Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

I was looking for a flat to rent once, when I was starting out. Some nice little one beds. A friend said "ah why don't we move in together! I'm looking in XYZ town too". No problem says I, and I start looking at 2 beds.

Then in conversation it turns out she wanted me to take on the lease on my own, so that if she decides to move on or away or whatever she wasn't trapped by the lease, and she didn't have anything for a deposit anyway but that was fine as I 'would have needed to pay one anyway and earned more'. On pointing out that would make me then lumbered with a more expensive lease for a 2 bed that I didn't need, she genuinely didn't get the issue.

As it turns out, I bought a 2 bed in the end. I offered her the spare room at a bit of a discount off market rate, plus bills obviously. She wanted to know how much the mortgage was so she could just pay half of that.

And did she even offer to volunteer once? No she didn’t. I work with volunteers and I totally recognise this CF behaviour. Think the world exists for their benefit.

She couldn't volunteer as she had to work

She was actually genuinely shocked when she realised that the majority of volunteers all worked as well. The ones that didn't were a couple of teachers on a career break, a retired HT and several students doing teaching or childcare at uni.

I was quite amused by her surprise at that as she had been leaving her children in our care for several years by then - despite thinking we were a bunch of unqualified randoms who just hired a hall 😂

We pre booked train tickets as a big group and this couple flat out refused to move from them. They said they were there first….not realising pre booked seats don’t work that way. A few of us tried to reason with them but they refused. The train was absolutely packed so we couldn’t easily go and get a member of staff. Karma was served though when I sat opposite them and opened my drink, it must have been fizzing about as it splatted all over their faces and their shopping bags.

Mind you the same grandmother was upset when she found out she was going to be moved from her 3bed Council house that she and grandad had raised their family in and lived for decades. So three of her children clubbed together to buy it (when you could) so she could stay there and never pay rent again. Opposite her were a row of 1bed sheltered accommodation bungalows. She then spent the next 15+ years complaining to them every time Mr or Mrs so&so across the road had any repairs by the Council because they got it done for FREE!

Generally she was lovely but also contrary at times

Some years ago we had a neighbour with no off-street parking who struggled to park near her house, so we said she could park in a corner of our drive (we have lots of room) if returning late at night, then move her car onto the street when a space opened up in the morning.

All was well at first but gradually over time she parked in our drive more & more at all times of day, leaving her car there for days on end in the most inconvenient spots. We reached the end of our patience when she left it parked particularly badly over an entire bank holiday weekend and when I went across to ask her to move it, I discovered she had gone away for 2 weeks.
When she returned we made it clear we wanted the arrangement to end - she was highly indignant, telling us we were selfish people who were takers, not givers like her.

It really is true that no good deed goes unpunished

Oh this is SO familiar! Most volunteers I know - myself included - also work, with the exception of retirees, students or SAHM who want to get out of the house for a bit. I think some people just think “Cheap childcare!” And their brain never progresses beyond that point, neither to look into the mechanics of how a place operates or to even consider maybe giving up some of their own time.

To be fair, she was a giver. She gave you a pain in the neck!

I was about to say similar!! I'm genuinely aghast at some of these...the two airport flights, the neighbours who wanted to borrow a complete strangers flashy car! You walked all the way from economy class to ask those who had paid £££s more than you in premium economy to swap?! @Jerseycreamtea , @RafaFan @Breadcat24 ! 🤭 There needs to be some type of scientific research into how such people think. Clearly they feel no sense of shame whatsoever. 😔

Relative asking her parents to give her a large deposit for a second home (apartment in a city) and getting stroppy when they refused. They're not part of the super-rich and she doesn't need a second home.

I had similar. And she called me racist when I moved along a couple of seats to maintain some distance in an otherwise empty cinema

Well don't go to see a kids' film and sit right next to one when there are dozens of other seats available then.

