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Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

419 replies

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:13

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 18/08/2025 22:48

GirlPolo · 18/08/2025 19:32

Sorry to hear that so many others have been through the same thing.

I’ve just remembered it was her birthday about a month ago and she posted all over social media about her night out and guess what, I wasn’t invited to that. Guess there have been clues there for a while 😔

Did you send her a card /text /ring to say happy birthday @GirlPolo

WillyWonkasPurpleHat · 18/08/2025 22:55

You contact each other through FB rather than WhatsApp? That is weird

Thingyfanding · 18/08/2025 23:05

Sorry to be a bit harsh here but social media is not real life - accounts get frozen, deleted, people block and unblock, deactivate - it’s rarely a YOU issue.
Your real friends should have a telephone number that you either speak to them on or text each other on - that is real and if you’re blocked on there then there is an issue (but I’d still be inclined to think it’s a them problem lol)

anon666 · 18/08/2025 23:18

My best friend from childhood did this to me and my God, it was hurtful. Strangely (or not?) this was also after the death of her father. I was absolutely traumatised and baffled by it, also couldn't work out what I'd done.

I can't say because it would be outing, but when it was finally discussed, it was something so trivial I couldn't even explain it in any way that makes sense. She had taken an innocent, self deprecating comment I'd posted and twisted it into something personally offensive to her. I've never fully worked it out, and even when I played it back to her ten years afterwards, she didn't remember. And I think that sums it up. It was a petulant, somewhat narcissistic move from someone who at that time in their life was going through sone major mental health issues (IMO). I think she was incredibly angry at the world and everyone in it, because of grief, and I got caught in the crossfire.

And it was my first experience of something I have seen more clearly since, which is a lack of emotional intelligence and maturity. Her emotional landscape isn't fully developed and she does exert power over people in these kinds of ways, sadly. I think she's the biggest victim of it though, even though this period of our friendship genuinely damaged and scarred me. If I had any sense, I would probably have just cut her off in return, yet for some reason I couldn't. I guess for my oldest and once closest friend, I sucked it up, in the hope I could help her navigate other interpersonal relationships better. Essentially, like family, I love her and I can't let go.

Back to you - you don't have to take this if you don't want to. I assume that this kind of attention seeking (yes it is - its a petty, aggressive act, done to hurt and provoke a reaction) is the mark of someone deficient. Its up to you to evaluate whether you want that kind of drama and pain in your life. If my experience is anything to go by, this will be a pattern and it will happen again.

Weezypopsy · 18/08/2025 23:41

If the friendship is important, WhatsApp her. If it’s not, forget it. It seems to me that as you’re so willing to just lose the friend just because you think you’d lose face sending a message, she’s not really that important to you anyway. If I thought a (best) friend had got the wrong information and made such a rash decision I would be desperate to put things right!

Endorewitch · 18/08/2025 23:50

If you are completely sure you have been blocked rather than a Facebook glitch,then ignore her. Move on. Hurtful as it is,frankly she is not worth bothering about.

Dramafreemama1 · 18/08/2025 23:59

I’ve had this happen to me recently too. There seems to be a bit of a trend with certain “mean girl” types blocking other women they considered a friend while going on about “energies”, “self-healing” and “narcissism”. Honestly, I’d just move on, she’s not worth the time. Sometimes the trash really does take itself out.

SquishedMallow · 19/08/2025 00:09

anon666 · 18/08/2025 23:18

My best friend from childhood did this to me and my God, it was hurtful. Strangely (or not?) this was also after the death of her father. I was absolutely traumatised and baffled by it, also couldn't work out what I'd done.

I can't say because it would be outing, but when it was finally discussed, it was something so trivial I couldn't even explain it in any way that makes sense. She had taken an innocent, self deprecating comment I'd posted and twisted it into something personally offensive to her. I've never fully worked it out, and even when I played it back to her ten years afterwards, she didn't remember. And I think that sums it up. It was a petulant, somewhat narcissistic move from someone who at that time in their life was going through sone major mental health issues (IMO). I think she was incredibly angry at the world and everyone in it, because of grief, and I got caught in the crossfire.

And it was my first experience of something I have seen more clearly since, which is a lack of emotional intelligence and maturity. Her emotional landscape isn't fully developed and she does exert power over people in these kinds of ways, sadly. I think she's the biggest victim of it though, even though this period of our friendship genuinely damaged and scarred me. If I had any sense, I would probably have just cut her off in return, yet for some reason I couldn't. I guess for my oldest and once closest friend, I sucked it up, in the hope I could help her navigate other interpersonal relationships better. Essentially, like family, I love her and I can't let go.

Back to you - you don't have to take this if you don't want to. I assume that this kind of attention seeking (yes it is - its a petty, aggressive act, done to hurt and provoke a reaction) is the mark of someone deficient. Its up to you to evaluate whether you want that kind of drama and pain in your life. If my experience is anything to go by, this will be a pattern and it will happen again.

I think you've bought up some excellent points here .

You're absolutely right: that the sort of person who knee jerks and blocks people on SM or weaponises these passive aggressive (because that's what they are ) tactics do lack emotional maturity/underdeveloped maturity. There's usually reasons for it. But the problem if you like is them. Well rounded healthy adults just don't do things like that. Removal is one thing , but the blocking takes it to a new level.

