Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

My MIL has form for being a CF.
We used to celebrate Christmas Day at her house with all the family. Since it was a lot of work and expense we spread the catering between us all. My DFIL was a big fan of my trifle so along with the chestnut stuffing and Christmas cake I would make a large trifle every year.
One year I was surprised to find that no one had touched the trifle and as we were leaving everyone was offered whatever was left of their offering to take home because MIL & FIL couldn’t possibly eat it all. My trifle was no where to be seen. I suggested transferring half of it into a container but MIL was adamant they would enjoy it. Everyone else was loaded up with leftovers at this point.
Anyway the following evening DH commented that he really fancied some trifle, he rang her up to see if it was ok to call in and “pinch” a plateful. We live 2mins away and she is normally generous to a fault with food. She had a massive strop and said how rude it was of him to ask to have a “gift” back. All very odd since she’d been returning food to everyone else the day before.

Anyway she told him not to bother calling round and he could collect the empty dish the following day. Again, we were puzzled as to how they had managed to consume a huge trifle between the two of them in 24hrs.

We were left feeling very much the CF and apologised to her when we collected the dish.

We later found out that they had hosted a big family Boxing Day tea to which we hadn’t been invited. She’d also passed the trifle off as her own.

Name changed for this.
Our (then) upcoming wedding. DP (now DH)'s brother. Had a former girlfriend, and they have a child together.
They had been split up for months and months, after an awful period where she was physically and emotionally abusive towards him. She was - and is - generally a nasty piece of work. DH's brother had moved on romantically, with several other women (cough). So... in terms of a romantic relationship, it was very much over.
So... we sent out the invites and naturally did not invite the former girlfriend. Because why would you invite someone's ex girlfriend to a wedding, especially one who was physically violent (DV) towards their former partner?
Well.
...... DH's brother, and mother, both threatened not to come to the wedding unless we invited the former girlfriend. Even though they'd been split up for ages, and had assaulted him. Something to do with it having the potential to upset her. Not our problem.
And no, DH's family weren't even paying for the bloody thing either.

Ugh, maddening. I've told DH about couple of similar incidents and he said 'oh but no-one ever does that to me'. Well, no, you're nearly 7' tall and look like you could fold them into a pretzel... Mind you, as you said it's a bloody good motivation to go up a weight or add reps 🤣

A colleague at work (same seniority) once explained to me at great length that one of his areas of responsibility was very tedious and he was now very busy and important and didn't think he should have to deal with that stuff any more and how about I take it on? I laughed at him and told him not to try and switch to sales, he was rubbish at it.

It's so unbelievably rude and ungracious to correct someone's grammar. I would never dream of embarrassing someone in such a manner, and let's face it: very few people appreciate being corrected on this unless they are learning a new language and even then it can be dicey. Even if my husband uses the wrong word or mispronounces something, I'm very careful about how (if) I will broach the subject because it's just so belittling. I will correct my own children, because I am their parent and that is my job, but I wouldn't dream of correcting another adult. It's so incredibly condescending and you are more likely to be side eyed for being that person than whoever made the mistake. It is rude, patronising, bad-mannered and actually insufferable behaviour. I can be as pedantic as the next person, but calling other grown ups out on their spelling, unless you are literally their tutor, is nobody's business.

Oh that makes me sad! Why weren’t you invited?? Had she fallen out with her own son??

This is a great thread! I'm loving it!

They walk amongst us and know no shame or feel they are owed.

You are joking ?? She should have given up a seat that cost hundreds of euro more ??

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If I can understand someone clearly then no I don't correct them.

Your own kids, it's your job to correct stuff like that. It's ONLY your kids you can correct.

What people absolutely don't do is wade in with a stick up the arse and correct a total stranger on a spelling error. Not ever. It makes someone look like they get swerved at parties.

If you read @Spidey66's OP you'll see the CF wanted the OP's premium seat, you know, the one the OP had paid for, while offering her economy one.

Eh? The OP PAID for a premium economy seat. Why should she have given up her seat to someone who had paid for an economy seat only? The woman may have tried to book premium economy only to find there was no more available which is tough luck. If the airline messed up, it is for the airline to sort. The price difference can run to hundreds of pounds. Why should the OP subsidise a complete stranger?

I didn't think the correction was rude at all. It wasn't belittling their grammar or education. If there's a word you don't use use frequently you can easily mix up homophones and use the incorrect word.
It wouldn't bother me to be corrected - for instance I assumed for years that the set of steps to cross a fence was a style rather than a stile until I was told otherwise.

Unless you were planning to fill the sink with water and wash your face in it - which would be bizarre - I can't see how this had any negative impact on you at all.

