Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

Would you have swapped your more expensive seat for the cheap one?

A woman who had a) lived with me for 18 months paying 50 quid rent/ week (central London) b) I’d driven to Yorkshire when she finally sorted herself out (hiring a massive car to do so) got in touch 6 days before Xmas saying I needed to send her the TV she’d left me “as thanks” immediately because the one she’d bought when she moved “wasn’t as good”. I said no and luckily for me she replied “this friendship is over”.

she was a dreadful housemate and a worse friend so no loss really. Shame, though.

Oh god so many CFs!! Mine is me n OH helping FIL with garage clearance, well doing it all tbh. A weekend we could do was organised and we both work FT and have plenty of own stuff to do and prefer weekends to be family time with our DC, but FIL needed help. Had asked BIL and SIL if they could help few weeks before, Was only weekend in about the last 6 months One of them had a paid work event to attend and because of that other one was taking DC somewhere as other was working (bear in mind they hardly do anything extra curricular of any sort test of year) We just got on with said hot dusty job. Our kids pottered around a bit bored at FIL. Turns out one IL not helping actually had been made redundant and not only didn't help but also never offered to help that day after or week after with any remaining items for tip /charity shop run etc. They still don't understand why us two FT working people were annoyed we'd given up our time to do a job they could have easily done or shared with us in the week/weekend as they had no other employment or commitments. So lazy and annoying. FIL hated the mini rift and was a bit embarrassed I think.

I think it was rude. If someone corrected my spelling in such a patronising way it would really make me feel quite small.
(It's not likely to happen as I used to be a proofreader a long time ago but that's not the point)

It's just acting superior and it's unnecessary especially when the meaning was very obvious

Well done you for sticking up for the poor child.what a horrid woman

Mother expected me to hand over my asthma inhaler for her to keep for herself because she had run out and had lost her repeat prescription. I suggested that she phone the GP surgery and request a new prescription but apparently she would rather risk her daughters life than admit to making a mistake.

Some years ago, after finishing a work visit to the hospital, I was waiting at a Northern station (on the East coast line) for a train to Leeds. With me was a lovely lady who had asked me to help her get on the right train (she had just arrived from East Africa to visit her daughter in Leeds). There was an announcement that the train from London to Leeds was terminating at the station due to a fault and that the passengers needed to disembark and continue their journey on the local train I was waiting for. The local train arrived. i and the lady I was helping got on and managed to find two free seats at a 4 person table seat. Two other people were already sitting opposite with a box on the table in front of them. My companion and I sat down. The two already sitting there looked daggers at us and told us we had to move and stand as the seats were reserved for Miss World who was travelling from London to Leeds for an event at the Queens Hotel. Apparently in the box in front of us was the Miss World Crown! I pointed out that they were no longer on the London train and that on local trains there were no reserved seats, rathervit was first come first served as far as seat allocation was concerned and I refused to move. Words were exchanged but I stood my ground. Eventually ‘Miss World’ made her way down to where we were sitting. Although clearly fuming with me and my companion, (who I think they saw as just two middle aged non- entities) one of the crown minders stood to let her sit down, while we travelled in comfort.

You forgot two full stops 😂 !! Sorry, couldn't resist !! Who cares !!

I'm an AHP in the NHS, in a job with universally long waiting lists. I work full time (with children) and have my own DC.

I have never worked privately and very open about why to anyone who knows me - life is busy, stressful and I like see and concentrate on my own children occasionally. It's eye opening how often I'm approached by friends of friends and strangers who present their children and want an on the spot assessment and advice, and I've been told! on more than one occasion by parents that they'll just bring their kids to my house so I can see them properly. I obviously shut these down asap and am always very quick to signpost them to private services, and I even have a link bookmarked on my phone so I can pass this on straight away. I know these parents are concerned but there seems to be an assumption at times that because it's my job then it's perfectly ok and fine to be on call 7 days a week, and my time at the park/my home/waiting for my kids at school on the very rare occasion I have a day off to do a school run is an extension of my work hours

Lent my car to a friend who was moving house. I gave him three days (which I thought was generous). I met up with him on day four and he dropped me home but didn’t get out the car so I asked what was going on. He said “oh I thought we could just keep it for as long as we wanted”!
But I needed it back because I was lending it to my then boyfriend who started using it for Deliveroo on rainy days. Then that turned into everyday. Then he said he was going to sell his moped and use my car full time! He expected to be able to only pay for petrol to use it 8+ hours a day as “you’d have to pay for everything else anyway if I wasn’t here”. By that point he’d already done more miles in 3 months than I’d done in the last year and a half

I’ve told this story under a different name before. DH and I booked a holiday in the Caribbean at a lovely (and expensive) small hotel, back in the days when we had more money. It was a special holiday so after much debate, we decided to stump up a reasonable bit extra to go during the fortnight that was strictly child-free (marketed as such and very much stressed).

We arrived and it was all delightful but one morning, at the small pool we liked to sit by, rather than the beach, there were two quite young children splashing and romping about. And they were then there every day, with their grandparents, a distinctly posh older couple who were our fellow-guests. Two others, evidently the parents, showed up too, who we didn’t recognise.

We sat astonished as we listened to the adults congratulating themselves on their clever wheeze. The parents and children had booked into the neighbouring hotel along the beach, a much bigger, noisier and less attractive place. Every day they walked along to our hotel to meet the grandparents as their guests and spent the whole day using our hotel's much nicer facilities. We'd paid appreciably more to be there during what was advertised as strictly child-free so we were not happy, to put it mildly.

