Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

Oh another one. One of the school mums wanted her DD to do an activity like Rainbows, a paid for activity that’s run by volunteers but there was a waiting list at the time. You got to skip the waiting list if you agreed to volunteer. She didn’t want to volunteer herself so asked in the class WhatsApp group if anyone else would be willing to so her DD could skip the queue.

Mine is a fairly minor one compared with many others. If Extreme CF was an Olympic sport, some people would be rattling with gold medals.

Many years ago, I had a friend who lived on the other side of town from me. She was an intelligent woman who could be pleasant when she chose to be, but her social awareness left a lot to be desired. For context, I worked full time and she didn't. I didn't have access to a car and she did. On one occasion, she and her DH were going away for a week and she asked me, in exactly these words, if "you could see your way to visit the house" twice a day to feed the cat." She really couldn't see a problem with putting her cat-care issues on someone who didn't live nearby, was at work all day and didn't have transport. And the snotty way she asked was the icing on the cake. At that time, I was a hopeless people pleaser with no boundaries, but this was too much even for me. I said no immediately and she was not pleased, but nor did she ask again.

You were supposed to rush in on your day off and do it for free, of course/s

@Judiezones do you, and others, tell her to fuck off, or does she get away with it

Babies in arms are never separated from their mothers in flights.

I just say no. If she asks for a lift I'm unable to. The car thing, we just laughed at her and she said we were missing a valuable business opportunity 😂.
The couple she took advantage of by staying with them for 2 weeks no longer respond to her.
I got wise to her long ago, other people tend to.

An absolute brass neck, I agree. On the other hand, not long ago, a workman painting the outside of next door's house (we're in a terrace) tried to get me to agree to ours being done while they were there. I made the error of admiring their handiwork. Bad move😁

I get on the bus 5 days a week for work. Same time everyday, one day a lady gets on a few stops after me, marches down the back and stares directly into my soul, I carry on playing on my phone, I hear excuse me… I lookup ask if I can help her, at this point I’m not sure what the issue is, my bag wasn’t on the other seat so she could have just sat down. She then says…
‘ can you please move seats because I get this bus every day, and this is where I sit’
I replied I don’t think so, because I’m on this bus 5 days a week and I pretty much sit here and I’ve never seen you on here before. Also it’s first come first serve’
she huffs and puffs whilst still staring at me, baring in mind this woman is mayb 8/9 years older, I’m not sitting in a priority seat, she turns around and says I should respect my elders. At this point I just laughed and continued looking at my phone and she sat in the seat across from me staring daggers at my head, think she thought I was going to get off before her but I get the bus to the end of route. And guess what I never saw her on that bus again 😂

on another note, the level of entitlement in the country is through the roof. I will happily give up my seat for someone in need, but not if they straight out ask me with an attitude and expectation especially if I’m not sitting in a priority seat.

another one that gets me is people wanting to know the ins and outs of celebrity or influencers life, people act like they are entitled to bully, harass and be downright rude to people because they put parts of thier lives online. They are entitled to a somewhat private life and don’t have to share everything.

DH has just reminded me of two others.

We were on holiday in Crete when the DC were smaller. A family hotel with kids clubs/several pools/on the beach etc. Because we had DC of about 6 & 8 at the time, we were mostly at the family pool where there was a sort of play area in the pool for kids, water shooters, inflatables etc so it was noisier than the other pools which were lovely and quiet.

One morning we were throwing a beach ball to the DC - not screaming, but just throwing a ball and catching and the associate noise that goes with playing 'catch' in a pool with DC. Suddenly this woman who had been lying on a lounger a few feet away, sat up and started telling us we were selfish and she was trying to sleep. DH pointed out that it was 11am and that this was the family pool at which point she actually started yelling about the fact that she had a flight to catch later, but had been forced to check out at 10am so couldn't sleep in her room. Again, DH pointed out that there were other pools or quieter spots but she insisted she needed to be at this pool as it was nearest to the area where the coach would collect her at 4pm. When DH again said that we weren't going to silence our kids for her, she stood up and started dragging loungers and tables around her to build a fortress. She told us that if one drip of water landed in her 'area' she would complain to management and that we were rude and not raising our children properly.

