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Could you cope with twin beds for one night?

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 19:15

Just interested in what people think.

Our DC have grown up and left home, so we have two spare bedrooms. One has a double bed in, and is the room we usually give to guests. The other has twin beds in, both 3'6" beds with a small chest of drawers in between them on which there's a bedside light, a few books etc.

We've just had two sets of friends to stay for the weekend. Couple A arrived on Friday night and have just gone home. They got the double room.

Couple B arrived on Saturday afternoon and went a few hours ago (longer drive) and we put them the twin room. When they've visited before they've been the only couple here so have had the double room. They asked if we could rearrange the furniture so that the two single beds could be pushed together as they "couldn't sleep apart". So we ended up having to empty the chest of drawers, lug everything around and reassemble it on Saturday only to do it all in reverse this afternoon.

We've all known each other since uni, all been married for 30+ years and I was a bit surprised that they couldn't sleep with 3ft gap between them for one night. But then I decided maybe I was the exception.

So, for those of you who've been married/together for years, could you bear to sleep in the same room but not the same bed as your partner for one night, or would you have to rearrange all the furniture so that you could snuggle up together?

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BauhausOfEliott · 05/10/2025 22:10

idkbroidk · 05/10/2025 21:46

is there a reason why you HAVE to?

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Presumably because there are two spare rooms and each of them only has a single bed in it?

I mean, it’s not a complicated scenario to imagine.

Freud2 · 05/10/2025 22:13

Ciderapplevinegar · 05/10/2025 19:17

My husband is delighted when we go somewhere and it's a twin bed set up 😂

Prefer separate beds and separate rooms - we both sleep better that way! 😆

aperollingintotheweekend · 05/10/2025 22:17

no issues here

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2chocolateoranges · 05/10/2025 22:18

dh and I would just have slept in the room without any complaints, tbh we would probably both have squeezed into one single bed until one of us fell asleep and then the other would have moved to the empty bed!

MissDoubleU · 05/10/2025 22:19

One night? Making your friends shuffle furniture for one night is incredibly weird. They can’t sleep a few feet apart, in the same room? God forbid one of them spends a few nights in hospital.

It’s incredibly entitled behaviour. You were kind enough to host them.

CandelabraCat · 05/10/2025 22:19

In terms of preference, I’d much rather be in a double bed with DP. Single beds just feel childlike, although I appreciate that’s daft as there’s plenty of space for one! It’s more of a thought association, I guess. I travel quite a lot for work but double beds are normal even for single occupancy in hotels. But, to answer your question - yes, of course we could “cope” and we’d never grumble or suggest moving furniture!

3678194b · 05/10/2025 22:20

Wow! Many couples I know not only have separate beds but separate rooms.

BauhausOfEliott · 05/10/2025 22:21

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 21:13

I need to reiterate that they are lovely people. They weren't rude or difficult, and I wasn't at all put out about this. I posted to ask because I was intrigued as to whether or not DH and I are weird for this not bothering us.

Requesting that the furniture be rearranged in someone else’s house - especially entailing a heavy chest of drawers being emptied - because you don’t want to sleep in twin beds for one night is pretty much the definition of rude and difficult.

It doesn’t matter that they asked nicely. The request itself, regardless of the tone, was intrinsically rude.

MeridaBrave · 05/10/2025 22:23

So odd for one night. Although harder to kick him if he snores.

ClairDeLaLune · 05/10/2025 22:24

DH and I sleep like that when we go to my mum’s - she has single beds in her spare room as sometimes my aunt and cousin come to stay. We’re fine with it, except it’s further for me to reach to whack DH when he’s snoring!

Cherryicecreamx · 05/10/2025 22:25

How rude. I know you said they weren't but I just can't imagine asking someone to rearrange their furniture for a night! And I actually find it alarming that couples need to be THAT close. That 3ft would cause such an issue that they need to raise it ah. But maybe I'm not the right person to comment because I love my space.

ClairDeLaLune · 05/10/2025 22:25

MeridaBrave · 05/10/2025 22:23

So odd for one night. Although harder to kick him if he snores.

Haha @MeridaBrave i know how you feel!

MissDoubleU · 05/10/2025 22:25

BauhausOfEliott · 05/10/2025 22:21

Requesting that the furniture be rearranged in someone else’s house - especially entailing a heavy chest of drawers being emptied - because you don’t want to sleep in twin beds for one night is pretty much the definition of rude and difficult.

