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Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

419 replies

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:13

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

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Laxoverhols · 18/08/2025 16:32

Zempy · 18/08/2025 16:22

You’re not going to call her?

Oh of course the Op isn’t

that would be the adult sensible thing to do with a best friend presumably of years

Fionuala · 18/08/2025 17:03

i don't do facebook or any of that stuff so i wonder if it is a genuine mistake and she just pressed something in error.
I really would not take it as it is. If only because you deserve to understand what is going on. Perhaps you could even use that phrase
all the best

Tandora · 18/08/2025 17:03

MrsEMR · 17/08/2025 21:22

Did you recently ask her to look after your 19 month old DC for 4 days in October?

hahahah

Tandora · 18/08/2025 17:05

Do you normally communicate through facebook? Can't you just text her and ask what is up? Surely if she's a good friend you could do this?

Ceceprincess80 · 18/08/2025 17:05

Call her up and just ask. You have nothing to lose now

spoonbillstretford · 18/08/2025 17:06

What did she say when you called her, OP? @GirlPolo

Tiffypops · 18/08/2025 17:10

Maybe it was a child or an insecure husband 🤷 Try not to rush to assumptions.

Nanatobethatsme46 · 18/08/2025 17:36

Mumdiva99 · 17/08/2025 21:58

You say there was always a reason for her blocking people before.....do you know that to be true or is it just what she told you? Some people are like this.
There was a school mum friend who i sometimes knocked around with for a few years.....you could see from outside she had a best friend she did everything with for 6 to 12 months......then something happened and she moved on to the next person. Surely not all those people were in the wrong....
It's not you, it's her. Don't get dragged into the drama. Move on with your head held high.

Theres one like this who did the same to my friend used her for what she needed ie childcare and running around after her for years doing her favours she even looked after her other children while she was in hospital giving birth then she didnt want to know and moved onto the next sucker, sent her awful messages then blocked her.they still have to walk past each other daily on the school run this happened about 3 years ago

TheAdeptOchre · 18/08/2025 17:40

This happened to me. It was a friend I had know for years, and we ended up working in the same place. There was a dispute with her manager - and it got really nasty. He wasn't my manager but I was asked to give evidence for her grievance etc. She wasn't happy with the outcome of the process (she was moved to another line manager, and another team, it was technically a promotion, but she wanted him sacked) and her mental health really suffered from the whole process. She handed in her notice and so did 3 other of our friends who worked there too. I didn't, and she went cold overnight, then stopped responding to me. I don't know if she expected me to resign too, but that is the only thing I can think of. It's a shame but I have never asked her about it, I feel if she wanted to salvage the relationship she would have spoken to me about it, and if she didn't, she has the right to cut me out, even thought it was sad.

cavamonster · 18/08/2025 17:44

I once blocked a friend on Facebook, no clue how I did it. I stopped seeing her posts and couldn't find her. Wasn't until months later I asked on a wider group, if anyone had heard from her and said how I missed her hearing what she was up to that they pointed she was around and screenshotted her recent posts! I eventually worked out if blocked her by total accident!

HotTiredDog · 18/08/2025 17:50

A very close friend did this to me a few months ago. She is of the “never apologise, never explain” mindset and, frankly, was wrong and insulting about a minor comment I made. Sticking to those principles cost her a 12 year friendship. I was flabbergasted tbh.
It hurt at first but on the basis that we are where we are - she won’t change - I have to accept it.
Sorry you’re going through the confusion and pain.

Goditsmemargaret · 18/08/2025 17:53

This happened to me too OP. An ex friend Emma and I were making plans to meet up. She suggested something with her gang and was really keen I join. I said yes great then within max two mins messaged and said I realised I was actually away with work that weekend. I suggested something else, no response.

A few days later I messaged and said let me know when you're free, I've nothing else in the diary except this work weekend so let me know when suits you and I'll join or else we can do our own thing.

She was busy with her wedding plans (and I couldn't have been more excited for her) and had given me the date and a plus one telling me to bring a friend if I'd no date. She told me the invitations would be coming soon.

When she didn't answer that second message I wondered a little bit didn't want to hassle her when she was probably busy. I continued liking and commenting on her posts.

Then I saw photos from her hen party. I had heard nothing about it.

Then her wedding came and went. I saw the photos on Facebook. The next day she blocked me everywhere. So I wasn't just an oversight, she was cutting me out.

Stranger still, her group of friends that I knew through her became very very awkward with me when they saw me around locally; we are talking extreme frostiness, pointed looks.

I was baffled but confident I had done nothing to this woman. I am not a drinker so nothing happened that I forgot.

I decided it was her loss.

This was about five years ago.

Bizarrely over the last year when I see her or her friends they are all OTT friendliness, really seeking out the opportunity to be warm and welcoming. I just smile, wave and keep walking. Whatever it is that I've been forgiven for is in their own heads.

I think you should leave your friend to it. Her behaviour is cruel and immature.

