Is anyone on here fussed about status in life? Like what Car or House they have etc?

[Benny91]

As I live in South Surrey and all I’m seeing and hearing is people driving brand new cars and also being picky what house to live in. (It’s like they’ve got to show off to fit in with their friends and family!)

As with me I’m not fussy about any status in life and I’m happy with what I’ve got!

This is obviously quite common in Surrey. Does anyone else live there and likes to show off their status?

No. Other people judge me though.

I like my house but I don't judge others on theirs. I don't care about cars and really don't notice other people's apart from colour. I'm impressed by people's university education particularly fancy ones.i don't have a degree myself. If you can do crow pose at Yoga I'm envious.

No, I judge people with flashy cars and houses though.

We have an affordable home as in a 2 bed flat. We could have bought something bigger but we do ok with that size. Its all about the convenient location and a worry about the length of the mortgage.

We have a large German estate for the bells and whistles like cruise control for DH travelling. If push came to shove we'd go back to where we started and something cheap and cheerful.

I really try not to get involved with the Joneses and their children tbh, it just makes you miserable. Comparison being the thief if joy etc.

Nah - I mainly knock about with outdoorsy people (gardeners, hikers, runners, cyclists etc) so none of us really spend time or money on flashy things. I’m another one who spends more time on a bike than in a (9 year old Ford Focus) that’s also an allotment car.

I drifted apart from the one friend who is into all that a few years back. As long as things keep me dry and safe then I’m happy. I think most people have the odd thing they like the nice version of things (for me it’s v expensive soap or nice bedding) but I don’t go for labels or logos. The most important thing for me is that whatever I buy needs to last - the older I get the more uncomfortable I am about our throwaway society.

I own my home and I’ve never moved.
the goal was to be mortgage free as soon as possible.
ive never owned a car.
these things are not important to me.
financial security and money in the bank was more important than a big house and car

No. I used to think that stuff was a little bit important, but now I don’t give a hoot. It’s very freeing, and I now have more money to spend on travel!

Totally agree. On the face of it id immediately say I'm not interested in status at all, drive very old car, bog standard terrace in not a great area but I think on some level I am interested in other people's approval maybe? Not in a competitive way more of a wanting to "fit in" with my social group way but that can also be around stuff of that has no monteterial value at all values , hobbies etc so maybe something different..

I live in a tiny cottage and drive a van that's so decrepit that I occasionally see people pointing at it and laughing. My bike is one my dad found in an overgrown hedge he was cutting back in the 1980s. I've upgraded it with a basket made from a blue mushroom crate.

Status is everything to me.

I definitely care about status. I’m from a poor family with a judgy mother 🤷‍♀️.

I consider my car Fancy, in that it's a 2-seater soft top. However he's quite elderly now, probably worth about 5k. In my eyes, I look cool driving him (though probably not in other peoples opinion!).
Clothes, hair, brands, etc, I really don't care about, possibly because I've never been particularly good looking. Polishing a turd springs to mind!
House - it's important to me that I like it. I don't gaf what anyone else thinks. 🤷

I live in a extremely posh part of Surrey. However even in Haslemere there are council houses, council tennants and people on the bones of their arse.

Is everyone REALLY driving a new Range Rover? Or just the other mums at St Edmonds? 😜

This is so area dependent too. Around here it’s all about having an older or characterful house and nobody wants to live in the new builds or be seen in a white Audi or Range Rover.

Don't live in Surrey, so my input is clearly irrelevant.

Not me. I've got a very old council terrace house and small yard. My car is over 10 years old and covered in scrapes and dents from previous owner. I'm always in leggings and jumpers and don't buy fancy clothes or make up. Colour my own hair. But I'm lucky my children all have their own rooms and our old house has high ceilings and character and its our favorite place to be, my children love our home. But of course i would love a big house and large garden but i didnt do well enough at school to afford one. I dont have any debt which I guess is something.

I do sometimes look at the fancy mums with their stunning make up and lovely clothes and flashy car and wonder if I should make more of an effort but I just don't care enough to put the effort into polishing myself more. Plus I cant afford it. Good on them they obviously worked hard for their lifestyle

I'm too poor for a fancy house, but my car is bloody epic. I wouldn't be seen dead in one of those naff big SUVs, but im very happy in my sports car.

I don’t know about showing off status. However I really dislike is people either assume I am dim (i’m blond and chubby) or not married (I don’t wear a ring). So clearly I care about perception to some extent.

I live in Surrey. I don't see this or know people who buy houses or cars to impress. They buy the houses and cars they like and can afford.

Why do people assume that others want the things they want due to “status”
I live in a nice house and have a nice car because I like them and prefer them to the not so nice house and not so nice car I used to have.

Bit of a sweeping statement…I hike, and cycle, my DP cycles a lot, my dc sea swim and rock climb. We are outdoorsy and have a new car and new house, they are not mutually exclusive.

I like a decent car to get me around. I have no interest in a status car.

I am fortunate to live in a detached house, that’s in good condition. It’s comfortable and feels safe, that’s what’s important to me.

It’s not a sweeping statement at all - I was specifically referring to my group of friends. Don’t pick a fight when there’s not one to be had eh?

Ever hear somebody say "Often the way a person sees the world is a reflection of their soul."?
Try and not have such negative thoughts over things. Things that really don't have anything to do with you.

I don’t know about status. I’ve lived in my house 2 years, it is gorgeous, the most special house I’ve ever lived in. But I didn’t buy it because of status, but because I love the location and the house and I have more money than I used to. Not sure if that’s what you mean.

That’s definitely true here, a long way from the Home Counties.
i have a nice house and a comfy , newish car.
i don’t care what people think of these and I don’t care what they have either.
i did decide a few years ago though that I was done with driving a crappy car and breaking down on unlit country roads. Love having a nice car.