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Spidey66 · 2025-08-15T14:29:51+00:00

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats. just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby! I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

Silverbirchleaf · 17/08/2025 18:05

Ds brought a one bedroom flat. Sil assumed her dc or herself would be able to stay there whenever. Same person asked if dc could stay at another relative’s house (relative through our marriage, no relation to her) when visiting London, a relative we rarely see (and have never stayed there).

ARichtGoodDram · 17/08/2025 18:05

Oh this is SO familiar! Most volunteers I know - myself included - also work, with the exception of retirees, students or SAHM who want to get out of the house for a bit. I think some people just think “Cheap childcare!” And their brain never progresses beyond that point, neither to look into the mechanics of how a place operates or to even consider maybe giving up some of their own time.

Oh yes!!

Could write a book about CF'ers after 15 years running that 😂

Rolopolo2 · 17/08/2025 18:05

Last year my lovely granny who brought me up died, in the space of two weeks she’s was fine, got diagnosed with cancer and then was put on end of life care, as she deteriorated so quickly I decided to take a couple of weeks off, (beauty therapist) all my clients were so lovely apart from one, who replied “ that’s very very disappointing, who will now do my pedicure. This is very distressing for me as I can not bare unpolished toenail”
safe to say, I never saw her again!

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 17/08/2025 18:05

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 17/08/2025 18:00

I understand why you did this but I don't think I'd have had the guts to try it. Just in case the CF thought 'any port in a storm' and then still turned up on my doorstep 😬.

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Very true. She didnt have my address but had she agreed I would have found an excuse. I was almost certain though that she just fancied a seaside holiday for her and her kids.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 17/08/2025 18:06

@RainbowSlimeLab 😯😯😯. Is she still such a CF these days? If so then I think I'd be going NC.

Figcherry · 17/08/2025 18:06

PinkZebraStripes · 17/08/2025 17:18

When you find someone sitting in your pre booked seat on a train.

Excuse me that's my seat.

Can you sit in a different seat as someone was sat in mine.

Erm, no, that's my seat.

All that will happen is that someone else will come and get on and ask me to move from their seat, and it continues.

Or, we could just all sit in the seats we have or have not booked.

I decided to treat dgs to first class train travel.
I booked a two facing each other with table so 7 year old dgs couldn’t disturb anyone.
Got on train and a couple were sat in ours seats. I told them they were in the wrong seat and they nodded to the table for 4 and told me I could sit there.
They moved because I insisted on the seats I booked but they weren’t happy.

Celeryedition · 17/08/2025 18:06

crazeekat · 17/08/2025 17:11

So not self entitled but into weird but you have just reminded of a cinema experience....
I took my daughter 7 to the cinema to see Snow White movie. We had the ENTIRE place to ourselves. Totally empty. Big recliner seats, I was in heaven. I get social anxiety. Right at the start a woman come in. She looked about. And walked to our row. Walked right up, missed a seat and sat right next to us. The entire place was empty. I smiled, said hi, feeling a bit weird or thinking, so maybe she doesn’t see folk much or is anxious. She gave me the biggest dirty look and ignored me. She huffed when my daughter spoke. Which usually I would be like sshhh but I let be her talk away. Cf. Some folk are entitled. Others are just plain fking weird.

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I had a similar experience at a cinema in Central London. I went to see a film that was at the end of its run, it was mid afternoon mid week and I had the entire (massive) cinema to myself. A couple walked in a few minutes after the start and sat right in front of me! It was years ago and I still can’t work it out!!

Arlanymor · 17/08/2025 18:07

ARichtGoodDram · 17/08/2025 18:05

Oh this is SO familiar! Most volunteers I know - myself included - also work, with the exception of retirees, students or SAHM who want to get out of the house for a bit. I think some people just think “Cheap childcare!” And their brain never progresses beyond that point, neither to look into the mechanics of how a place operates or to even consider maybe giving up some of their own time.

Oh yes!!

Could write a book about CF'ers after 15 years running that 😂

You should do! 😈

If it’s any consolation, you sound fabulous - volunteers make the world go around.

ThatAgileCoralBird · 17/08/2025 18:08

Paid £££ so my mum and I could sit together at the Royal Albert hall.
young German girl asked if we could swap with her so that she could sit beside her mum but we would be further back. I paid so much more money for these two tickets together and could have had a lot cheaper tickets separated.

Arlanymor · 17/08/2025 18:08

Rolopolo2 · 17/08/2025 18:05

Last year my lovely granny who brought me up died, in the space of two weeks she’s was fine, got diagnosed with cancer and then was put on end of life care, as she deteriorated so quickly I decided to take a couple of weeks off, (beauty therapist) all my clients were so lovely apart from one, who replied “ that’s very very disappointing, who will now do my pedicure. This is very distressing for me as I can not bare unpolished toenail”
safe to say, I never saw her again!

The trash took itself out then, got to love a bit of natural attrition. (Sorry for the loss of your lovely granny).

