Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

Middle one fair enough but the last one the bloke was totally being fair. I sometimes ask people how many sets they have left and other people ask me. It tells me whether it’s worth waiting or not. If I only have an hour to work out and it’s my last machine I’ll wait if you have one set left, but if you’re planning to be there for half an hour I know to skip that one.

I’ve never asked someone if I can jump in first (though been tempted - there one woman at my gym who spends 30 minutes plus on every machine, whereas I can do three sets in around 6-8 minutes). I wouldn’t mind someone asking and might go for it if there are other machines free that I want to use.

That was piss poor correcting. We're not at school here and don't need pulling up in a patronising way.

And it’s classist too… unless you’re in pedantry corner, people could do well to remember Marvello…

Another candidate for the Gobsmacked emoji. I'm sure a grammar lesson was exactly what that poor OP needed. 🙄

My DD has a workmate who's a CF. Lots of examples, the worst is that she took her child to a hospital appointment and she asked the nurse to get her a drink because she hadn't had one since leaving home! The nurse quite rightly said no and pointed out the shop and cafe a few yards away. CF now tells everyone how rude and useless the staff at that hospital are!

That's 100% it. They don't care. They cannot empathise because everything is all about them!

I get what you're saying, but im not sure this is the best place to correct? I did think of sending the poster a note, but then, well we all understood what she meant.

Ummm she's expecting him to contribute to housing the 3 kids.

He's not divorcing his kids, they're still his responsibility

I’ve been asked this on very short flights. Like 2 hours or less. I’m like, seriously you can’t stand not sitting next to your partner for a couple of hours?? No. Once my DH and I got separated, despite booking together, probably because we don’t share surname. Anyway we are chatting a bit across the aisle before take off and the guy next to my DH volunteers his seat. I think people just don’t like feeling forced.

Well, she's left that part out.

i Was with my son and mum at a busy food court in London. We got our food and seats which were large picnic bench style. It was very busy and not easy to get a seat. As we were seated a tour guide was saving seats on the next bench, probably for around 16 people! A woman had bought her food and proceeded to sit in one of the tour guides empty seats. The tour guide told her to move as the seats were reserved, even though this was for people who were not even there and there were people with their food stood without seats, so she thought it was ok for people to stand without seats food whilst she reverses 16 empty seats!

Very minor in the grand scheme of CF-ery but there is a woman I know through school who is one of life's takers. She was the one complaining about the PTA events while being simultaneously too busy to ever get involved with even the simplest task to help out, contacting teachers to ask why her child hadn't been chosen for a role in the nativity, or asking a mutual friend to store one box in their spare room and turning up with 20.

Anyway. I was on my way to the bank one morning with the takings from the weekend at the charity shop where I volunteer when I spotted CF and her dog coming towards me. Oh Genie! It's so lovely to see you! I was just thinking about you! Now if you could just hold Dog for 3 secs while I pop into Boots...

This all happened in 5 seconds flat and I honestly do not know how I was left standing in the street, holding a fecking labrador, with a couple of thousand pounds in my bag while CF collected her prescription. In the rain. And when she finally emerged, she didn't say thank you, but just complained about how slow the staff are in Boots.

(Her name is not Eileen).

Oh nooo never tell someone you can sew!! That’s the first rule of sewing club!

My SIL has never liked me, and has gone out of her way to exclude me and talk badly behind my back for years. When her new baby was born, she was livid I didn’t rush over with a present for her 🙄 she was also outraged that people would dare show up to her wedding with just a card. Not the worst I know, but have some awareness love.

A few months ago my ex next-door neighbour who is still a landlord for the property wanted to borrow my parking space. I rent it out, but said she could book it herself on the app. She then had the nerve to "call me out" for not giving it to her free of charge. I might have felt inclined to do that had her parents not previously helped themselves to it on several occasions when she still lived here, thus costing me several bookings.

A man sat down next to me on a plane and took up a few inches of what was clearly my space. I asked him to move over, to which he replied that I would just have to get used to it. I responded by ramming the in-flight magazine into the gap between the seats to form an impromptu barricade.

Urgh no good deed goes unpunished. I also have a small flat in Europe that a family member had used with her family for free.

I was there for a short break with the aforementioned CF again they were making no contribution. We were chatting about yet another free holiday stay they had wrangled from a different family member in Portugal. They said, oh but that accommodation was basically a shed, at least yours is one step up from that.

