Millie Bobbie Brown adopts

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Millie Bobbie Brown and her husband have adopted a baby. It’s so refreshing to hear of a celebrity adopting rather than using a surrogate. Especially as we heard of another celeb using surrogacy yet again this week.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8ry4m80mn7o

it is, in numerous different ways

She and her DH are so young to go down the adoption route. A 21 year old would not be considered as an adoptive parent in the UK. I’m Isurprised that rules are so liberal in America.

Who approved a 21 year old to adopt? Her bank balance swung I suppose. I’d be more impressed if she financially supported the mother to keep her child.

They’ve been together for 5 years.

Well for starters, I'm pretty sure not every 21 yo can adopt so I suspect money/status was involved.

She’s been working since she was 12 so she is not your average 21 year old. They’ve been together 5 years, they are financially stable, and her parents started their family at 19 so she likely saw the benefit to having young parents. They’ll be much better parents than a lot of people, and the child will be in a much better place than going into the system.

Just to add - my grandparents were 21 and 24 when they adopted their eldest child as a newborn. They both grew up in poverty and had done well for themselves, and felt very strongly it was something they wanted to do for a child. They went on to have 2 of their own and adopt another 2 too. Somewhat radically for the time, they never hid the fact they were adopted from the children who were, and they grew up in a very stable and loving home. These “children” are all now in their 70s and nobody entirely remembers who is or is not biologically related to each other.

She’s been working since she was 12 so she is not your average 21 year old.

I'm not sure that's necessarily a good or healthy thing.

I was discussing this earlier with my dd (19) and said it must have been a private adoption and explained how it worked. I said obviously in the British system MBB would be considered very unsuitable to adopt, but in US private adoption the pregnant birth mother would have picked her and probably was swayed by the thought of her baby being raised by a real life celebrity. My dd, normally a very intelligent young woman, said, "I'd definitely choose her! Think of all that money!"

And that is why we don't allow very young people to adopt.

To elaborate: she may be a fantastic future adopter, but celebrity, fame and a transient lifestyle are NOT what a adopted child needs.

Also: UK adoption is definitely not as bad as surrogacy. I'm an adopter so clearly have a bias, but also quite a lot of knowledge.

How do you feel that your child has a new birth certificate? That states you as the parent and your child may not find out you aren’t their biological family?

She wouldn’t be considered unsuitable to adopt.

dont be daft.

she’s not a junkie. She’s not an abuser. No criminal record. How dare you say she can reproduce

I always get worried when I see ‘slebs’ adopting. I do worry for the children in these situations. I’m sure intentions are good but there’s a naivety with people barely into adulthood, and I fear they don’t really truly understand the potential pitfalls surrounding their newly acquired baby.

This sadly. They do seem young but they’re fully grown adults so congratulations to them!

It's a very bad idea and I like the couple.
But in the US you get what you pay for and they paid for a baby.
No way are people this age going to have the skills and resilience to cope with an adopted child. There precisely zero adopted children who don't have considerable issues.

Brittney Dawn Nelson is someone who should be criticised, but she’s not

The comments all seem to be about her, not Jake. This involves two people. He seems to come from a very stable background, his father appears to be a caring person- surely he wouldn't have wanted to adopt if he didn't think it would be good for the child?

true.

however they could have used their wealth to help the child live with family, instead they took child away.,.. because it’s all about them

She’s clearly very nurturing as she has a managerie of pets. I do find it a bit odd that last year she was seen pushing a dog in a pram and now it’s a baby. Can’t help but feel she is thinking of it as rescuing a pet 🙈 It’s not usually that quick a process to adopt nor to such young newlyweds. Anyway, hopefully they will make good parents. I was (almost!) 23 when I had my first so I can’t talk, although now I probably would’ve waited a bit!

And also celebrities often seem to live in a fantasy world of anything being possible as money usually means it is!

And that is why we don't allow very young people to adopt.

Because the birth mother might decide that it's in her child's best interests to be adopted by somebody who will not bring the child up in poverty, will have funds for education, housing, health care (and will cover her/her baby's healthcare expenses in a way that means she will not have to make decisions based upon whether it's covered/is out of pocket/is the cheapest option) and because there will be a way of knowing the child is safe as they can't 'disappear'? And that feeling she had some agency in the process might make the decision less traumatic for her?

I just don't see why you would think your daughter is being stupid here (ie, the opposite of very intelligent) - a well off adoptive family with publicly available information about both parents and grandparents, very able to provide funds for things we would take for granted as being provided by the NHS is going to be a significant consideration when trying to make the best decision for both mother and baby - rather than the child being moved from foster placement to foster placement and maybe not actually being adopted or in a permanent, secure home for years, whilst potentially not ever knowing what happens to them.

My child (now 15) has her original birth certificate, her long form birth certificate (which I believe has her former name as well), her new short form birth certificate, and her adoption certificate. I have told her from the age of 1 who her birth family are, shown her pictures, and explained in the most age-appropriate way I can why I am her mum now. She understands the differences between biological, legal and social parenting and that her birth mum will always be her biological mum.

This is considered best practice in modern UK adoption. The emphasis is on openness, honesty and helping your child to come to terms with what has happened to them. Although no one can stop an adoptive parents from lying after the final hearing, I don't believe you would be approved if this was known. Certainly, when I adopted an 11 month old, the social workers were insistent that I had to start telling her BEFORE she became verbal, so it would never come as a shock.

I think losing your birth family is always traumatic, and adoption is always a tragedy for the child. Adoptive parents have to always work with this, while also giving the child as happy and normal a childhood as possible. It takes a great deal of commitment and maturity.

Why is it different from surrogacy? Because, sadly, it is sometimes necessary. (Of course the UK is different from the US here, because we have a much higher abortion rate so nearly all adopted dc have been removed from their families rather than offered up.) Adoption is about finding next-best-thing families for children that are already here, whereas surrogacy is about deliberately creating the 'primal wound' that adopted dc also face.

That child exists and needed to be adopted. There are worse people she could have ended up with. Millie seems to have her head screwed on, she runs an animal rescue sanctuary and has at least one successful business as well as her film work.

Have you seen those beautiful couples on Instagram usually Mormons? It blows my mind how easily they adopt. Sometimes two in a year. Sometimes siblings. Money talks and also I think the birth mothers choose famous people on purpose.

i worry about those Jolie children and to an extent, Madonna’s, dragged from overseas. It didn’t turn out well for Mia Farrow.

Explain this statement please