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/08/2025 18:09

SnoopyDuke · 17/08/2025 16:10

Have experienced the 'Can I have the seat (you paid to book specifically) so my partner and I can sit together ?
I book an aisle seat by choice so was a No. She was very grumpy about it 🤷‍♀️

Surely the way to respond to this is, "How much are you willing to pay me for it?"

Havingasmashingtime · 17/08/2025 18:10

My tight arse friend actually bought me a birthday gift… 2 tickets to see her favourite comedian… 1.5 hours drive away.

the day came and she asked if I would drive.
i picked her up, drove us there and back, paid £10 for parking, and also dropped her home.

She not only didn’t help with the cost of petrol or parking BUT SHE DIDNT EVEN SAY THANKS.
the comedy ticket was £30
and I paid about £40 for fuel and parking

MJOverInvestor · 17/08/2025 18:11

Very, very popular lido near me has space for a huge and fun children's area but a posh daddy decided that it was naicer to use the shallow end of the slow lane as a private play area. When I pointed this out to him, he said 'don't spoil a nice time,'. For once I remembered to use my words and said that he must be very clever to have got to his 30s without having learned to read and pointed to the sign he was standing by. I swam off slowly and on the return leg enjoyed watching him move to the kids area (where his child had a much more enjoyable time). I may have given him a friendly thumbs up.

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 17/08/2025 18:11

Havingasmashingtime · 17/08/2025 18:10

My tight arse friend actually bought me a birthday gift… 2 tickets to see her favourite comedian… 1.5 hours drive away.

the day came and she asked if I would drive.
i picked her up, drove us there and back, paid £10 for parking, and also dropped her home.

She not only didn’t help with the cost of petrol or parking BUT SHE DIDNT EVEN SAY THANKS.
the comedy ticket was £30
and I paid about £40 for fuel and parking

Wow.

placemats · 17/08/2025 18:12

My sister is a multi millionaire and she is Scrooge personified. She's made her money through wise property investments and I absolutely commend her for that.

However, 😁she had a picture bequeathed to her by my mother and didn't like it. I said that I liked it and she immediately changed her mind. She refused to give it to me and took it home with her - the parting being that she would donate it to charity. Her entitlement is going to be her hubris one of these days (plus she expected me to feed her and only brought food that was going in the bin to my late mum's home as we were clearing it out - not fit for eating).

FigTreeInEurope · 17/08/2025 18:13

Our neighbour (badly) painted her own disabled parking space outside her house on a public road. She used a hola hoop as the stencil for the wheelchair wheel. She got into lots of trouble, it went to court and she was prosecuted, which kind of suprised me.

JustFeedMeCake · 17/08/2025 18:13

imacroissantgirl · 17/08/2025 17:32

Perfect for me to pop this in here, thank you OP.
Nice pub lunch out today that accepts dogs. Used Ladies on way out and whist washing hands the woman next to was rinsing out a dog bowl with gravy etc in. She must have felt my icy stare and explained she always shares her lunch with the dog. I gave her an eye-roll ‘lovely’ ….
Reported to management who eye-rolled too and said she’d send housekeeping could have used the outside tap!
Height of entitlement!

How are you not embarrassed to share that? So incredibly petty.

Ohnobackagain · 17/08/2025 18:16

I remember that @Arlanymor did you ever hear any more from him about it?

Dabberlocks · 17/08/2025 18:16

ARichtGoodDram · 17/08/2025 17:38

When I helped run a volunteer led playscheme (all run properly, just nobody got paid) we had a system where people who volunteered for more than 3 sessions in a week didn't have to queue up to register their children, they could do so in advance. Obviously we needed to know who was available and when, and they needed to know they could bring their kid with them, hence the system.

We had one woman complaining that it was horrendously unfair that some people didn't get spaces (we never had enough) yet volunteers got priority.

We ran two sessions a day, and took all the kids on a trip for the whole day on the Friday for £5 a week (thanks to funding from a very generous local businessman). And she still complained about the "perks" the volunteers got. She even suggested it would be fairer if I sent my two kids to the local £45 a day playscheme sometimes 😂

She complains even more now as the £45 a day scheme is £55 a day, and it's now the only holiday club locally as folks like her made everyone quit the other one.

Reminds me of when my dd was in a show with her dance school. She was in her teens, did tap, modern and about 4 different ballet classes. She was one of the seniors in the dance school and had quite a lot of things to do in the show, including ballet solos, and had a number of costume changes. She'd been at the dance school for years, and the school was always asking for parents to help chaperone backstage, and also to assist with making costumes etc. I had been volunteering for a long time.

This particular show was in the school holidays, and we had Thursday afternoon dress rehearsal, Thursday and Friday evening performances, Saturday afternoon and evening. I was chaperoning for the whole bloody lot. Anyone who has done it will tell you it is not a walk in the park! Anyway, on the Saturday afternoon, the school had arranged for a photographer to come and take individual photos of each dancer in their costume. This was in an area in the large foyer. As it was actually during a performance, each child had to wait until their class had done their dance and then come and queue up for their picture to be taken. There was a long queue and I had been given the task of organising it as photographer's helper. Now as I said, my dd was on stage more often than off it, so had hardly any time for her photo to be done between scenes. As I managed the queue, DD appeared at my side, and I squeezed her into the next slot. She then shot back off to the dressing rooms. Several people in the queue had a right go at me for letting her jump the queue, and started to argue the toss with me. I knew all the chaperones and helpers, and none of these parents had ever lifted a finger to volunteer for anything. The owner of the dance school sauntered up and told them all to STFU, and if they wanted preferential treatment, they could jolly well earn it by being a parent volunteer like I was!

