Anyone around... scared

[DarkSuitsSadSongs]

I'm home alone with my 12 year old twins as my husband is working away and not due back until tomorrow evening. He's about 6 hours away.

Over the last few days I've had a painful boil under my boob. I saw the GP today as it doubled in size overnight. There is a red circle around it. She prescribed doxycycline (2 a day) and said to phone back if it gets worse.

I've been getting more and more unwell. My left arm has started tingling, I'm sweating with cold hands and feet, the pain is indescribable and I'm exhausted. I slept for 6 hours this afternoon and I'm still utterly exhausted and all my joints hurt.

I've had to phone my father in law who is an hour away to come through to sit with the twins. I'm on hold to 111 but a 45 minute wait to call answer as a minimum they said.

I'm not sure whether just to call a taxi when FIL gets here to go straight to accident and emergency.

I'm a little freaked out at how unwell I feel.

I've only read the original post so sorry if repeating, but this sounds urgent. It sounds like possible sepsis...I'd be getting on to 111 as a minimum. I hope you're ok & good luck xx

I hope you brought this to the A&E managers attention.

All you have to do is click on the OP’s posts to read all her updates to see that she has been seen in A&E, treated and is now waiting for a surgical consult.

Good luck @DarkSuitsSadSongs. Hope you start feeling better when it's all been drained out. 💐

Hopefully antibiotics will kick in soon and you'll soon be home.

I'm a little bit cross...

Father in law is at home with the twins. DH is about a 5/6hr drive away depending on traffic. He has a car. I thought he would leave earlier than planned but he didn't. He left the hotel 30 minutes ago. He asked me to message his dad and ask him to stay again tonight as he will be tired from driving.

I'm being completely unreasonable I know but I'm in pain and will likely have surgery and I'm on my own. So I'm having a self pity cry 😢

Bloody hell, I hope he’ll make it up to you over the weekend!!

Do you know when they’re likely to discharge you?

You're not being unreasonable, that's a pretty crap response from him. Hope the surgery goes well

Oh that’s harsh OP. Is he intending to visit you tonight ? The only thing I can do is reassure you that you’ll be fine in surgery. I speak from a lifetime of various surgeries - the most recent two within the last year. Anaesthetics - both general and local are quick and with minimal side effects, and and pain relief after the surgery is effective. If you’re nervous, tell the staff OP, because they can give you something to keep you calm and the same if you’re in pain. Don’t suffer in silence. Have they given you any indication of when you’ll be home ? There’s a tendency to allow you home as soon as it’s safe these days because it’s recognised that people recover much better in their own environment, but obviously they need to consider the infection risk. Hopefully you’ll be home before you know it. Keep up updated and drop in for a chat here if it helps.

They seem pretty set on surgery. It'll need to be a general as they think it's too deep to do a local as I'll be in agony.

I never do well with generals. Last time I had an abscess drained I had to stay over night as they couldn't get my BP higher than 80.

I'm trying not to be too harsh on him as he isn't here and hasn't seen how poorly I am.

I've messages FIL who is happy to stay and he said he "will be having words with my son about getting your arse up the road quickly"

Don't blame you for being cross. Tell him to message his own Dad!

Oh, bless you 😥I'm glad you're getting it sorted this afternoon, but unimpressed with your DH. Unless he was needed to perform life-saving surgery or something of that level, he should have been on the road first thing this morning. Can you call a friend to keep you company?

Hope all goes well OP.
Your FiL sounds lovely

@DarkSuitsSadSongs
Just wanted to say you are not being unreasonable OP, you have been so brave and level headed, thinking of you and hope you are home soon and improving. Thank goodness for advances in medical procedures, stay strong.

Sorry crossed with you. Good luck for the surgery, will be thinking of you

Your FIL sounds like a dream. DH is rightly in the dog house.

Hope you recover quickly xx

OP I had two major surgeries late last year (lumpectomy and then mastectomy) - both done as day cases. I’ve had various surgeries throughout my life and have never really done well with anaesthetic - sickness, problems with BP etc. These two surgeries were the first I’d had for several years and I was amazed at how much improved general anaesthesia is now.

The theatre staff were really supportive, I was kept advised of what was happening and when the anaesthesia was given I was out cold in a second. What seemed like seconds later I was wide awake - both surgeries were around four hours long. There was no drowsiness or sickness, none of that horrible dry mouth feeling, and no pain, because they had given pain relief along with the anaesthetic. My BP was stable and I was discharged later in the day on both occasions with no ill effects.

I think when you’re in pain and anxious, things can seem a bit grim, but I’m sure you’ll be fine. Keeping fingers crossed it all goes well for you.x

PS. I’m glad you decided to cut your DH some slack - he probably doesn’t realise what a nasty turn things took in his absence and I’m sure he’d have got his arse in gear a bit faster if he had. And your FiL sounds lovely.x

You might get away without a general. I had an infected and massive armpit boil drained and packed under local a few years ago. It was vile and stunk (felt sorry for the surgeon!) so much I had to breathe through my mouth. BUT most importantly, it didn't hurt because they built up the local anaesthetic injections well. It was packed with silver nitrate dressings and of course, continued antibiotics.

It hurt more having the dressings taken out, to be honest.

Wishing you all the best and hoping you feel a bit better soon. What a tough time you are having. Take care and I hope you can have a proper rest when you get home.

Glad you're being sorted, in the right place and have a lovely fil with the kids. My son is autistic and I know it adds that extra layer of worry. Hubby isn't being very helpful but fingers crossed he'll be there soon and pull his socks up. Sending you best wishes & hoping you're home and feeling better very soon xxx
@Beammeupscotty2025 I apologised on my post if it was repeating others, I didn't ask the op to repeat herself and I didn't say anything unhelpful or unkind...I saw something urgent and worrying and quickly wrote a reply. I don't think you needed to tell me off for that!

Been following you since last night, just wanted to say I hope you get your operation done today. I think you've managed everything really well, making sure your DC are looked after and standing your ground at A&E despite feeling so ill.

I'm glad your FIL is going to have a wee word with his son, your FIL rocks.

OP I like the sound of your FIL. Hope DH steps up when he gets there. All the gest for the surgery, whichever form it takes.

So pleased to read that you are getting this sorted , perhaps you should ask FIL to stay for the weekend he sounds more useful than your husband . Get well soon 💐

Good luck with the surgery x

Your FIL sounds like a treasure

Best of luck , I'd say your dh just doesn't realise how sick you are his father will probably give him a good telling off.