So dh has shhhhed my loud laugh a few times now, and I’m not sure about how I feel about this ?

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Ok so I’ve been told I have a loud laugh by a couple of people now
but I’ve noticed now that dh if we are out somewhere and I laugh he will go shhh
he does it every quietly and sheepishly

but I don’t know what to make of it
I mean I can’t really control how loud I laugh

Loud laughs are really annoying. I'm sure you can laugh more quietly if you try.

You absolutely can control this

It's a bit awkward all round. He definitely should not be shushing you. But surely you can control your volume. Also how often are you belly laughing in public around him? I mean, he doesn't sound like a fun/funny guy!

Of course you can control it.

I mean he is probably being mindful of people around you both. You can control how loud you are.

Why can't you control how loud you laugh when you are out and about?
At home? Laugh as loud as you like

My laugh is loud. But not always. Maybe it depends how funny something is. Or how unexpected the cause of the laugh is. I can do a very quiet sneeze though🤣

Sorry OP but loud laughing/eating/farting/talking are not desirable in public, and he's trying nicely to get you to control yourself a bit. There's no need to get your ducks in a row yet.

Loud laughing in public can be kind of annoying tbh, it’s distracting to everyone else. Loud talking generally is a bit showoffy I think.

He may (like me)suffer from misophonia and his shhhh is a personal rage-shutdown.
When my friend laughed really loudly it "triggered" my misophonia.

I felt rage, I really wanted to shout in her face "oh for fucks sake shut up, shut uppity up, up up nowwwwww". But instead I winced and sometimes did the involuntary shhhh... or left the space...

Does he have issues with any other noises?

I like a loud laugh,
don’t let him dim your laugh.

You can definitely control the volume of your laugh. Maybe your husband is embarrassed by your lack of consideration for other people.

How long have you been together as surely you loudly laughing hasn’t just happened. Why does he have an issue with it now? Did he ever bring this up before, when you first met or started dating?

Just excessively loud talking and laughing is v annoying. As opposed to reasonable level talking and laughing which is lovely and harmonious.

So although it’s bit weird to be told to shush by your DH, he probably has a point (if others have mentioned it too..).

It might take some practice but you can absolutely control how loud you laugh

I’m annoyed just reading about your uncontrollable “loud laugh” so it must be insufferable in RL. Loud, excessively distinctive laughs always seem to be attached to attention seeking types. Is that you?

Of course you can control it.

Is it a shreik? A guffaw? A 'belly laugh'?
Overtly loud laughs always come across as annoyingly attention seeking.

Listen, if your husband is shushing you it is because your cackling is getting out of hand.

Loud laughs are awful. And embarrassing for everyone. Control it or people will be reluctant to be seen in public with you.

Im a loud laughing person that goes from haha to sometimes its just wind coming out like hissing.
But i can get loud depending on what made me laugh.
I spent 14 years plus my childhood being told off told to be quiet etc and being shushed and hushed.
When i got away from all the abuse and found my kind of people ive not stopped laughing.
I do try and control at somethings and will excuse myself but you can still hear me.
But like i said you just have to find you kind of people.
I laugh at what other dont find funny i can crack up about something that happen years ago and still find it hilarious.

Was he there when people told you your laugh was loud? Maybe it's triggered embarrassment at something he didn't mind before.

You can absolutely control it and if a couple of people have mentioned it to you, it’s clearly loud enough to draw attention from others. It is a bit embarrassing to be out with someone who is drawing attention to themselves and being loud.

Presumably context is the key. If you are in the park, laugh as loud as you want. At a comedy show, probably ok, but be aware if you are laughing louder and longer than anyone else, that’s very distracting. If you are in a restaurant, keep it down. That’s just good manners.

I like a really loud sneeze. Proper loud, comes from the boots, scare the birds type sneeze. Rarely, they catch me off guard but for the most part, it is controllable, if a little bit uncomfortable. When I am in public, I keep the noise down. My husband would be quite within his rights to ask me to sneeze quietly if I were around other people. It isn’t about dimming a person, it’s about if causing them embarrassment, unnecessarily.

I laugh at what other dont find funny i can crack up about something that happen years ago and still find it hilarious.
So you can out of nowhere start shreiking and bellowing with laughter at absolutely nothing at all? 🤨

People with a loud laugh just seem to be attention seeking, it's entirely possible to laugh at a normal volume, I'd be sshing you too.