Ohnobackagain · 17/08/2025 18:16

OMG @FigTreeInEurope 😳🤣

LillyPJ · 17/08/2025 18:16

MidnightPatrol · 17/08/2025 16:18

My mum offered to loan me the money to pay for my university fees / loan, but at 1% below the government interest rate.

The logic was that this was a better interest rate on her savings at the time. Presented as doing me a massive favour.

Thanks mum. I should have taken it and paid it off over a full 40 year term to be petty.

How is that showing your mum to be entitled? Surely, it is a favour (if not a massive one). Or was she expecting it to be repaid quickly?

Arlanymor · 17/08/2025 18:17

I’ve changed a few details, because too outing otherwise but…

My sibling fell in with a bad crowd in her late teens. One night she went out to the local nightclub and met a guy who she brought back to our home - something that my mum would never have allowed. First we knew of it was when we were woken up at 5am by the police banging on our door to do a drugs raid as he’d been seen selling drugs at said night club. He was arrested, she was arrested. But she was supposed to be going to a job that day which was an off-shoot of her after college job - think if she worked in a cafe and they did outside catering for weddings and the like at weekends.

My mum was worried that my sister would lose her job - so I said I would go and sub for her… having worked a 12 hour day myself the day before. So off I went, it was silver service, did a good job, the client was really happy and even gave us a bonus and the boss paid us cash in hand. I got home - my sister was there - and said: “Where’s my money?” YOUR money?! She said: “You wouldn’t have got the work if it wasn’t for me - give me the wage and you can keep the bonus.” Erm missy, you wouldn’t still have a job if it wasn’t for me and I was supposed to be going to the beach with my boyfriend that day which I would have much preferred to working a 14-hour day off the back of a 12-hour one!

I didn’t give her the money. Even now I shake my head at it. Plus: YOU GOT OUR HOUSE RAIDED FOR DRUGS! I HAD TO HAVE A SHOWER WITH A FEMALE POLICE OFFICER IN THE ROOM!

Arlanymor · 17/08/2025 18:20

Ohnobackagain · 17/08/2025 18:16

I remember that @Arlanymor did you ever hear any more from him about it?

Thankfully after my sharp message back to him there was nothing more. He probably thinks I am an unreasonable cow, but I could not care less!

Shinyandnew1 · 17/08/2025 18:22

imacroissantgirl · 17/08/2025 17:32

Perfect for me to pop this in here, thank you OP.
Nice pub lunch out today that accepts dogs. Used Ladies on way out and whist washing hands the woman next to was rinsing out a dog bowl with gravy etc in. She must have felt my icy stare and explained she always shares her lunch with the dog. I gave her an eye-roll ‘lovely’ ….
Reported to management who eye-rolled too and said she’d send housekeeping could have used the outside tap!
Height of entitlement!

I don't actually get the problem here?

I don't have a dog, but giving your dog some leftovers in a bowl in a dog-friendly pub garden and then washing it out in the sink afterwards doesn't exactly warrant an ice stare and talking to the management!!

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 17/08/2025 18:24

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 17/08/2025 17:23

Staying with a friend in a really popular seaside town a few years ago and ended up at a hen do. At the do was a woman who chatted with me for a bit then added me on Facebook.

A year later I get a message out of the blue from her. " Hi hun. Let's catch up. We got on so well at the hen do didnt we? It would be so lovely to see you. Shall the kids and I come and stay?"

I realised she assumed I lived in the really popular seaside town and fancied a free holiday. So I decided to call her bluff and sent a reply along the lines of this.

"Hey Hun. Oh that would be so nice. Yes come and stay. I dont live in popular seaside town but in Grim Northern Town. Can't wait to see you"

She didnt reply then deleted me off Facebook. Cheeky cow.

That happened to us once. A neighbour we'd been really close friends with but he had a history of being a bit of a CF so we'd cooled it a bit with him and his wife, and then we'd moved and they'd not bothered to keep in contact. Let's say we'd moved to Sidmouth but he'd got it mixed up with Padstow.

Hi HeadDesk, been thinking about you two a lot recently, hope you are both well. Would really love to catch up with you again. I'm in Padstow next week visiting a client. Thought I'd come and stay for a couple of nights if that's okay?

(he had the sort of business where he'd have to pay for his own hotel when away and he was constantly struggling for money with his business lurching from one disaster to another. We'd lent him money before.)

Hi M, lovely to hear from you and yes it would be great to catch up. You are confused though, we don't live in Padstow, we live in Sidmouth. You could swing by on your way and we could meet for a pub lunch or something?

Radio silence. Not even any pretence at an excuse for why he couldn't make it. Just didn't respond.

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