SquishedMallow · 19/08/2025 00:11

Dramafreemama1 · 18/08/2025 23:59

I’ve had this happen to me recently too. There seems to be a bit of a trend with certain “mean girl” types blocking other women they considered a friend while going on about “energies”, “self-healing” and “narcissism”. Honestly, I’d just move on, she’s not worth the time. Sometimes the trash really does take itself out.

Absolutely spot on !

And it's always the same type. Full of drama narcissists who's feeds update daily with either selfies if them running with sweatbands on or posting recruitment attempts for their MLM

Fenellasbum · 19/08/2025 00:18

She has form for doing this to people. She’s just a bellend. I would just ignore any diet he contact from
her.

Speckly · 19/08/2025 01:22

GirlPolo · 18/08/2025 21:29

Yes seen her once since her birthday. We have one mutual friend and I’ve asked her to do some digging but she hasn’t responded and I’m loath to put her in an awkward position.

You said previously you normally exchange presents when you see each other after a birthday, so I wanted to ask, did you take a present the one time you saw her after her birthday? Was just wondering, could she be pissed off about not receiving a gift from you? Personally I don’t think something like that is ANY reason to just block someone anyway. Normal people talk about it if a friend has upset them but more and more nowadays, people just block and move on, which I think is very sad.

Miaminmoo · 19/08/2025 02:02

I hate people who do this, either use your words and tell me what I’ve done wrong or do one - passive aggressive behaviour is so tedious. I had a friend who turned up to my 40th and then decided that was the night to sit me down and tell me why she ‘hadn’t been talking to me’ the hilarious thing was, she was so unreliable and flakey I hadn’t even noticed 🤣 safe to say we are not friends anymore. If she can’t be bothered to tell you what you’ve apparently done then she’s not worth your time and effort.

MsAmerica · 19/08/2025 02:43

Interesting that it doesn't seem to have crossed your mind to write her an actual note or telephone her.

TopazQuartz · 19/08/2025 03:00

Happymover · 17/08/2025 21:33

I’ve never been involved with FB and when I read stuff like this I’m glad! Are you seriously going to accept this at face value and assume what you describe as a close friendship is now over? Despite saying everything is fine between you and you’ve not had cross words??

She could have accidentally done it. It could be some kind of FB glitch. But FFS get yourself into the real world and phone her and ask if everything is ok. Presumably if you are close friends you have her phone number. 🤷‍♀️

The thing is people who've never been involved with facebook don't realise that it's not easy to accidentally block or unfriend someone, it takes deliberate actions.

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2021x · 19/08/2025 03:57

Ugh it’s such a minefield. My SIL deleted me from her FB because I didn’t like any of the photos. In fact my brother begged me to like some.

The fact that I never did that to anyone’s photos, and I had never had a conversation with her alone was not something added into the equation. She also never said anything to me about it.

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Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 19/08/2025 04:43

I apparently blocked a close friend on Facebook and still have no clue what happened.

She thankfully asked me about it and we still don’t know what happened. I would never have blocked her.

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions quite yet.

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 05:11

hadenoughnows · 18/08/2025 22:47

I agree, she could just delete without blocking. When I deleted someone I just did it quietly, no blocking. I just realised they no longer had a place in my new life and moved on.

Why did they no longer have a place in your new life?

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 05:19

I wonder if men have similar kinds of friendship issues , deleting, blocking etc

hadenoughnows · 19/08/2025 06:02

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 05:11

Why did they no longer have a place in your new life?

Because after my DH died, you'd think one of my best friends would ask once in the 14 months after how you are doing, don't you? Send a message, just once? They didn't, which showed me they weren't a friend at all.

It was a momentous life change. The kind of change that really shows you who your friends are. I regrouped shortly after the first anniversary of his death and decided that the two people who hadn't been there even once during that time weren't coming forward with me further. If they'd asked just once, I'd have felt differently. When someone shows you they aren't a friend in such a big way, the relationship and trust is irretrievably broken and I didn't have any room in my life for fake friends.

So as I gathered myself and started moving forward, I decided these people didn't have a place in my new life anymore. There was no need for any fanfare, I just slipped quietly out. No regrets.

hadenoughnows · 19/08/2025 06:03

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 05:19

I wonder if men have similar kinds of friendship issues , deleting, blocking etc

From what I've seen, they just move on and don't contact each other again if they don't want to.

AJLOAL · 19/08/2025 06:23

I'm sorry to say it sounds to me she's just not "into" you anymore if indeed she was properly in the first instance.
She doesn't want to feel she has to frequently make arrangements with you or deal with cancelling them, so it's easier (but hurtful and unkind) to go NC.

Laxoverhols · 19/08/2025 06:38

GirlPolo · 18/08/2025 22:43

She’s blocked me on the only way we exchange messages. I mean, why even block?! You can just delete someone as a friend and that sends the message….

No words

to think you have a best friend. And the ONLY way you communicate is FB.

oh and you weren’t invited to her birthday celebrations a month ago but forgot even though somewhat relevant to thread

and you didn’t come t her before her birthday “hi, would love to take you out for a birthday drink, fancy doing something?” Or along those lines.

I mean I could go on… this is so very strange. Although to me it seems like the friend has never regarded the Op as a close friend and now? Not even a friend.