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Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

419 replies

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:13

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

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Goditsmemargaret · 19/08/2025 15:26

I think she is a bitch and she's enjoying the fact that you're distressed. If she hasn't replied by tomorrow remove her from your contacts, heart and head.

FrangipaneMincies · 19/08/2025 17:29

People are strange. It's happened to me. Absolutely nothing to cause it, totally baffled. Everyone was.

BUT.... I once read a story about a woman who did binned off a good friend, no warning. The friend later discovered it was all because this nutter had dreamt her husband was having an affair with her friend!! Imagine ditching a mate because of a dream?!! Absolutely batshit.

Mary46 · 19/08/2025 17:52

Awful. Agree people so weird. My daughter said one of the girls really cool with them now. Its a 3 group friendship. She not pushed she says as lucky has other friends. Op perhaps you better off than crap attitudes off friends ..

Reebokker · 19/08/2025 19:58

Goditsmemargaret · 19/08/2025 15:26

I think she is a bitch and she's enjoying the fact that you're distressed. If she hasn't replied by tomorrow remove her from your contacts, heart and head.

She’s sick if that’s the case

nodramamama · 19/08/2025 20:05

If she's not replying pretty quickly after all this time, and she's seen your message but didn't even send a one liner to say she'd reply later because busy right now, that'd be it for me.

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GirlPolo · 19/08/2025 20:44

No response.
I’m bemused by her behaviour, but one thing stands out clearly and it’s a shame but she’s not a friend.

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starsintheirears · 19/08/2025 20:55

I agree with PP- she sounds like she's enjoying the drama and you chasing her. Sadly some people seem to enjoy these childish power games. An ex friend of mine did this - she'd ignore me for months on end, not even bothering to read my message then send a gushing/affectionate "how are you? we must meet up- I really miss seeing you" text. I'd reply saying "yes, great- when are you free?" and then I'd hear nothing again for months until I got another "hey, I miss you- shall we have lunch?" message. Rinse and repeat.

Its a power play - people like this dont really care about you as a person, they just care that they have access to you and that you'll chase them because it feeds their ego and makes them feel powerful.

Its honestly pathetic

TryingAgainAgainAgain · 19/08/2025 21:02

It's really telling that she's done this before with other friends. So it says more about her (and her difficulties in reacting appropriately to upset/stress) than it does about you. Whatever triggered her, you know you haven't done anything horrific that would justify a blocking without explanation. So the issue lies with her. That doesn't mean that it isn't very painful and disorienting for you though.

When you feel able, perhaps take this as a prompt to join a new group activity or something you've always meant to do and meet some new people. Not to replace her friendship, but just to add something new and positive to your life.

Mary46 · 19/08/2025 22:16

Yes not nice. Op Im trying to join new things and get rid of these time wasting friends ha. She sounds a crap friend

Booksnbels · 19/08/2025 22:22

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:24

I have but she hasn’t done it yet and I’m wary of dragging her into the middle of this.

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I had at least a couple of friends do this. Everyone blaming it on glitches but it happens!

One friend we hadn’t talked properly in a few months, so it was less of a surprise but we had been close friends in the decade before that - so it was still a bit weird. I suspect she had some hostility towards me as I didn’t completely agree with her during her and her exes split (she was unreasonably trying to keep him from the kids)

Few years prior to that Another close friend did it to me completely out of the blue, and over the next few months I heard she blocked and deleted others in our circle. I did email her but never heard back. She may have blocked me on that at the time though so who knows if she even read it. To this day I can’t tell you what set her off and I no longer care.

I would just let it go tbh. It was upsetting at the time with the first girl but by the time it happened a second time I was just like oh well.

Onceisenoughta · 19/08/2025 23:12

Trace it back to when you first noticed a change in her behaviour - was it her not inviting you out on her birthday do or before? If you know you haven't done anything to purposely upset her and she's blocked & ignored you since, take the time to heal yourself cos whatever it is that's happened in her world ain't worth you tearing yourself apart if she won't reply and it's not like you haven't tried.

It's not a nice feeling or situation but it's a 'her problem' & not your issue.

We all have to learn to value ourselves more and not be other people's doormat x

Lizzbear · 20/08/2025 01:45

Any reply op?

MsAmerica · 20/08/2025 01:55

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ due to privacy concerns.

If I missed something, then I apologize. However, in the message I read, I see nothing about phoning:

GirlPolo · 17/08/2025 21:13
And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

I certainly am not going to slog through 300 posts to see if there were details the OP forgot to include.