CF right here ☝️

Yes, literacy matters, but so do social norms. You don’t know the poster, and even if you did, it’s not exactly gracious to correct them publicly. You’re not their parent, their teacher, or someone they’ve asked for feedback from. The post was perfectly clear. Jumping in to correct grammar uninvited doesn’t say much about them. It may, however, say a little bit about you.

Some years ago a woman i had been bridesmaid for asked me to have her kids overnight so she and her DH could go to this hotel (said she had found a deal) for the night. She was heavily pregnant when they got married. I agreed and she seemed super excited about it. Cut to week before and I bump into other friend of hers who says she'll see me on Saturday for the dinner dance/delayed wedding party. Every wedding guest was booked in for the overnight stay except me...she tried to say I was the only single one going (I wasn't) and they only had double rooms!
I suddenly remembered I had other plans and never saw or spoke to her again!!

Are you for real?? I booked a long haul flight recently and premium economy was 600€ more expensive than regular economy. You think the OP is being mean for not just giving someone something she paid hundreds of pounds for?

All of the things you say could be absolutely true and it would still not be the OP's problem.

I provide a paid for professional service. One client pleaded poverty and said she really needed what I provided but was struggling to pay my fee. My fee is very reasonable and cheaper than other providers.

Against my better judgment I agreed to a massive discount as she was very anxious to have the document. Then she added she needed it done quickly as she was flying to Australia in a few days !!! Binned her off entirely and she couldn’t understand why. Have hardened up now - no fee no service I have learned the hard way as any kind gesture by a business owner is just exploited by the public.

I’ve just come off a Ryanair flight. We booked and paid for seats but the family behind clearly handnt. They sat two primary age children in seats an and b and mum in seat d. Dad was seated further up the plane. They then allocated seat c to a solo (or at least not sat with her companions) traveller. Was easily resolved as solo traveller in seat c was happy to swap for seat d but I do think it was unnecessary to allocate seating in this way.

I haven’t spoken to my IL’s in over a year because they treated me appallingly when I last saw them (and I was going through a very very challenging time to put it lightly). Alas that’s what happens when your mother in law is a narcissist, heaven forbid they think about empathy. They are aware that they owe me an apology (the entire family has told them this) and there’s absolutely no movement from me until I get one but instead have left it that ‘they are there when I am ready’ !!

Apart from they now need some professional advice linked to my career and have come asking questions and would I help them out… via my husband. He quite eloquently signposted them to how to get this advice elsewhere! It’s quite amusing really because everyone is saying to them ‘oh why don’t you just ask your daughter in law, she can advise you’ and of course they couldn’t possibly say that she’s not speaking to us!!

The poster I was replying to was making a general consensus that it's perfectly fine to correct people's grammar in order to raise literacy standards across the nation. I've mispronounced words in the past and have said the wrong thing but I figured it out in time and certainly would not have thanked any of my peers for taking it upon themselves to educate me.

I was a nurse and had an absolute nightmare night shift with no breaks. Had a big incident happen so had to stay after work to fill in an incident form, so tired I could hardly see. Sat in an open office with 5 other computers that anyone could use. Colleague came in for office day, parked all his bags next to me and stood behind me, complaining very loudly that he wanted to use the computer. Refused to use any other computer even though they were free. Made many snarky comments to other comments about ‘how slow I was’ etc when other colleagues asked what he was doing. Made it so much harder to concentrate. Still makes me angry now. I would have made him a coffee and a snack if roles had been reversed, that’s what makes it worse

I was on a bus alone with my newborn in her pram 2 weeks after she was born via c section. There was one other lady with a little one that looked around 2-3years old the mum was dressed head to toe in designer clothes and had a designer handbag hanging from the buggy handles. Only 2 pushchair spaces on the bus. Another lady went to get on the bus with a kid aged around 2 in a pushchair half asleep and the driver had told her that she would have to fold down her pushchair or she could wait for the next bus which she refused to do. She told the driver to make me either fold down my pram or get off. Driver told her she could ask but couldn't make either one of us fold our prams as we were on there first. She came to the other lady (dripping in designer stuff)first asking could she fold her buggy as she didn't want to fold hers the lady told her told she couldn't as her buggy frame was snapped and folding it would completely break it..she then came to ask me I told her I'm sorry but I can't my baby is newborn and I had only had a c section two weeks previously so couldn't lift the car seat off the pram by myself she said "I don't care how old your baby is just fold your fucking pram so I can get mine on" safe to say I refused and she walked off the bus in a huff stating nobody gave a shit about her and that nobody wanted to help her