It doesn’t matter that they asked nicely. The request itself, regardless of the tone, was intrinsically rude.

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It absolutely was rude and entitled, no matter how you spin it.

It also feels like they were making it a deliberate issue to assure in future you give them the other room. Even if they only stay one night you’re more likely to put them in the room with the double bed and push the polite couple to the separate beds because now the precedent is set. They won’t sleep apart, you’ll have to shuffle things. It’ll just be easier for the first couple to spend two nights in the twin beds.

I wouldn’t be having it. Next time I would be telling them straight you aren’t faffing with moving heavy furniture so if they can’t cope two foot apart they can pay for a hotel. Simple enough.

ZenNudist · 05/10/2025 22:27

I prefer a king sized bed but no way would I put a dear friend out moving furniture. Whatever you might think about her being "lovely " that was shitty entitled behaviour. Put up and shut up for one night.

I think it was her way of signalling she's to get the preferred room next time

bouncydog · 05/10/2025 22:28

Ponderingwindow · 05/10/2025 19:28

There is a reason I have a super king bed at home. I love my husband, but I want my space. I would massively prefer the twin beds over being forced to squeeze into a double. That would be a horrible night of sleep.

@Ponderingwindow totally agree! All of our bedrooms have superking beds for that very reason. As for Anna’s guests they’re a bit wet - if they didn’t like the set up why didn’t they move the beds themselves?

mindutopia · 05/10/2025 22:30

Yes, that’s wonderful. Having to squeeze into a double with Dh is a downside of travelling anywhere. Dh, on the other hand, would be annoyed because he thinks we should love squeezing into the smallest bed possible and be super together all the time. I just want to sleep. Comfortably. And be able to roll over. Dh would be annoyed, but would keep it to himself politely enough. He’d probably be mostly annoyed at how thrilled I would be. 😂

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 05/10/2025 22:35

I would be fine but I actually think it’s kinda sweet they want to sleep together.

Since you say they are lovely I’d just think it was kinda charming.

Vodkamartini3olives · 05/10/2025 22:35

It wouldn't bother me but like you I'd be happy to make a quick adjustment if it made my friends feel more comfortable.

CountryGirlInTheCity · 05/10/2025 22:41

Yes, bonkers for one night! I’d probably initially hop in with DH for a cuddle and then nip across to my bed, where the sheets are cool (DH is always roasting hot) and unwrinkled (DH is a fidgety sleeper) for a lovely night’s sleep!

At home we have a king sized bed, anything smaller is a nightmare so twins would be better for us.

bert3400 · 05/10/2025 22:45

That is definitely batshit crazy, been with DH 28yrs. I absolutely wouldn't mind sleeping in twin beds at all....I would need a long pokey thing though, for when he starts snoring 😁

Ally886 · 05/10/2025 22:47

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 05/10/2025 21:13

I need to reiterate that they are lovely people. They weren't rude or difficult, and I wasn't at all put out about this. I posted to ask because I was intrigued as to whether or not DH and I are weird for this not bothering us.

They be lovely and only you can say if their tone was rude or not.

What I will say OP is your friends are massive weirdos! I couldn't be friends with people so performative that their love would not survive the width of a bedside table 😂

TheDenimPoet · 05/10/2025 22:49

You should have directed them to the nearest hotel if they really wanted a double bed. How rude! I can't imagine complaining about something if my friends were kind enough to have me over at their place.

Treesarenotforeating · 05/10/2025 22:54

After I broke my arm we slept apart for six weeks as I was in plaster
it was bliss ( apart from my bust arm)

Webbedlife · 05/10/2025 23:00

I've been married 30+ years and am quite happy to sleep in a twin bed if I'm away somewhere. I sleep better in a single but have a king-size at home.

honeylulu · 05/10/2025 23:03

Silly wet couple. I would have said er, ok, feel free to move the furniture but please put it back afterwards. I can't believe you "had" to help because one half of the silly wet couple had "gone to the pub with the men". Surely silly wet husband should have helped silly wet wife heave furniture around.

In answer to the original question I'd slightly prefer a double just because it's more like home. But I wouldn't be the least bit bothered of it was a twin for a night or two or even longer.