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Millie Bobbie Brown adopts

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wandererofthekingdom · 21/08/2025 18:47

Millie Bobbie Brown and her husband have adopted a baby. It’s so refreshing to hear of a celebrity adopting rather than using a surrogate. Especially as we heard of another celeb using surrogacy yet again this week.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8ry4m80mn7o

Millie Bobby Brown and Jake Bongiovi posing at a premiere in front of branding for Netflix's The Electric State

Millie Bobby Brown and Jake Bongiovi adopt a baby daughter

The Stranger Things star and Jake Bongiovi say they're are "beyond excited to embark on this beautiful next chapter".

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8ry4m80mn7o

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OchreCrab · 23/08/2025 23:50

Arran2024 · 23/08/2025 18:46

In the UK most birth parents and adopters meet up. I adopted in 2001 and met the bps.

The big difference is that UK birth parents can't choose the adopters. Social services approve adopters and the child's social worker then chooses from the pool of prospective adopters. The only issue they can have any influence over is religion of the adopters.

In America, money talks, and adopters are often chosen by birth mothers for the lifestyle they can offer the child, rather than how emotionally stable they are.

Yea but a new birth certificate is made. How crazy is that. instead of just having a legal document saying you have parental responsibilities…. You change a legal document.

weird, right/

Arran2024 · 24/08/2025 09:32

OchreCrab · 23/08/2025 23:50

Yea but a new birth certificate is made. How crazy is that. instead of just having a legal document saying you have parental responsibilities…. You change a legal document.

weird, right/

They get an adoption certificate. It allows them to have documentation which matches their new identity.

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 15:49

Arran2024 · 24/08/2025 09:32

They get an adoption certificate. It allows them to have documentation which matches their new identity.

New identity? So if I was to tell you, that your mum is now the one on the birth certificate and not the one who grew you, gave your genetic make up, who you look like, personality traits, have siblings etc.

it’s cruel

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BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 15:52

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 15:49

New identity? So if I was to tell you, that your mum is now the one on the birth certificate and not the one who grew you, gave your genetic make up, who you look like, personality traits, have siblings etc.

it’s cruel

Oh just give over. Stop trying to campaign to force women to raise children they don’t want to raise and no doubt have because they couldn’t access sex education, contraception or abortion.

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 15:54

BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 15:52

Oh just give over. Stop trying to campaign to force women to raise children they don’t want to raise and no doubt have because they couldn’t access sex education, contraception or abortion.

Educate Yourself please

women choose adoption because they don’t want to parent.

you can respect the adopted person by not making up false legal documents right.

and look at you… not looking at the alternatives to have mothers or families supported. Easier for you to not give two ducks and have babies flushed down the toilet or let your son get his dick wet for no consequence.

BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 15:58

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 15:54

Educate Yourself please

women choose adoption because they don’t want to parent.

you can respect the adopted person by not making up false legal documents right.

and look at you… not looking at the alternatives to have mothers or families supported. Easier for you to not give two ducks and have babies flushed down the toilet or let your son get his dick wet for no consequence.

You think adoption is comparable to flushing a baby down a toilet?

Are you quite well?

Arran2024 · 24/08/2025 16:39

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 15:49

New identity? So if I was to tell you, that your mum is now the one on the birth certificate and not the one who grew you, gave your genetic make up, who you look like, personality traits, have siblings etc.

it’s cruel

Children in the UK who are adopted know exactly who their birth parents are. Every child adopted from the care system is given a life story books, with pictures of birth family and lots of information about them. Most families have letterbox contact at least - some have on line or direct contact. Prospective adopters are expected to honour the birth family and use the life story book, keep up the contact.

The adoption certificate is, for most, a piece of paper in a box. It is not what creates their identity.

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 19:24

Arran2024 · 24/08/2025 16:39

Children in the UK who are adopted know exactly who their birth parents are. Every child adopted from the care system is given a life story books, with pictures of birth family and lots of information about them. Most families have letterbox contact at least - some have on line or direct contact. Prospective adopters are expected to honour the birth family and use the life story book, keep up the contact.

The adoption certificate is, for most, a piece of paper in a box. It is not what creates their identity.

Parents don’t have to tell them.

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 19:25

BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 15:58

You think adoption is comparable to flushing a baby down a toilet?

Are you quite well?

Adoption isn’t comparable.

women choose to either parent or not
parent.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 24/08/2025 19:41

It's very young but I think MBB has an old head on young shoulders and will actually be a great adoptive parent. She's been with her now H for a number of years and seems to be someone who knows who she is and what she's ready for. I would be surprised if she does much acting at least for the foreseeable future, they're obviously both set for life financially and want a traditional family set-up so I don't think it will be some crazy celebrity lifestyle for the child. I'm adopted myself and I agree it's complicated but I don't agree with all the doom and gloom surrounding adoption these days, I think it very much depends on the circumstances.

BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 19:50

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 19:25

Adoption isn’t comparable.

women choose to either parent or not
parent.

And what’s wrong with that? Adoption allows a way for those children to be taken in loving homes who want them.

You compared it to flushing a baby down the toilet. I do hope you have someone in your life who can recognise how unwell you appear and help you get help.

Arran2024 · 24/08/2025 22:10

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 19:24

Parents don’t have to tell them.

The average age of adoption is 3, i think. Most of these children come from highly complex backgrounds and have a lot of ongoing contact with health and other services. The idea that adoptive parents can and would hide it is crazy.

We are not talking about people adopting new born babies like Millie Bobbie Brown has done. We are talking about older children who have not been able to stay with their birth families due to their birth parents being unable to look after them.

These children have to cope with knowing what happened to them as babies plus deal with the moves to foster care, the loss of the foster carer, the constant assessments by social workers and things like foetal alcohol syndrome.

