Mum's dead but is she?

[SpuddlingInTheGarden]

Lost my dear Mum 2 years ago. I've got her ashes in a lovely box in my sitting room. We were due to have a family get together to celebrate DS birthday. I was thinking to myself that wouldn't it be nice if when we are all there in the sitting room, she could give us a sign, if I asked her, by flickering the lights to show she is still with us.

Fast forward to DS birthday get-together. I was feeling down and had forgotten about asking her for a sign (I'd have felt very daft anyway!). We were playing a board game and the light flickered for a few times. Everyone noticed. I said nothing.

Wishful thinking?

Not the first experience I've had. I was walking to the estate agent with mum's house keys to hand them over following completion after selling her home (our family home of 50 years). Obviously I was feeling very sad. A few steps away from the estate agent, a small, fluffy white feather floated towards me and literally landed in my open hand.

Yes, probably just a bird flying by, but I felt strangely comforted.

Your Mum is alive in your heart and in your thoughts OP, and always will be.

If these little things give you comfort then good but I think it's just your grief making you read things into coincidental occurances.

I completely think that your Mum is sending you signs. I have asked for signs before and have been given them - they give me great comfort

That’s lovely and we have no idea what mysteries our universe holds. Take all the comfort you can and enjoy memories of your mum x

signs like this or scents suddenly happening are a way of them communicating with us. your mum is still with you and watches over you

She’ll always be with you and your family guiding and influencing you 🌈 . Little moments like these are heartwarming and make you smile inside. Keep looking for those little nudges 😊xxx

I’m sorry for your loss. If you believe these are signs and they bring you comfort, it couldn’t matter less what anyone else thinks. Take strength and love from wherever you can

I think grief is making you construe an ordinary electrical fault and a passing bird into ‘signs’. She’s alive in your warm memories of her, and in her influence on you. I don’t think the effect of having been loved ever dies.

Your mum is in heaven and sending you signs. Consciousness does not end with the death of the body. There are several books in this subject. Read 'Life after Life' by Raymond Moody.

People only die when we stop talking about them 💜

Well that made me cry a little bit. I miss my mum too. I think there is a lot that is past human understanding, and I love the fact that you carry your Mum’s memories so close to your heart.

I don't know if I believe in this stuff but I will tell you about an experience I had that I have no explanation for -

My sister died when I was 12, she was 19. About a year after she died, I was alone in the house, doing some ironing and watching tv. Wasn't thinking about her at that moment in time. Suddenly there was a strong smell of tea rose in the room, her favourite perfume. I actually put down the iron and walked into the hallway where it was coming from. I honestly expected to see her standing there.

I wasn't spooked at all, in fact it was strangely comforting. I felt her presence.

I was really struggling with something I’m having to do regarding dad’s probate etc. I came to a decision and then had a dream about him, and to me that was him sending a sign that my decision was right. I take great comfort in it.

But there is no credible proof it doesnt exist either. To be honest I'm not a believer but I would never make a sarcastic comment about something which brings someone comfort. There was no need to say "snort" or belittle someones comment. This is one of those things that no one will ever truly know the facts on, so if people gain comfort from little signs and want to read books about it, there's no harm in that.

There's so many of these signs that it makes you think.
My boss's mum died and soon after she came into the office and broke down sobbing. On her keyboard was a perfectly white feather, we worked in an closed office that was inside another bigger office that was inside a factory.
Crazy coincidence or signs but lovely either way if they make you feel better.

My cousin suddenly passed away recently, when I was telling my friend we were sitting in my garden and a dragon fly came and rested on my leg. I tried to shoo it away and it landed on my shoulder. My friend joked it was my cousin visiting me. That night I looked up memorial tattoos and found one with a ‘forget me not’ (a flower I have in my garden) and a dragonfly fly and though to myself it’s ment to be! The next day I was in the garden, the dragon fly came back, sat on my son then flew over to the forget me not and rested there. It was my sign to get the tattoo! I got it yesterday. I’ll add a photo of the dragonfly on the forget me not.

You are misreading my very clear post. I said ‘snort’, not to the OP, but to a credulous poster pushing Raymond Moody’s joke books as irrefutable evidence for an afterlife.

If you look at my previous post, when I was addressing the OP, I point out that the OP’s mum is absolutely alive in her warm memories and in the lifelong effects on her of having had a loving mother. Those are important things. Those are huge. And they don’t rest on trying to see signs in ordinary, unrelated phenomena.

Could be. The lights in our house flickered a couple of times and turns out the neutral in the electricity box was burning out, almost caused a fire.

We don't even know the half of what our brains are capable of - genuinely. No one, not even the brightest minds of our (or any) age, has managed to fully understand that one mystery.

So I'm willing to concede there are likely many things about life, the universe, and eternity that we really have no clue about.

And this is my new tattoo.
it gives me huge comfort thinking he approves of my tattoo!

When my dad died many years ago I was standing in our kitchen when I suddenly smelt the cigars that he used to smoke. The smell was so strong I went to see where it was coming from. There was definitely nobody else around nor any explanation that could justify the smell.

I believe in this, through sheer experience that goes way beyond coincidence. I also asked my mum for a sign via the lights (as had happened before), forgot about it and then later that evening or the next one, my DC’s uncharged night light was on. It had been absolutely flat the day before and only lasted about 5 mins

I have wondered about this kind of thing since my mum died. I've always been very skeptical about any kind of supernatural behaviour but a few things have happened that have really rattled me. One is so unusual that even when I try to explain it it sounds made up. One of the most recent was I have worn mams watch regularly since she died. When the battery went it was stopped at her exact time of death. Could be a coincidence but didn't feel like it at the time.

Nope I don’t think so. These things happen all the time (I mean not ‘signs’ but energy surges, feathers and so on). A butterfly flies by when you think of someone suddenly, or for me I saw all these double rainbows after my dad passed away. Coincidence.
I would have thought if the dead had the ability to send some sort of sign or message they’d pick something rather better than a flickering light!

Have a listen to this OP

I don't know if it's really true but I keep an open mind and I do believe there is life after death in some form.