I’ve got horses, years ago a colleague who I don’t think I’d ever spoken to, asked me if her daughter who had just started riding lessons could come and ride them, I was quite polite about it thinking it was maybe a well meaning but bad idea, and said no, for various reasons including that I wouldn’t be insured for that and they are all competition fit ex racehorses, not suitable for a novice child.
She threw an absolute fit as she’d already told her daughter she could ride my horses…
She went on about this for weeks before I really firmly told her if she carried on I’d tell HR she was harassing me.

she never spoke to me again… thankfully.

hahaha i remember that thread - I hope you said "I don't remember"

Looked out my upstairs window one day just in time to see a guy in a cherry picker about to deposit a load of building materials in my driveway.
Ran downstairs to tell him we hadn't ordered anything, assuming this was an error and someone in a neighbouring street would be looking for their stuff (say we are 82 Green Street, there's also Green avenue, Green drive etc nearby so this happens).
Oh no, my next door neighbour was having work done and told them it was fine to deliver the materials to my drive so hers wasn't obstructed as she would want to use it while the work was being done.
We do have cars and use our drive daily so it's not like it sits empty to make her think we'd be ok with this, and even if it was empty all the time it would still be good manners to ask first!
The delivery man was quickly informed that it was very much not fine and dumped it all in her front garden.

Yes and interestingly, I afterwards discovered that almost everyone else in the road had had CF experiences with her - she had left her dog all day with one neighbour, having promised to return in an hour. She had asked another to keep a large quantity of meat in his freezer for her, as she didn't have a freezer herself. 3 months later it was still there and the neighbour was sick of the sight of it because he needed the freezer space himself - in the end he just dumped it on CF's doorstep

Some of these are truly awful! We live in our house with our business adjoining so our back gate goes in to the drive of the business premises which has a small car park. One weekend we noticed a car parked there, then another arrived. Our business is sometimes open at the weekends, so staff do use the car park intermittently. We were a bit confused as these weren’t staff cars and that particular weekend we were the ones working. We then noticed lots of cars at our neighbours across the road and realised they were having a party. It was daytime so we decided to leave it as it wasn’t a big issue.

However, that afternoon one particular elderly chap kept appearing at his car for a smoke. We noticed that’s what he was doing on probably the third occasion, and he was dropping the cigarette butts in the driveway. So my OH went out to ask what he was up to. He seemed to have no realisation that parking in our business driveway wasn’t completely acceptable, and that dropping litter whilst smoke blew into our garden might annoy us! He did move the car soon after. Our neighbours were mortified when they heard and brought a bottle of wine for us. He had obviously gone back and moaned at them!

I understand why you did this but I don't think I'd have had the guts to try it. Just in case the CF thought 'any port in a storm' and then still turned up on my doorstep 😬.

I grew up in a student city, lots of student houses in our street. One year some of them knocked on our door asking for our WiFi password “to save us getting our own”.

During Covid, one of my best friends asked me to take her mum’s dog to a specialist vet 40 miles away because none of them wanted to drive that far and put themselves at risk.

One of my friends lived with me rent free for 18 months. She didn’t even pay towards food. Lots of examples from this time but the main one was her complaining that my ds8 opened “her” cereal - which I had bought and was identical to “our” cereal, so he had assumed it was ours. But I was given a telling off for letting him in the kitchen unsupervised etc etc.

...What the actual?! What have I just read?! Words fail me. 😟

Ryanair do sit children with parents.
Its part of the booking process.

When my sister got married she wanted the wedding she wanted, not what she could afford, or rather, what’s our widowed mother could afford as neither the happy couple nor his family were paying towards it. She would not rein it In and my mother was worried she’d have to remortgage the house until my uncle stepped In and gave some money.

A few years later when I went to university the same uncle gave me some money towards living expenses. My sister was furious as she’d not had the same (she’d gone in the era of grants, not loans, and had had sponsorship so didn’t need anything extra). First she decided I should lend her the money, interest free, for a period of her choosing and, when I refused, told me to give it back. Of course she wasn’t going to return the money she’d been given, just me.

(Returning to the wedding, she was furious I, a non- working 16 year old (she hadn’t had a job at that age either) only bought one item from the very expensive gift registry. She insisted I bought something else so my mother paid for something on my behalf. Not sure why she felt so entitled to the little money I had then.)

If I had my work phone on me I could quote verbatim! But it was something along the lines of: “I don’t know as I have worked very hard to remove those dates from my memory because they are not representative of a time in my life I wish to recall and you know why.”

Something along those lines - whatever it was, it was enough that he didn’t respond and hasn’t bothered me since thankfully. I’m seeing his ex best mate at the end of the month and am looking forward to updating him as I know he’ll say: “God he never bloody changes does he? Cheeky pig!”

Although that’s a bit unfair on 🐷s!

I wonder if there's an "avoid right turns" option in her satnav settings? 🤔

indeed

Oh a serial CF then!