We had been about to go the beach but decided to stay and teach our DS to dive that day, instead.

And the other one

DH used to manage a local football team when DS was about 6-11. Rain or shine, he'd be there putting up nets, organising teams, overseeing training and giving lifts to those that couldn't get to away games. All voluntary.

One morning, a mum who rarely came to watch had asked if we could take her and her DS to the away match so we brought her with us in the car. DH was on the sidelines doing is thing when suddenly, mid first-half, the heavens opened and it started tipping with rain - really bucketing. At half time, a soaking DH came over to get his coat but couldn't find it. We looked and looked before finally realising that the mum we'd driven down had taken DHs coat out of his bag, unrolled it, turned it over (so it was fleece lining side down on the sodden grass) and was sat on it AND WAS HOLDING HIS HOODIE OVER HER HEAD. I don't think I have ever witnessed such shameless, thick skinned CFuckery in my life.

I was on 8 hour plane journey 3 days ago, I had booked, & paid for specific seats. Then a whole family of young fit people got on & started asking several people to move to accommodate their wish to sit together. I said if you wanted to sit together you needed to book & pay like I did. They were really loud, rude & displeased & asked the hostess to move us. I said "Are they going to pay for me to sit in business or first class? if not they can get stuffed. because I planned ahead, my H is handicapped, I do not want to be in a row of 4, we are in these seats because I want to be in a row of 2, & its staying that way."
They then asked me to apologise." Oh do Fuck off"

That’s appalling, @SlightlySeethrough. What did she say when you confronted her to get his coat back??

I actually have a photo of it. We took a picture so that we would never doubt that it really happened. She didn't know, we took it from the back but I still have it.

DH went over, dripping wet, and said - you're sitting on my coat! And she literally said something like "yeah, it started raining". He then had to push again and actually ask for it back, and she was a bit huffy and pointed out that the inside 'might be wet' because she'd wanted to sit on the waterproof bit. She gave it back but it was soaked and filthy. He then sort of say "oh, you've got my hoodie too" and she said words to the effect of "you can take it, it's not really helping".

She also asked if we could leave early, and when DH pointed out that no, he was the manager and her DS was playing the match, she asked if I could drop her home and come back. Again, no.

She was deranged.

Honestly, this was about 10 years ago and I have never witnessed such blatant shamelessness.

A dear friend (love her but this was too much). Comfortable middle class family. Her DH was in prison for tax evasion (he was an idiot). She goes to visit. Comes out and starts complaining how they treated her with no courtesy at all and that they didn’t even offer her a cup of tea! I had to suppress a smile and remind her that her husband was in prison for committing a crime, not in hospital for breaking a leg….
My own (minor compared to others) is my visiting son once accepted a large delivery for a house a couple doors down. I happily accept for my immediate neighbours but no one else after past experience. I also knew that the occupants had died so no one was living there. So a few days later the daughter came round and was quite grateful and we chatted briefly about the house and she said she wasn’t sure what to do with it. Fine she took her big box and left. Since then I’ve had three couriers knock asking to leave very large boxes with us. I refuse and they all say ‘oh but we have you as accepting deliveries’. Nope. A small box I wouldn’t mind even though I have no contact number and she doesn’t live locally. But she’s never asked and the boxes are BIG (at least the size of a dishwasher).

I interviewed a woman once and later rang to offer her the job. She wanted time to think about it and said she’d email me.

She later sent an email with the job description which she’d completely rewritten, made the job more senior (reporting not to me but to my boss) and given the role a £10k payrise. Then asked if I’d consider offering her this job instead.