Reebokker · 20/08/2025 01:58

starsintheirears · 19/08/2025 20:55

I agree with PP- she sounds like she's enjoying the drama and you chasing her. Sadly some people seem to enjoy these childish power games. An ex friend of mine did this - she'd ignore me for months on end, not even bothering to read my message then send a gushing/affectionate "how are you? we must meet up- I really miss seeing you" text. I'd reply saying "yes, great- when are you free?" and then I'd hear nothing again for months until I got another "hey, I miss you- shall we have lunch?" message. Rinse and repeat.

Its a power play - people like this dont really care about you as a person, they just care that they have access to you and that you'll chase them because it feeds their ego and makes them feel powerful.

Its honestly pathetic

I don’t think what your friend did was power play
just someone with a busy life & intentions to see you because she liked you but ultimately didn’t carve out the time because she prioritised other things
its hard balancing a job, a family , partner , hobbies, friends

DarklingIlisten · 20/08/2025 02:05

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ due to privacy concerns.

robotbella · 20/08/2025 07:49

Sorry that happened to you OP. I had something similar happen a few years ago. I’d only been friends with her about a year but we’d been relatively close during that time (texting a few times a week, meeting up once a month or so). She unfollowed me on Instagram and removed me from her followers. It was very obvious because we both had multiple accounts and it had happened on all of them. She claimed to know nothing about it and said it was a glitch! But a while later she told me she had to end the friendship because the vibe was off. WTF. I think the people who do this sort of thing must be very insecure.

DrJackDaniels · 20/08/2025 09:31

Yes I’ve had this happen and it devastated me. I’m not one for loads of acquaintances, just v close friends and I’ve never had a cross word or falling out with any of them ever.
I’d been friends with her for over 15 years, met up, went to each others homes, nights out etc. We knew all each others secrets, problems, and been through a lot.

Then suddenly she’d cancel anything that meant coming to my house, no-show for a big birthday, so just thought she’s got other things in her plate. Messaged and no reply, then noticed she’d blocked me on social media and WhatsApp!

I was heartbroken as I’d never intentionally do anything that would hurt a friend. Another mutual friend met with her and asked wtf had happened. It turns out she was seething with jealousy over my apparent perfect life and the fact I’d moved into a much larger house - even though she knew the house was due to a V sad inheritance and I’d just been through the most devastating time in my life.

Even our mutual friend told her she was being ridiculous but she couldn’t get over it. Said her life was falling apart but it was OK for me as I had everything. It upset me for months because it felt so unfair as it was so far from the truth.

you just have to accept it and move on, as hard as it is. Whatever they’re going through they need to do it without you and accept how they feel about you. But it hurts.

starsintheirears · 20/08/2025 09:33

Reebokker · 20/08/2025 01:58

I don’t think what your friend did was power play
just someone with a busy life & intentions to see you because she liked you but ultimately didn’t carve out the time because she prioritised other things
its hard balancing a job, a family , partner , hobbies, friends

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I would disagree with that because previously she had told me she "wasnt texting" various people because they didnt text her first - it became a power play to her and I know that due to her previous comments about texting other friends. Therefore, when she started up with these shenanigans I was suspicious it was more of the same as she had form for it

Original poster
GirlPolo · 20/08/2025 10:29

No reply. I guess that’s it then. So, so hurtful.

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Myjobisridiculous · 20/08/2025 10:48

I’m sorry.
But at least you know where you stand.
She doesn’t deserve you

ormiwtbte · 20/08/2025 10:53

GirlPolo · 20/08/2025 10:29

No reply. I guess that’s it then. So, so hurtful.

Yeah, that's that. And of course it's hurtful.

I know you answered my post above saying you don't think it's grief related because it's been a year since her Dad died and 9 months since the ex, but there's no timeline on grief and it could well be to do with that. 1 year is no time in the grieving process for a parent.

However, whether it is grief related or not, she's decided she doesn't want to speak to you any more and she's decided not to explain why or give any hint as to why so there's nothing more you can do.

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GirlPolo · 20/08/2025 10:57

What does the failure to respond even mean??

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LadyLucksalot · 20/08/2025 11:03

Oh OP. It's her loss. She clearly doesn't value your friendship and life is too precious and short for you to give this sort of carry-on more headspace than it deserves.

Same thing happened to me. Onwards.

hadenoughnows · 20/08/2025 11:03

GirlPolo · 20/08/2025 10:57

What does the failure to respond even mean??

I would say they either don't have the energy to care or deal with it. Or they've just lost interest, as hurtful as that is.

ns87 · 20/08/2025 11:10

I would message one last time.

'I see you don't want to respond to my messages after blocking me which I find hurtful as I've been there for you in your toughest moments. I am now going to move on'.