Hardly any children are relinquished in the UK. They are removed by the courts. What do you suggest should happen to these children exactly?

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 22:15

Arran2024 · 24/08/2025 22:10

The average age of adoption is 3, i think. Most of these children come from highly complex backgrounds and have a lot of ongoing contact with health and other services. The idea that adoptive parents can and would hide it is crazy.

We are not talking about people adopting new born babies like Millie Bobbie Brown has done. We are talking about older children who have not been able to stay with their birth families due to their birth parents being unable to look after them.

These children have to cope with knowing what happened to them as babies plus deal with the moves to foster care, the loss of the foster carer, the constant assessments by social workers and things like foetal alcohol syndrome.

Hardly any children are relinquished in the UK. They are removed by the courts. What do you suggest should happen to these children exactly?

They should get to keep their birth certificate and it not be changed. There can be a legal document that states the courts have given parental responsibility.

you forgot that families also adopt. There is zero need to change anyone’s birth certificate unless factually wrong.

A woman who grew that child in the womb should be on the birth certificate and should be unchanged.

Adoptive parents do keep it secret. You must be mad to think otherwise

BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 22:23

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 22:15

They should get to keep their birth certificate and it not be changed. There can be a legal document that states the courts have given parental responsibility.

you forgot that families also adopt. There is zero need to change anyone’s birth certificate unless factually wrong.

A woman who grew that child in the womb should be on the birth certificate and should be unchanged.

Adoptive parents do keep it secret. You must be mad to think otherwise

Since 1976, all adoptions in the UK are open. All of them. Adoptive families are given all sort of things to help support the child and give them full information about their birth family. They have outside support as well. We do not have closed adoptions.

OchreCrab · 24/08/2025 22:37

BeltaLodaLife · 24/08/2025 22:23

Since 1976, all adoptions in the UK are open. All of them. Adoptive families are given all sort of things to help support the child and give them full information about their birth family. They have outside support as well. We do not have closed adoptions.

No such thing as an open adoption.
Not legally enforceable and the child doesn’t have to be told they are adopted.

weird you actually want to try and rewrite the past

Dontlletmedownbruce · 24/08/2025 22:52

If they ever conceive their own child it will wreck this adopted child's life.

Why @MrsJamin do you think this? Genuinely curious. I was adopted as my parents were infertile and my parents went on to conceive a few years later. My sister is my sister, I'd rather have her any day than be an only child.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 24/08/2025 22:56

@OchreCrab you have some very negative and frankly insulting views on adoption and seem to lack understanding in what it actually means.

FattyMcFattyArse · 24/08/2025 23:14

People using surrogates also have to adopt the baby (well usually the woman does and the man if he isn't named on the birth certificate or isn't the biological father). They may still have procured a surrogate.

ShowDownTime · 24/08/2025 23:56

However they’ve come by this child, you can be sure money was involved

MrsJamin · 25/08/2025 08:03

Dontlletmedownbruce · 24/08/2025 22:52

If they ever conceive their own child it will wreck this adopted child's life.

Why @MrsJamin do you think this? Genuinely curious. I was adopted as my parents were infertile and my parents went on to conceive a few years later. My sister is my sister, I'd rather have her any day than be an only child.

I know of several families very close to me, when the opposite happened, the adopted children always felt like second class citizens and never recovered their sense of acceptance from their family. To give a baby to such a young family means this is a lot more likely to occur. I don't think this adoption is done in the best interests of the child. Mbb has an active acting career, it is not at all compatible with parenting a child who will have trauma from being removed from the birth mother. Just because they are rich doesn't mean they will make good parents. The USA law sucks when it comes to protecting the interests of children once they are born.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 25/08/2025 08:21

@MrsJamin I actually agree 100% re MBB

It's a shame your friend felt that way. I feel that adoption gets a lot of bad press and people only share negative stories. I know many adopted people who share my experiences. I had a very stable upbringing, the fact that my sister was biologically my parents genuinely never was an issue.

It seems to me that if an adopted person has any struggles in life MH or otherwise it's immediately assumed it's because of their adoption. I know a few who have MH problems, but the majority of people i know with MH issues are not adopted. Yet in contrast no one really attributes MH issues in the same way to kids who are from divorced parents or blended families. I hear sometimes of people with half siblings and step siblings and people coming and going, packing bags to sleep in different houses etc and think what a shit show, those poor kids.

Everyone's experiences are valid I guess I'm just trying to show a balance. Adoption can be a very positive thing too.

OchreCrab · 25/08/2025 08:21

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OchreCrab · 25/08/2025 08:22

Dontlletmedownbruce · 25/08/2025 08:21

@MrsJamin I actually agree 100% re MBB

It's a shame your friend felt that way. I feel that adoption gets a lot of bad press and people only share negative stories. I know many adopted people who share my experiences. I had a very stable upbringing, the fact that my sister was biologically my parents genuinely never was an issue.

It seems to me that if an adopted person has any struggles in life MH or otherwise it's immediately assumed it's because of their adoption. I know a few who have MH problems, but the majority of people i know with MH issues are not adopted. Yet in contrast no one really attributes MH issues in the same way to kids who are from divorced parents or blended families. I hear sometimes of people with half siblings and step siblings and people coming and going, packing bags to sleep in different houses etc and think what a shit show, those poor kids.

Everyone's experiences are valid I guess I'm just trying to show a balance. Adoption can be a very positive thing too.

Being adopted isn’t going to reduce someone’s risk of mental health difficulties as you suggest

Dontlletmedownbruce · 25/08/2025 08:23

Thanks, I'll just get back to my human trafficking day job here. It's so much fun you should try it!!!!

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