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Original poster

Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

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GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:13

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

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Laxoverhols · 19/08/2025 06:41

Who on earth has a “best friend” who they ONLY message via Facebook and so, as the Op states, now that she’s been blocked on Facebook apparently there is NO other messaging platform she can possibly consider contacting her “best friend” on?!

RandomUserName96 · 19/08/2025 09:22

How old are you OP?

You sound very immature.

And despite claiming to be over it etc, you have a mutual friend doing some digging rather than just sending a WhatsApp? Facebook Messenger as the only way you talk is also and odd way for such close friends to communicate imo

Snakebite61 · 19/08/2025 09:32

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:13

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

Maybe she doesn't agree with something you posted, or she just left FB.

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GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:12

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/08/2025 22:48

Did you send her a card /text /ring to say happy birthday @GirlPolo

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Yes, sent a card wishing her a happy birthday and saying let’s celebrate soon. Had no idea she already had a night out planned. Also texted on the day

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Blondeshavemorefun · 19/08/2025 10:16

GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:12

Yes, sent a card wishing her a happy birthday and saying let’s celebrate soon. Had no idea she already had a night out planned. Also texted on the day

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You need to go round there and do this face to face and ask

MamaElephantMama · 19/08/2025 10:17

Let them.
No chasing answers and no getting friends involved.

Iwasneverafan · 19/08/2025 10:18

All this wondering and blocking shit would do my head in.
Just ring her or go to see her and have it out. You have nothing to lose 🤷🏼‍♀️

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GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:20

Ok, I’ve messaged her on WhatsApp asking if there was a reason for deleting me and asking if I’d done something to upset her. Fully expect to find myself blocked on there within minutes too!

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SunshineAndFizz · 19/08/2025 10:23

GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:20

Ok, I’ve messaged her on WhatsApp asking if there was a reason for deleting me and asking if I’d done something to upset her. Fully expect to find myself blocked on there within minutes too!

I was just about to say don’t be daft of course you should what’s app her. You have every right to know what’s going on - don’t give HER all the power.

MamaElephantMama · 19/08/2025 10:24

GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:20

Ok, I’ve messaged her on WhatsApp asking if there was a reason for deleting me and asking if I’d done something to upset her. Fully expect to find myself blocked on there within minutes too!

I suspect she’s just moved onto the next person. You say she has form for this sort of thing, she’s used you for support and your free DL gym pass. As mean as it is she’s probably had her use out of you and has a new ‘bestie’ that she can rinse.

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GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:25

Well I’ve given her the chance now and if she doesn’t respond or blocks me then I have my answer, ie it wasn’t a mistake and she’s effectively ending the friendship.

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GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 11:06

She’s read it but no reply and hasn’t blocked me yet.

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Lizzbear · 19/08/2025 11:07

Gosh. Keep us posted op. It’s very stressful for you x

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 11:29

GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 11:06

She’s read it but no reply and hasn’t blocked me yet.

Well done for being direct and asking her outright
if she blocks you she’s pathetic tbh. I hope you find some new better friends OP if she truly has blocked u & not another explanation

StrawberryWalls · 19/08/2025 11:36

GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 10:20

Ok, I’ve messaged her on WhatsApp asking if there was a reason for deleting me and asking if I’d done something to upset her. Fully expect to find myself blocked on there within minutes too!

Well done I think this was the right thing to do. If she never replies you can sleep at night knowing you've tried and if she does reply you can apologise if she has a reason to be upset and then move on, either way I wouldn't want to be her friend going forwards.

gentlemansfamily · 19/08/2025 11:39

I had a friend who did the same last year. Blocked me from everything, No falling out, no cross words nothing.

I was aware over the course of our friendship she began very sudden and intense friendship with people and then fell out with them just as quickly. She hasn't spoken to any of her family for years and has cut her partner off from his family. Found out she had borderline personality disorder.

Betty1625 · 19/08/2025 11:50

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 11:29

Well done for being direct and asking her outright
if she blocks you she’s pathetic tbh. I hope you find some new better friends OP if she truly has blocked u & not another explanation

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Agree, OPs (ex)friend sounds like a user and brutally discards people that are no longer useful

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/08/2025 12:12

Well done for messaging. Hopefully she will reply

Weezypopsy · 19/08/2025 12:13

At least you will know! I think you have done the right thing.

hoohaal · 19/08/2025 13:32

Perfect, you’ve done the right thing.
Hopefully she responds, and if not - bugger her.

TinkerbellStarbright · 19/08/2025 13:37

She sounds utterly batshit

Netcurtainnelly · 19/08/2025 13:43

What a croc of shit this is.

She's not a good friend.

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GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 14:16

Still no reply and not blocked……

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Someone2025 · 19/08/2025 14:34

GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 14:16

Still no reply and not blocked……

she is leaving one door open out of curiosity to see if you would contact her, (it would also boost her ego)……..don’t do it as she would probably ignore you and block you then

You have already contacted her, the ball is in her court

CatchTheWind1920 · 19/08/2025 14:41

I understand this has upset you, op. But it's time to put it to bed. Again, a good friend wouldn't make you sit there and wait for a response. If my friend messaged me asking what she'd done wrong cause she's blocked (and it was some sort of mistake) even if I was in the middle of something, I'd text something very quickly like "no, all is ok, will reply properly later". So my friend knew things were fine.

I think the silence is the answer really