Anyone around... scared

[DarkSuitsSadSongs]

I'm home alone with my 12 year old twins as my husband is working away and not due back until tomorrow evening. He's about 6 hours away.

Over the last few days I've had a painful boil under my boob. I saw the GP today as it doubled in size overnight. There is a red circle around it. She prescribed doxycycline (2 a day) and said to phone back if it gets worse.

I've been getting more and more unwell. My left arm has started tingling, I'm sweating with cold hands and feet, the pain is indescribable and I'm exhausted. I slept for 6 hours this afternoon and I'm still utterly exhausted and all my joints hurt.

I've had to phone my father in law who is an hour away to come through to sit with the twins. I'm on hold to 111 but a 45 minute wait to call answer as a minimum they said.

I'm not sure whether just to call a taxi when FIL gets here to go straight to accident and emergency.

I'm a little freaked out at how unwell I feel.

Stay and be seen by a doctor!! Do not go home. If you get worse when home you’ll be back to the bottom of the queue. My first thought was sepsis but I can see the nurse has ruled this out. If however she is wrong, things can develop very very quickly and you need to be in a hospital setting. Ideally they should be starting iv antibiotics and fluids now so that when you are seen, the ground work has been done.

I have to have an ultrasound by one of the plastics team. Its 4cm and apparently they need to check just how much of the breast tissue has been affected by it.

So I'm waiting on a scan slot.

Thank goodness you stayed last night. Don't give another thought to home - it sounds like FiL has it all in hand. Hopefully your husband will be suitably chastised before he comes to see you. Look after you.

Thank goodness you stayed last night. Don't give another thought to home - it sounds like FiL has it all in hand. Hopefully your husband will be suitably chastised before he comes to see you. Look after you.

So glad you went. This is a good thread in as much as it proves that trusting your gut, and listening to your body is important. So often on here people bang on about 'wasting NHS time' either trying to guilt people out of being seen or to play martyr. You did everything right OP and I am glad you are being dealt with efficiently.

Hope all goes well and that your DH is suitably sheepish on arrival.

Your DH sounds like he doesnt realise how ill you are. Kudos to FIL. Hope they get you in surgery ASAP.

Your 'd'h should have phoned his Dad himself and asked ! shame on him !!!

I'm so glad you stayed to be seen! Hope you get the scan quickly x

I’ve had an abscess on my boob ended up with blood poisoning don’t mean to alarm you but it spread pretty quickly draw a line around it & where its spreading I had a red rash needed it drained packed & IV antibiotics as the oral didn’t work. Eventually had surgery to remove it all. Do it sooner rather than later is my advice.

Just read this and just wanted to say, well done you, you should be very impressed with yourself for handling everything alone. I hope the ultrasound happens quickly and your treatment can continue apace. Glad your FiL stepped up to the plate, and I hope your DC are both OK.

Take care and get well soon.

Aww, you're not being at all unreasonable. It's horrible being by yourself when you're poorly and scared. If it helps, we are all with you in spirit!

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Have one of these OP {{{{{hug}}}}}.

And you're not having a "self-pity cry", you're having a perfectly reasonable upset/anxious/hurting/my DH doesn't seem to give much of a shit/ cry.

I'm a bit shocked that he didn't leave first thing this morning when he knew you were being admitted, tbh.

I hope your fil firmly tells his son that you are in hospital, about to have an operation and should not be having to organise child care or anything else at this point! He should have come home sooner and not just left this to you and fil to manage!
He might not have seen how ill you are but no one gets admitted and operated on for no reason, so if he had any common sense at all, it was obvious he ought to have come home and taken over.

Hope all goes well with the op and that you feel better soon.

Best wishes for the op. And I hope your (D!)H realises that he'll have to help with the twins when you come home. You can't be humping kids around immediately after surgery.

Sorry you're having such a tough time. Self pity tears are fine! Sounds like the doctors are doing a good job even though the triage nurse was a bit of a battleaxe (and gave you the wrong advice). Good luck 😊

You’ve done exactly the right thing @DarkSuitsSadSongs and hopefully will start recovering as soon as the op is done.

I’m hoping that your DH is unaware of how unwell you are and that is why his response has been so lacklustre. It sounds as if his dad will put him straight!

@DarkSuitsSadSongs sorry but you dh is only driving up the road!!! he isnt driving across europe to uk! your twins are 12 not 2 so why does your fil need to stay another night? you dh needs a kick up his selfish backside!! all he needs to do is drive home and collect the twins and get his arse to the hospital to see you. after hospital, collect a pizza and drive home. eat and fall into bed!! so what if the twins go to bed a little later tonight??

I've been at the business end of a few big abscesses (albeit in a different spot) and what can happen is that they can encapsulate and harden. It's the body's way of protecting itself from the infection, which is all well and good, but it makes the site even more painful. It also means that you need to spend time with a surgeon who can incise and clean it up for you.

Re general anaesthesia: after one of my procedures, I took ages to come round and my blood pressure wouldn't get off its backside. I normally have the opposite problem, so it was slightly alarming. I remember being in recovery, and opening my eyes to see a nurse patting the cheeks of the young man on my right who also seemed very out of it; "Come on Mr Smith! Wakey-wakey!" This little drama must have done me good, because before long, I was on my way back to the ward. I don't know how it went with Mr Smith, but as he was on a general recovery ward and not being worked on elsewhere, he was probably all right.

Your FiL is a gem and the more so for saying he'll be having words with his progeny when he sees him. Your DH probably doesn't realise just how seriously poorly you are - if so, he's in for a nasty shock. Wishing you a good recovery and hopefully you'll be back home with your beloved twins very soon.🍇💐

God bless your FIL. I had a breast one my GP took it very seriously. Had awful antibiotics but averted surgery.

I've just came across your post and so thankful that you listened to your gut. The equivalent for Pals in Scotland is Pass.

https://pass-scotland.org.uk/how-we-can-help/

I hope you get your op soon and recover quickly 💐

Poor you op well done for staying

I had a bartholins cyst once, I felt very unwell and sort of toxic with it. So you have my sympathy.

I’m glad you have such a thoughtful and helpful FIL

I think this where my dry sense of humour would come in and I’d say

“it doesn’t matter what my face says. I’ve stayed all night waiting for the hide access on my tit to be treated - whatever makes you think I’d just go home now?!”

14 hours ago the NHS handlers weren’t that bothered by your “active infection” 🙄