Why is this mum so angry at me?

[Ohhilois]

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

The movie is a superb watch for anyone who hasn’t taken their kids yet!

Friend's DC who is same age (almost 12) saw it and said they thought it should be a 15 as it was quite violent.

So it's possible he was scared but fronting it out in front of you and DD. He may have heard about the other films from friends, my DC is very good at knowing everything about a film / game he's never actually watched or played!

Even so - it's not your fault AT ALL. You checked with her, she's a lunatic.

12A in cinema is a 12 at home btw - so are typically rated as unsuitable for under 12s. I have to say I don't understand why people take their younger children (say 8 and younger) to see 12A.

Surely the response would be "I checked that the film choice, which you Ok'd...I'm sorry but you should have checked the age rating before approving if this was an issue. You're welcome by the way. Your son had a fab time"

Yeah, in my head.

In real life, I’m not that brave and I hate anything like this.

To answer a few more questions, he really wasn’t scared. If he was, he deserves an Oscar for keeping it up for hours. I let dd go on group calls and I supervise - he was talking about it with other kids, not in a bravado way, totally normal.

I didn’t think to ask where he’d seen the previous Jurassic world films, but he knew a hell of a lot of detail, you wouldn’t get that from just hearing about it.

I won’t bump into her, she doesn’t live far but I’ve never seen her around before, aside from a few school plays. I don’t know many people here either, so no one mutual really.

I’ll just chalk it up to one of those shitty things.

Put it out of your head, you did absolutely nothing wrong, I agree with your husband, she was either drunk or has anger issues that she was taking out on you

If she sends any more abusive texts just say ