Phrases that make you realise you shouldn’t stay on a thread…

[CurlewKate]

Are there phrases that people post on threads that, if loads of others agree, you know you should get out before it makes you angry/unhappy? And then you don’t, and you get angry and unhappy and you’ve got no one but yourself to blame?

Currently mine is “politics of envy”

Especially on threads where more than 24 hours have passed since it started, and the OP is now posting from a hospital bed having been admitted the night before.

😂🤣😂🤣 oh God, I’d forgotten about that one!

Yes! I call them the WhatThreeWords brigade.

Might be fun to try to find them on a map.😂

I meant prefix, adjective, animal.

So many of them on Mumsnet now.

And I just realized even spellcheck dislikes penis beaker (not breaker )

“Free Palestine”
yeah, we see you jumping on the bandwagon with none of the sociopolitical backdrop
(sucker)

Quite. One doesn't have to pick a side to wish that people would just stop killing each other in the name of religion, or borders, or whatever else.

Edit: typo

It's OK if it's in relation to a broom. A very old one, never needed a new one. Just 17 replacement heads and 14 handles in twenty years.

Oooh, ‘baby bubble’ ie. posts where the new mum doesn’t want anyone to hold the baby/buy gifts for the baby/look directly at the baby. Obviously not if the baby is an immunocompromised preemie/ the babygro says ‘my mum’s a Ho!’/ MIL wants to lick the baby’s eyelids/ have a newborn sleepover or whatever, am thinking more of all the mad Instagram-addled PFB mums who think anyone (apart from some poor woman who just maybe wants to clap eyes on her son’s kid) is even that arsed. We have all seen a baby before and are only being polite! Don’t really want to read ten pages of people piling onto a post-partum woman either though.

’A&E stands for ACCIDENT and EMERGENCY’ also springs to mind. Fuck off with that. Conversely, ‘Hospital. Now’ six pages in, when the OP has been roundly scolded for thinking they might need treatment, has come to their senses, been admitted and is on a drip, gets on my tits.

And a more niche one - ‘No.’ as a single word sentence, before going on to state an opinion. Or worse ‘no, no, NO’ or similar. I feel a little knot in my neck. Where do they get their certainty?

I know I'm most likely being unreasonable but when anyone says- that made me giggle - just makes me think of some simpering idiot. It doesn't make me leave the thread more an eye roll situation.

Mine is when some poor woman has had an awful childhood, it’s quite obvious she needs to stop having anything to do with her mother and there’s a group of posters saying - but she’s your mother, she’ll be dead soon. I get so angry.

Oh yes - ‘man here’s ughhhhh!
Not interested at all in hearing men’s view in here -can hear plenty of of those in RL. Mumsnet -the clue in the name.

‘You sound like hard work’

‘And what did the person say when you told them you didn’t like that/how you felt/asked them to turn down the music’

So passive aggressive! You KNOW they didn’t challenge the other person because they would have mentioned it in their OP 🤦🏻‍♀️
People see a pithy, lazy, snarky answer that contributes nothing elsewhere on the site and just copy it because it makes them feel good somehow.

This immediately makes me think 'what a twat' when someone posts that. It's such a superior comment and makes them look like a fucking idiot.

Yes, that one usually signals the end of the thread for me too...

I'm fine hearing men's views, it's just a shame that so many of them are only here to scold and correct us, or MRAs posing as women.

In theory men could have something very useful to add to discussions about relationships, sexism etc. But so many times I've seen men on threads start off apparently reasonable and then become aggressive, superior and misogynist as soon as anyone tries to discuss anything or has questions. For so many men, we're supposed to just listen, admire and obey and they can't handle women being on an equal level with them (or above) in terms of intellect, articulacy and knowledge.

100% this. ^ I get sick to death of this too. Such massive hypocrisy. 🙄 These posts never seem to get deleted though.

I think back in the mists of munsnet times, a poster once said to an other poster and it caused much hilarity,and it's now become an in joke ,much like goats ,and wide-screen TV,s on benefits threads
And the name Balonze
Sadly whilst they may have been funny at the time they are not anymore.

It's a forum aimed at and mainly used by women, mostly middle aged. It's not the Old Bailey, charged with maintaining perfect blind justice, although ironically it's precisely because it's mostly women that people get angry with it for not being morally perfect. If you want male-oriented forums talking shit about women, you really won't have to search the internet for very long.

This is a dreadful phrase, but to be honest I do think this about approx 60% of the posters on here, particularly when it comes to weddings, school gate dramas, and whether 2 of your colleagues are allowed to be friends with one another outside of work without it constituting bullying and exclusion and becoming an HR matter worthy of tami g to the very highest level (because there is nothing like a work tribunal to help you make friends when you’re feeling a bit lonely and excluded).

@VoltaireMittyDream Oh agreed! So many posts these days that I can’t even open, the title tells me all I need to know 🤣

And usually followed up with a recommendation to read "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft.
And do The Freedom Programme.

There are certainly some posters who are too quick to call something abuse, but I find it hard to care. The overwhelming majority of women in abusive relationships don't leave and don't accept that they're abusive. There's huge pressure on women to stay, to "make it work" and be all accommodating while being treated like dirt. I am not at all concerned about a massive exodus of women from happy, healthy, stable relationships after a minor spat because of Mumsnet and I think the idea that that's happening is far more ridiculous and overdramatic.

By the time someone's driven to write about it on here, it's usually at a high level even if the OP doesn't make that explicit. We've all seen the zillions of threads where it starts off not looking too bad but as the OP goes on and talks more, a much more sinister picture emerges.