So dh has shhhhed my loud laugh a few times now, and I’m not sure about how I feel about this ?

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Ok so I’ve been told I have a loud laugh by a couple of people now
but I’ve noticed now that dh if we are out somewhere and I laugh he will go shhh
he does it every quietly and sheepishly

but I don’t know what to make of it
I mean I can’t really control how loud I laugh

Janice was a lovely, kind, and generous character and the Friends mocking her were the people in the wrong, not her for laughing.

Because being happy and less stressed equals less wrinkles.
Laughing is good for you.
Its like turning a negative in to a positive or finding the funny in a negative it helps.
My mother hated laughing never found anything funny.
And always negative.
Shes 59 and looks bloody 90 my nan 91 and looks 60 because shes happy and laughing find the funny she says.
Edit to add.
It also piss's boring wanna try to hard sophisticated miserable tut tut eye rolling people off.

If I went on a first date with someone and they had a really loud laugh or a very carrying voice, it would be a deal breaker. I'd struggle to get to the end of the date.

I'd feel a bit rubbish about it if they were otherwise nice, but I honestly couldn't live with it.

My DH does this to me every time I laugh either a bit too loudly in his opinion, or a bit too enthusiastically. I have always hated it as it feels controlling and make a point of telling him. My standard response is ‘you knew I sometimes laughed like this, yet you chose to marry me.’ That usually shuts him up.

I'm a right miserable arsehole and look about 15, make of that what you will 🤷‍♀️

What @Bippybop said 😁

Three women sat behind me on a 3 hour plane flight.. my gosh never heard anyone laugh so loud... ( spoke loud too)
. It was horrendous..

Laughter lines are still a thing right?

What a bizarre comment. He’s asking her to be quieter so that people aren’t bothered by her, why would it be his job to do that for complete strangers?

I think it depends on the kind of loud laugh you have. I used to work in a big open plan office and there were two people with lovely infectious loud laughs that would really crack everyone else up. They were a joy to be around.

But a horrible loud shriek or machine gun type loud laugh. Can’t be doing with those.

If your DH has mentioned it, I’m guessing yours isn’t the infectious lovely kind.

You say you can’t help it, but if you were running away from the Nazis or a big old bear, I bet you could. Not that you’d be laughing at such times I suppose.

Sounds like you’re embarrassing him and others. Of course you can control how loud you laugh…

How very diddly dare you they are called happy lines with good skin care.

Im sure your not a miserable person you just might be around miserable people that make you feel miserable.
Just be you.

My instant reaction is why shouldn't you be yourself? Unless you're noticing a lot of others wincing when you laugh out loud, then I see no reason for you not to be you. But if you want to be sure then why not do a slightly wider poll among few others?

I say this as someone whose husband thinks I talk too loudly. I did a little bit of asking about and the feedback I got was that actually if anything I speak quite softly. I put this down to Husband having grown-up in a very different kind of house where everyone spoke very quietly including him.

She was fecking annoying. But great you liked her.

Honestly - people are such bellends. When people find something funny, genuinely funny, their laugh is pretty much not controlable. Have you never seen someone laugh so much they are almost crying and stuggling to control themselves There is absolutley nothing performative about it. Op don't let that miserable sod control you. Obviously strangers can object to your loud laugh, and can find it annoying. Someone who loves you should absolutely not be embarassed by your normal every day laugh and should not be telling you to laugh more quietly unless you really are somewhere like a cinema or a library. I would struggle to be with someone who was this embarssed by me, I have to put up with it in my teenager but not in my partner!!

yeah it’s really annoying, as is agreed by the majority of responders on this thread. Just stop being so loud, and yes- you absolutely can help it. Have you actually tried?

Rein it in. I also have an annoying laugh. You can control it

No one likes an attention seeker, no one likes to be drawn attention to or be with people that are socially inappropriate and/or a bit disinhibited. It isnt good manners.

My friend has a loud laugh, I love that about her.

Keep laughing, OP. Remember, the majority of MNers seem to dislike most things about most people.

The odd loud laugh if something’s really
funny is fine. Always laughing loudly is annoying and affected. It totally ruins an occasion when someone else is constantly laughing loudly. There’s nearly always one and nearly always female and it seems to go hand-in-hand with attention seeking (like when strangers try and engage you in their conversation) “ooh I’m soo bubbly / so crazy. / so unique” So fucking annoying.

A lot of people are less tolerant now than ever before - I reckon your DH has noticed people looking over or getting annoyed, and is embarrassed.

It’s even more annoying than a tinkly laugh!

Loud laughing can be irritating: think of Sybil Fawlty sounding as if she is machine-gunning a seal.

But shushing someone in public can be just as bad, and infantilising, even your nearest and dearest. Such a thing can put me into a very bad mood indeed.

You have to find a compromise: you try to laugh more quietly, and he resists shushing you.

So you can call us miserable bastards, but you are ok with your annoying loud, show-offy laugh?

Okaaaay then...

I mean, I think I would hate it if my dh had an attention seeking laugh but if he always had it, then I think I'd have to suck it up as it was what I signed up for.
I've always found that it seems to come from people who want the people around them to think they're great fun or having the best time of anyone around them. All happening over here kind of thing.
I love a hearty laugh which I've found is rarely a shouty or screechy laugh .

I have a loud laugh but I absolutely can lower the volume of it needed. If I'm at home, round a friends house whatever then I just laugh without considering volume (unless there's a sleeping child or something) but today for example I was at the dentist with a friend and I absolutely lowered the volume of my laugh to be more appropriate to the setting.
I'm not sure why you say you can't change or control your laugh/volume as its not something I have personally experienced. Telling your DH to lighten up, laugh, laugh louder etc as per your update is pretty out of order IMO