I had something similar. My neighbour gave instructions to the post office to deliver all parcels to me without asking me. I found out when telling my postman that I wouldn’t accept any more for him as they were growing in volume, both number and size and it became inconvenient.

I’ve posted this before.

My youngest DD had a martial arts grading. It’s held in a local community center sports hall and all the seating is foldable chairs on one level. As such myself and DH like to get there early to get a seat near the front. So we arrive probably 20 mins early and get front row seats. Just before the grading starts, a woman walks in and comes up to myself and DH and asks us to move. Cue some confusion from us as we’re not really sure what she’s asking but she confirms that yes, she wants us to move so she can have our seats. We (obviously) refuse and she starts to argue and plead with us. She wants to see her son, take pictures. He’s nervous and needs to see her etc etc. DH says yep exactly why we got here early for our daughter and we refuse again. But she won’t take no for an answer. While this is going on her husband is hissing and calling her back very obviously embarrassed. After our final answer of no we just decide to ignore her at which point she starts walking along the front row asking others to move. She gets short thrift from everyone and eventually takes a seat down the back all the while muttering and giving out that no one would move for her

Was an utterly bizarre encounter and still can’t get over the entitlement

I find this sort of correction so rude. I really do. This isn't school, this is another adult sharing a story. Unless the spelling genuinely means you don't understand what the poster is saying, just keep it to yourself.

Says a lot about the poster doesn't it?
So rude and uncalled for

Thread police alert. 🚓🚓.

It fascinates me too! These are my favourite threads. Someone needs to do a PhD on Cheeky Fuckers.

This is amazingly bonkers 😂

My CF neighbours. Instead of asking like a normal household, they waited until we had gone away for a week, came onto our land and hacked two trees which are near our boundary. They looked like they'd been chewed, no proper trimming, just cut two meters from the boundary.
So when I went away for my next holiday I parked my car directly under the tree, no access at all. I can do petty too!

What did management do and How was it all after the fact

Oh get a grip, OP does not sound nasty. We do not all have to ‘be kind’ to blatant CFery. And most of the stories on here are blatant CFers (possibly not the dog bowl one).

threads like this can be good. Other people reading them can learn how to respond to such situations, stand up for themselves and deal with them on the spot instead of wishing afterwards they had spoken up or not put up with it.

I’ve quite enjoyed reading these stories. I don’t really have any to add but am shocked at the level of CFery from so many! I especially love reading the ones where the poster has not taken any shit from the CFers.

I used to work away from home, and wherever I was contracted for more than six months I would rent a house. 20 years ago at one contract I rented a farmhouse - the owner had riding stables and lived next door. As she hadn't sorted out a separate meter I agreed to pay the bills 50/50. After a few months she must have decided the bills were a lot higher than she'd thought they would be because I came home from work and discovered she'd had a pay meter installed. I wasn't thrilled as a bit of notice would have been good - it was a £1 coin meter.

I went to the local shop and got ten £1 coins to tide me over. Went back to the house and it ATE that £10 in less than two hours. I spoke to the landlord the next day but she was adamant it must just be because I was leaving things switched on.

My friends came round the next day and we started testing the meter by switching everything off - the meter was still spinning like a demon. We eventually discovered another switch in the basement and turned it off. All the lights on the outside of the property went off, including the lighting in her massive stables and arena area and her massive illuminated sign advertising her stables. We didn't put that switch back on again.

The next day she demanded we turn them back on. We said not until she properly separated the electrics or reverted to the original agreement. In the end she caved and put it all back the way it was originally, but the goodwill was gone at that point. She also had to refund me all the money I'd put in (this took nearly a fortnight to sort out).

When I left a year later we ensured the property was immaculate. We asked her to do a walk round but she said no, there was no need. The CF then tried to keep my deposit on the grounds I'd moved her antique furniture to a different position (I had - she didn't say I couldn't in the lease). Luckily I'd taken photographs of everything on the day I moved in and the day I left. I passed these to the Agents, who explained to her that she would not win, and I got my full deposit returned.