What do you prefer when buying a house?

[CVVFan]

I’m pretty sure I’m in the minority group that prefer either houses that are ready to move in or that are liveable for at least 2-3 years. I never buy based on a vision/project/putting my stamp on it.

We’re selling our house in 4 years, and quite frankly as much as it’s liveable for whoever buys it, it does look outdated.

I think we’re already on negative equity, so we think we’ll at least need to refresh the kitchen somehow (and possibly the bathrooms) the question is how much work is it sensible considering we’re selling it? The whole pint of the remedial work would be to sell it faster and not get cheeky offers because to some it might look more like a project than a liveable house.

The house next had an asking price of more than half of this house…. I’m not naive or stupid in that sense.

And your current property is £1.7mil?

That makes zero sense, that’s double the price of that house I shared.

So I. 4 years buying a property more than double current

Wait a minute

you mean your current property is about £400k

and you’re going to go for an approaching £900k property (but if you’re bringing children, presumably being near good schools in top priority?) in which case….

I have just had a chance to read the thread and see I’m far from alone in thinking both WTAF and also sympathy for you op.

I think that ND assessment will help you

Which in case it would have to be around Golders Green (already on the waiting list) or Sutton. We prefer the SW which is why I shared that house, but haven’t looked that much into the schools around there.

BTW the assessment beyond telling me that I’m officially autistic isn’t going to do anything. There’s no medication or special support, it’s literally just for validation.

A twenty year plan to move to London? You’ve been “counting down” ?
😞

Reason I post is about the larder!… is it standalone? Where do you put it? Do you have a link please?

Well it kind of happened. I never wanted to move here but my then husband basically told me if we don’t move it was divorce and he promised to changed and that we would relocate to the US eventually as my company at the time had already approved the relocation. It turned out that everything was a lie, and he never meant anything he promised. So then we divorced, but then I couldn’t move due to the custody.

so now I’ve been waiting until she goes to uni.

the larder is standalone and it’s from the futon company

Where have you put the standalone larder given the lack of space?

The same DH earning NMW?

The kitchen had like a natural gap that I think was originally for the fridge, so that’s where we put it.

and no, my ex husband is a different one.

Oooo could you post a pic @CVVFan ?

Sure thing!

Could you re post pic please as can’t access

I can see it!

So after all this chat, a free standing large cupboard has been purchased. No movement on the cherished garage conversion that you said was the top priority and work would begin in Jan, but that seems to have fizzled out.

having read the thread, it is very clear why this has been a 14 year plan in the making and will another 4 to go. And it’s not to do with it never being the right time!!

Again it’s basically an 11 year plan in the making with another 4 to go, but not out of indecisiveness.

My main “axis” is value (which I know is very subjective) and moving my office to the garage might not be the “added value” that I thought I would be especially considering the price….

You were told at the outset that the garage conversion would likely result in you not getting any money back and certainly
not making any extra but you still said you’d go ahead because you need storage and storage space.

So another 4 years of wfh in your son’s barely a double bedroom, which also sleeps your
mother for 3 months of the year.

Your life @CVVFan … I think you need to prioritise making a change now and by the sounds of it getting rid of your husband would be a good start

you said you have been “counting down the days” for 14 years to move. Do you really
Not see how depressing that is

It might sound depressing to many but I’m used to it by now, and it is what is!

my plan is to move the bedside table and a mirror out of our oldest son’s room, and then there’s enough space for my desk, plus I have wonderful views of the valley and hills.
the bed will remain there, so my mom can sleepy there.

its only when he comes back from uni that he’ll need to use that room, but I doubt it would be more than 30 days total, so not the end of the world!

It might sound depressing to many but I’m used to it by now, and it is what is!

which is even more depressing.

I hope things improve op

BTW the assessment beyond telling me that I’m officially autistic isn’t going to do anything. There’s no medication or special support, it’s literally just for validation.

it may help you to put to bed the > 10 year plan of getting a £500k mortgage to move to London with a husband who earns peanuts but also offers you no support

How would that change anything? I don’t like it here, why in Earth would I stay?

I agree with pretty much everyone else op

another one wishing you well

I quite frankly find this discourse quite insulting.

This period of my life has been a small parenthesis of my entire life. I’ve achieved most of the things I want, and many more. Things that take time, discipline, and effort.

My priorities sometimes change, but overall my overarching goals have always been met.

Just because my life doesn’t fit the standard narrative doesn’t mean I’m not a successful person in my own right.

you have stayed 14 years with the intention of staying for another 4 years before an unlikely move to London so I suppose posters naturally question whether you will ever move, especially given how just on the issue of the garage conversion in the this thread you went from “yes starting in Jan as it’s a top priority”
to “well neither dh or I have actually made any progress with securing the builders”
to “actually we won’t bother doing that anymore, we will get a big kitchen cupboard and that’ll do”

But I haven’t been able to move out of a shared custody arrangement not out of my lack of will
. I don’t get why people can’t understand that.