying with friends. I'd actually be more inclined to think your friends that "couldn't bear to be apart" for one night are very insecure.

Me too 😂😂😂

I'm in my own room with a single bed so that's my answer.

However the next time your friends visit and there's no room, tell them you won't be able to move the chest of drawers this time as it took some damage or something and they're welcome to book in somewhere and visit to leave at bedtime.

Have you actually ever said no to this person OP? I'm wondering if you think they're so lovely because they seem to be able to make you bend to their will quite easily.

I'd have laughed. And then told them to get a grip and piss right off...

For 1 or 2 nights at a friend's absolutely we'll sleep apart. A weekend or more in a hotel we'd push the beds together

I suppose if they both work away a lot then maybe they treasure every night they get to spend together.