Siblings - do you get on with yours?

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And do your DCs get on with theirs?

I’m one of 6. There’s good sides and bad sides, differing levels of closeness etc. I think it’s luck and a supportive upbringing that results in close sibling bonds.

Yes, and, now that they are adults, yes.

They fought a LOT as children, but are very close now.

My siblings and I all get along and would/ do show up for each other at important times but don't all spend masses of time together. We all have our own lives and own friends.

The main reason I only had one child because me and my sibling have never got on.

I have 3 siblings..

I only really got on with 1 and she died 3 years ago.

Another I tolerate, but I dont think she's a nice person..

My brother is a criminal, druggie psycho so no.

Same here. We just dont like each other. Never did.

I am one of 5 siblings. I get on with my brother well enough but he lives in another country and we only see each other every few years.

I get one well with my youngest sister, but she is a lot younger than me and only 6 years older than dd1 and so whilst we get on, and I love her dearly, we probably don’t do as much together that’s not family related. Though we do have similar career paths so do bond over that.

my two sisters who are closer in age to my are two of my best friends. It hasn’t always been plain sailing, especially with the sister closest in age to me. We had a difficult upbringing which was hard on us all. But now we are very close. We are always there for each other and have just got back from a 4 day festival together where we had the absolute best time.

I have two pretty much adult dds. They get on very well despite being very different and also get on very well with all my sisters. Dd1 and youngest dsis are very close and very alike. Dd2 is more like my two other sisters and me. We have a lot of fun when sisters/daughters/nieces are all together.

I feel blessed to have them.

Thanks all.
It's interesting to read your different experiences.
I've been lucky in the siblings lottery <touches wood>
And DCs currently love each other (early to mid teens) but I know enough to not take anything for granted!

Only had my brother but he passed away last year. We got on really well, great friends as well as siblings. Miss him every day.

I wasn’t very close with my siblings growing up but as adults, we all get on brilliantly.
Our families all get on too so lucky there as well. It’s often tricky with in laws but we’re all really civil with each other, have different WhatsApp groups as siblings and sisters in laws and so on so we keep in touch.
Kids are all happy to hang around with each other too. I hope that continues but I know cousins often become distant.

Yes, l do get on well with both my sisters and always have done.

Same here. One of 6. Carnage as children and now our parents are old and frail it’s deteriorating on a daily basis. Very sad.

I have a brother who since getting married has decided to rewrite his entire childhood and now no longer speaks to our dad for a whole host of made up reasons. Yet he’s become closer to our mum who was abusive 🤷🏻‍♀️. We barely speak now.

I also have a half brother who is much younger than me. Get on with him fine but don’t have much reason to speak regularly.

my kids are 5 and 3 so one minute they’re best friends and the next they hate each other’s guts.

Yes, I have a younger sister and we get on really well, I am very grateful to have her ( though she lives too far away😕)
My DC ( opposite sex, 4 year age gap,now adults) have always been close and still are.

I have two siblings who ganged up and bullied me as a child, particularly the elder. I have a good relationship with one of them now. The older one I genuinely couldn’t give a shit about as they dragged the behaviour on well into adulthood and beyond. I’d gladly never see them again but there’s an aging parent to consider

No. I see very little of them and we really have nothing in common.

I’m one of three and it is definitely a case of three is a crowd, the other two are very close and I get on with them, but we aren’t close.

Yes, I do. We don't live close to one another and we often drift out of contact for weeks or months, but when we're together everything's very smooth and co-operative. I think I'm lucky that this is the case, because I was an absolute git to my little sisters at times when we were children.

My children didn't get on at all when they were pre-teens. I used to despair. But as adults the girls all get on well and one of my sisters has become part of their clique despite the age gap. DD2 and DS keep in close contact and have shared interests, but DS is autistic and the other girls don't have much patience with his obsessions and monologues.

DH has three children and none of them has any contact with any of the others as adults.

Yes. She’s fab!

I’m one of four. Two are much older. Me and my little brother get on really well. We’re planning on going on holiday together at some point in the next year or two

Me and my brother get on ok but we're not close.

I have 3 siblings and have never had much in common with them. I've been nc with them for 3 years.

My younger dcs sometimes play together, and sometimes fight. I have an older ds who is much older and is more like an uncle.

Nope.

NC with one for almost 3 years and very LC with the other for approximately 10 years.

Our children do not get along, they don't really know each other to be fair.

I have one brother. We’ve never fallen out but we don’t talk either, to the point where my husband once referred to him as uncle icebear to our kids and they replied ‘who’? For context, we live half a mile apart.

He’s about 2 years older and I’m told that when I was a toddler he loved me and we’d play together all day long but as soon as I got old enough to want to do my own things we started arguing and never stopped.

Our dad died when I was 18 and our mum was I was 35. I know that when our dad died people thought ‘this will bring them together’ and even more so when mum went. Actually what happened is that we no longer have that one thing in common to occasionally bring us together. The difference is that now, at age 40, I don’t have any issue telling people that we just happen to share some DNA and that doesn’t mean we have to be friends or even like each other (which is not me saying I dislike him) If we weren’t related there’s no way we would even know each others names, we are different people with different interests and different personalities who happen to share some DNA. That’s it.

Yes. Six of us, all get on and into our 60s/70s now so has been lifelong

I’m one of 5 and get on great with most of them. One lives abroad so is a bit cut off from some of us and one has gone a bit weird this year for some reason, but generally speaking we all get on well, the other halves and kids too, and are quite close for a big family I’d say.