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Could you cope with twin beds for one night?

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 19:15

Just interested in what people think.

Our DC have grown up and left home, so we have two spare bedrooms. One has a double bed in, and is the room we usually give to guests. The other has twin beds in, both 3'6" beds with a small chest of drawers in between them on which there's a bedside light, a few books etc.

We've just had two sets of friends to stay for the weekend. Couple A arrived on Friday night and have just gone home. They got the double room.

Couple B arrived on Saturday afternoon and went a few hours ago (longer drive) and we put them the twin room. When they've visited before they've been the only couple here so have had the double room. They asked if we could rearrange the furniture so that the two single beds could be pushed together as they "couldn't sleep apart". So we ended up having to empty the chest of drawers, lug everything around and reassemble it on Saturday only to do it all in reverse this afternoon.

We've all known each other since uni, all been married for 30+ years and I was a bit surprised that they couldn't sleep with 3ft gap between them for one night. But then I decided maybe I was the exception.

So, for those of you who've been married/together for years, could you bear to sleep in the same room but not the same bed as your partner for one night, or would you have to rearrange all the furniture so that you could snuggle up together?

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bluebettyy · 05/10/2025 19:32

Are they joined at the hip like lovesick teenagers? How pathetic.

Luna6 · 05/10/2025 19:33

How needy and entitled. I’m sure they could have spent one night in separate beds.

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 05/10/2025 19:33

Are they particularly large in frame? I wonder if it was more from the angle of feeling oversized in a single bed, and pushing them together may gain some rolling space.

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DisforDarkChocolate · 05/10/2025 19:34

I'd have been fine for a weekend.

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 19:35

Our friends are lovely, so please don't think they were being rude.

I actually thought they were getting a better deal - the double bed in the other room is literally that, a 4'6" double. I'd much rather have a 3'6" bed to myself than share a standard double!

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SepticPegsSepticLeg · 05/10/2025 19:36

How pathetically co-dependent.

Even my husband who is the neediest, clingiest man known to human kind can cope with a couple of nights of twin beds.

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 19:37

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 05/10/2025 19:33

Are they particularly large in frame? I wonder if it was more from the angle of feeling oversized in a single bed, and pushing them together may gain some rolling space.

No, they're about the same size as DH and me. I'm a size 10 and DH is a 32" waist, 40" chest

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Livpool · 05/10/2025 19:37

I’d love it!

pilates · 05/10/2025 19:38

I would love it. DH is always encroaching my space!

TheCurious0range · 05/10/2025 19:39

I'd rather twins than twins pushed together. Last time we stayed somewhere with that set up I ended up falling in a gap in the middle of the night that hadn't been there when we went to bed! I actually prefer twins than a double, DH is 6'4 and just takes up all the space in a double anyway.

When I stay at my grandma's (she lives a few hours away but I always stay with her when I'm that way for work rather than in a hotel I like the company and so does she) she has a large single with a double duvet on it in her spare room and it is so comfortable and cosy, my whole life she had always had the most comfortable mattresses and pillows. The bigger spare room is her craft room now.

NuffSaidSam · 05/10/2025 19:40

The only thing I can think is that one of them (or both of them) is the type who gets thrown with any slight change in sleep routine, like people who can't sleep anywhere other than their own bed. Maybe they needed the closeness of the other one to sleep well.

I wouldn't have minded as long as they helped to move the beds.

It wouldn't bother me, but I'm weird in other ways so I'm perhaps more tolerant of other people being weird!

Bluebluetuesday · 05/10/2025 19:40

It all sounds a bit performative, I wouldn't have indulged them.

Pollqueen · 05/10/2025 19:41

Would not bother me at all and DP has just said he would love this permanently which may warrant a whole new thread 😀 (I snore like a rabid warthog)

SepticPegsSepticLeg · 05/10/2025 19:42

Oh gosh this has just reminded me that my BF husbands actually SULKS if he can't sleep next to her.

Dry like the Sahara.

NutButterOnToast · 05/10/2025 19:42

BreakfastOfChampignons · 05/10/2025 19:26

Id rather sleep separately in a single than share a double with my husband. We have a super king at home and now can't share a smaller bed and actually get a worthwhile night's sleep

This.

If we go on holiday with friends I always volunteer us to have the twin room if there's only doubles.

Can't sleep in a double with DH any more.

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 19:42

@NuffSaidSam they did help with moving the furniture.

The weird thing is that both of them travel a lot with their jobs so they must be used to sleeping alone.

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Sadcafe · 05/10/2025 19:43

Quite enjoy the occasional twin bedded room

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 19:44

Bluebluetuesday · 05/10/2025 19:40

It all sounds a bit performative, I wouldn't have indulged them.

I really don't think it was, they are so lovely. It genuinely felt like they couldn't bear that 3' gap and made me think maybe DH and I aren't as close as we think we are..... This set up wouldn't bother us in the least

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HoneyButterPopcorn · 05/10/2025 19:46

One night? I wish lit bedroom was big enough for a 50s TV sitcom set up!

TheNightingalesStarling · 05/10/2025 19:47

I'd find it odd in a hotel we've booked as a couple but not kipping at a mates.

But DH usually sleep 300miles apart and are used to out own space.

(I do find the single duvet at my parents house rather uncomfortable though. The bed size is fine, but the not the covers!)

Sassylovesbooks · 05/10/2025 19:47

We went to Turkiye on holiday this year, our son had a sofa bed in the lounge and our bedroom had twin beds. Obviously, I much prefer to snuggle up to my husband at night, but we coped for a week in twin beds! We've been married 17 years, and yes could cope perfectly well for one night in a twin beds!

OddBoots · 05/10/2025 19:49

I would prefer it - dh and I have a super king and separate duvets so never sleep well in a double with a shared duvet - not that we would express this when guests anywhere.

Screamingabdabz · 05/10/2025 19:49

I’m in the “how pathetic” camp. Jeez. People are odd.

InfoSecInTheCity · 05/10/2025 19:50

Yes of course. It’s one night and they were mere feet apart in the same room. At most I would have given them permission to move the furniture themselves as long as they put everything back before leaving, but I wouldnt have been lugging furniture around for them.

BCBird · 05/10/2025 19:51

Went on holiday to Cornwall with partner. He was not happy we had twin beds. It was that or a double without an ensuite- absolutely not. Mid 50s- need loo in night!! U can cuddle in a single if u want.