I've often wished we made a big fuss but we were too stupidly polite. I’d be more assertive now.

You clearly haven’t RTFT.

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That's phone typing for you! 😀

@Shouldgivethisup that sounds like something Liz Jones would do, especially with the London and Yorkshire connection!

This is amazing. But you should have posted her keys through the other neighbours door, kill 2 birds with one stone.

As a teen I volunteered at a large outdoor competition type event for kids. The volunteers were all there 6am-6pm and we ran the entire event. No paid staff, majority of volunteers were high schoolers or college students. There were multiple catering stands positioned around the whole event as this was the main way we made any money so plenty of opportunity for the parents and competitors to buy refreshments.

There was also a volunteers tent with free food and drink for the volunteers. They never gave us enough, so we'd always run out before the end of each shift.

I was running the volunteer tent towards the end of the day when a woman I didn't recognize pushed her way into the tent to the front of the refreshments line. I asked her if she was a volunteer, she said no she was a mom of one of the competitors, but was gasping for a coffee and the lines at the drinks stands were too long. So she wanted me to give her a coffee out of the volunteer supply.

I explained to her this was the volunteer tent and was only serving volunteers, I couldn't take payment so she'd need to go and stand in line with everyone else.

She said no, that was fine, she'd take a free coffee here.

So she expected me to serve her for free because she was so desperate for caffeine she couldn't stand in line with everyone else.

I'd had a crap day and was only doing this job to get work experience for a paid job application in the fall, so I argued back with her that we couldn't just give out free coffee to any mom who didn't want to stand in line or there would be none left for the volunteers. She called me every name under the sun for denying a 'hard working mom a cup of coffee.' The nearest coffee stand for non-volunteers was about 10 feet away.

The volunteer manager finally stepped in when she told me to go fuck myself. I was a minor at the time. She and her kid were banned from the competition. She had to be escorted off site screaming and raging.

FIL asking you to change your wedding breakfast just for them, literally the week of the wedding. Yes, the invitations asked guests if they had any dietary needs/requests. No, he didn't respond with any. No, he doesn't have any allergies/religious requirements, he just didn't like what we picked (which would have been fin if he'd not left it until 3 days before the wedding).
My friend who is a volunteer ref for kids' football and gets sworn at by all the parents if their darlings foul and she calls them out on it.
When I helped out at a primary fundraiser, reluctantly, as I work FT, and quite a few parents (who don't work) complained about how the thing was organised. I did suggest they were welcome to volunteer and organise the next one.
When you're organising a Christmas meal out for a big group (not part of my job, not getting paid/time to do so) and everyone acts like you're supposed to be their mum. Why do adult professionals expect you to memorise/guess all their food requirements/sort their transport/ forget to pay by the deadline/refuse to confirm if they're going and get shirty when they're not given a place?
My friend works at an afterschool and a parent was late because she was getting her hair done, and seemed to think it was fine for my friend just to wait about for her.
She also told me one of the teachers at the school has parents who take their kids out of school for holidays, then expect her to use her own time to prepare notes/give help for them to catch up.
The other parent from nursery who (when his daughter asked for a play date with mine, and I suggested the local soft play) expected me just to take both kids for the whole day-he had never met me before!
I wish I was making these up.

This story is not about me, I had a CF friend who told me about this situation with her ‘unreasonable’ friend and I was gobsmacked!

CF had made a new friend in the local area a few months earlier. CF’s new friend was getting married and invited CF to the evening reception. The venue was in a different area of London to where we all lived, not reachable by tube.

CF said she was broke so asked the bride to arrange a transfer for her. Bride tried to help by seeing if someone else could share a cab, but it didn’t work. CF asked the bride to arrange cabs for her and cover the cost and was annoyed when bride declined.

I explained to CF that, as it was the evening reception, guests often self-fund transfers and drinks. But she believed she shouldn’t have to incur costs as the guest and so asked the bride how she was supposed to get to the evening reception without having to pay. As the bride had invited CF, she believed it was the bride’s responsibility to get her to the venue and back safely.

The bride stopped responding to further messages in the days leading up to her wedding. Apparently CF even messaged the bride on the morning of her wedding day to follow up as she was waiting to hear if she should be going to the reception that evening or not.

Needless to say, CF got a frosty response from the bride a few days after the wedding and the friendship did not continue. CF was totally perplexed as to why that was the case!

Not Liz J but a lady with a similar fondness for fillers. She looked like Barry Manilow last time I saw her. No wonder she was so stingy

Another sewist here who’s had the “could you just make me <insert item of clothing here>? I’ll buy the fabric” request.

Like I have nothing better to do with my limited spare time than make stuff for other people, let alone trying to get a decent fit. I could be using that time to sew myself something!

I've had that with the lat pull. Have truthfully responded that I'll be a while - I usually do lats, triceps and biceps.

My example is insignificant compared to most of the others, but would this annoy you or not really?

SIL is a master of CFery.
She always asks people who live in desirable places if her whole family (she, DH, 3 DC), including an old schoolfriend she'd had no contact with for 20 years, can come to stay. She phoned her to say they would be coming for 2 weeks and had already booked flights. When she got home she complained about their host despite their holiday costing them nothing except flights.

She asks people for lifts and never, ever contributes to petrol or parking, no matter how long the journey.

She asked DH and me to buy a car for her eldest to learn to drive in, with a view to our eldest (3 years younger) eventually using it. Meanwhile it would be kept at their house, for them to use.

So many more but these are probably her worst.

Yeah because workmen( whilst working in someone’s house and being paid for it ) all go to the house next door to do jobs for them for free don’t they ??🤔