Liss19 · 18/08/2025 18:00

Me and my best friend slipped away from each other, she wanted kids and hasnt been sucessful in having one and ive had 3 kids. Our lives are very different now, i assume she cant bear to witness my kiddos. I comment on her facebook posts but she never acknowledges it. She says its her, not me but it still leaves me wondering why she doesnt want to hang out anymore, i didnt take the kids with me or anything when we did meet up, but its been about 10 months since we had any true communication. It hurts me, so i know how you must feel, not knowing, it hurts.

CatMum79 · 18/08/2025 18:03

I have had a friend do this to me, ans again she had form for it.

It was all about me not meeting her expectations of me, with very little understanding for what was going on in my life. I chased her once previously, so decided last time, that it was her loss, and have just moved on. Definitely felt sad for a while though.

Im sorry for you, as it hurts, but do you need friends like that?

LeopardPants · 18/08/2025 18:21

That’s frustrating, sorry OP.

Ive had this twice. First time it turned out she thought I had been spreading gossip behind her back (when in reality to this day I still don’t know the details of said gossip let alone to spread it around). Second time - still no idea. Very odd. Just stopped talking to me - no fall out, nothing. Strange.

Freud2 · 18/08/2025 18:22

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:46

I text messaged her but no response. I’m assuming that I’m blocked on everything, she’s done this before to other people.

Ring her!

Mackerelfillets · 18/08/2025 18:24

Yes this happened to me although she wasn't a close friend but a good friend at one point in my life. Infact she invited me to a dinner party, when another friend dropped out, where I met my husband. I noticed that I hadn't seen her on FB for a while and had heard that she was having some health worries. I tried to contact her to realise she had blocked me. No fall out, no reason that I could fathom. Had to just let it go. Maybe she had a friend clear out and I was 'let go'.

Onekissisallittakes · 18/08/2025 18:26

Sorry OP I did feel for you until I saw that you said she hasn't blocked u on Whatsapp and u also refuse to ask her on Whatsapp if everything is okay. What of she hadn't actually blocked u intentionally or it's a glitch or anything, surely if she was really pissed at you WhatsApp would be blocked too. Definitely message her it might be a genuine mistake and you'll lose a friend because you're too scared to find out why.

Equally if she really does want to cut off contact and can't even give u a reason then food riddance to bad rubbish!

Blablibladirladada · 18/08/2025 18:34

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:46

I text messaged her but no response. I’m assuming that I’m blocked on everything, she’s done this before to other people.

For no reason?
that seems odd for sure…

Blablibladirladada · 18/08/2025 18:35

Mackerelfillets · 18/08/2025 18:24

Yes this happened to me although she wasn't a close friend but a good friend at one point in my life. Infact she invited me to a dinner party, when another friend dropped out, where I met my husband. I noticed that I hadn't seen her on FB for a while and had heard that she was having some health worries. I tried to contact her to realise she had blocked me. No fall out, no reason that I could fathom. Had to just let it go. Maybe she had a friend clear out and I was 'let go'.

The health issue could be the reason here. Some people get very very “circle” when things happen…
it isn’t nice to feel left out.

Tuesdayschild50 · 18/08/2025 18:38

Why not message on whatsapp asking if everything is ok x

Ontobetterthings · 18/08/2025 18:40

Same thing happened to me and it turned out someone didnt like me was making up lies and saying things behind my back to my friend. Totally unwarranted. Could that be what happened? I literally did nothing wrong.

Anuta77 · 18/08/2025 18:41

If she actually blocked you for some reason and you really have no idea why, then it's her problem. If you get an opportunity to find out, do it, but I personally wouldn't break my head over it. Healthy people don't do that. Even if someone told her something about you, she could have confronted you before blocking. Think that you deserve good friends and good friends don't do that.

daisychain01 · 18/08/2025 18:41

Hey guess what! I was ghosted about 8 years ago by a very former colleague who used to be "friend" - I left the company and from the day I left when I got a lovely bunch of flowers and card... until now .... I've been ghosted. I took it that they felt I no longer had anything in common. Sad, but fair enough no hard feelings.

I've got an old Fb profile I never use because I absolutely loathe everything about Fb - and today ping I got a Friend request from them. Why??? Baffling.

people are so weird!

Hopingtobeaparent · 18/08/2025 18:41

Charabanc · 18/08/2025 14:04

There's always been a reason according to her, I bet. You just haven't heard the other side. And now you are on it.

This, OP. Did the other people know what they’d done wrong I wonder? Your ex ‘friend’ seems to have difficulty with communicating in friendships, maybe relationships in general, when something has upset or bothered her. The ‘you’re dead to me’ approach is one she chooses instead… 🤷‍♀️

To be honest, I’d say you’re better off without her, but I know that doesn’t stop the sting. Making friends is harder as an adult….

Try not to ruminate on it too much, you’ll have to accept the not knowing.

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