Then they stood up, took off a shoe and smashed a spider to smithereens across my white paint work and walked off leaving it there!

They clearly think my flat is nothing more than a doss house.

Could you have comfortably afford to?

Nah. This makes no sense. Its illogical. Think it through! In the loos some people will, on occasion, be washing their shit off their fingers, and you’re worried dog adjacent gravy is more concerning?! 😂

Well said.

No she mentioned both the divorce and the 3 children and that her ex didn't give a fuck about what happened to his children as long as he got half the value of the house.

And surely it's pretty obvious ??

It’s a given, she didn’t need to spell it out.

As a Christmas present I paid for a friend to attend a day festival the following June.
we both agreed we’d save up and make the most of the day. I did. She didn’t and on the day complained how expensive food and drinks were and that she didn’t have enough to get a souvenir tshirt( £20 at the time)
She expected me to get her one. After I’d spend over £100 on the tickets.

She was spending £10 a time on scratch cards every week.

I told her if she’d put even £5 of those aside each week she would have had over £100 for the day. I think she was shocked that I said no.

I used to do dog home boarding.

Daycare was £20 per day (8am-6pm) and overnight was £25.

Someone asked me to pick up their dog at 7am, and then drop it back at 9pm, every day for 10 days. For the day rate of £20.

Not only was this taking the piss to expect me to extend my hours as well as picking up and dropping off to their house 15 minutes drive away, but they were obviously leaving their poor dog home alone overnight. To save £5 a day.

And they were very well off.

I said no. They were very pissed off.

This is a story and a half of a CF, if any of my friends are on here they will recognise it !!

We have a holiday apartment which we rent out when we are not using it. Last summer our friends were staying there when a family, who were renting the apartment above, knocked on the door asking our friends when they were leaving and if they could rent it after them. Friends passed on our number and the lady called me, I gave her the number of our agent but she asked if we could do it directly, they only needed one bedroom as they were a bit on top of each other in the other apartment and they would only use the bedroom and bathroom, not use kitchen or living room. I was a bit reluctant but as it wasn't rented for the 5 days she wanted it for, and our agents had a 7 day minumum rental, I agreed. I explained that I have nothing to do with rentals normally, but as it was just the room, and the rate was heavily discounted, there would be no bells or whistles,

They were barely in there an hour when she called me asking for a tourist discount book, which I knew nothing about, she called me back with the number of the tourist office for me to call them to arrange for them to collect the discount book, so I make the call, the tourist office says as I am not registered as an agency they couldn't issue it to me, it had to go through a holiday letting agency. So I call back and explained this to her and she asks 'can't you ask your agency to organise it'? well no, you bypassed the agency.

About a week after they left, I get a call from her, 'we left a package in the hallway from the upstairs apartment, would you mind shipping it to us'. No, I live hours away. 'Do you think you could get someone to ship it for us, maybe your agent," . Why not ask the agent who rented you the other apartment. "Well, we could, but he was asking for an admin fee."

Fast forward to this year, I get a call from an unknown number, answer it, it's her looking to rent our apartment for the same period. I politely said our friends are using it again this year, starts quizzing me about their dates, she then starts asking if we have any friends who would rent directly to them, politely tell her we know no one in that village who rents out their property, and then she proceeds to ask me to check other holiday apartments availability for her. At that point I think my voice was almost hysterical telling her, noooo, check it yourself.

A few weeks later she calls back, multiple times but I don't answer. I get a call from a number I don't recognise, pick up and it's her, 'Just wondering if your friends are flexible and could change their dates". WTF, I am still polite and say no, they have flights booked, she then offers to "pay more" to rent the apartment, that they know they left it too late to contact me, but they really want to stay there, and their dates aren't flexible. I had 3 more calls from her and an email, right up to the week before she wanted to stay there, asking me if our friends had maybe changed their mind, or if they were departing earlier, they would take it for just a few days. ( In fact, the apartment was actually free for some of the time she wanted it, but there was no way I was ever going to rent to her again, even via the agency.)

In all my life, I have never come across that kind of persistence or entitlement.

Biggest mistake I ever made, and realise now how much hassle the agents take on. I have no doubt she will try to contact me again to book directly for next year, (unless she is on mumsnet and reads this 😁), but never again !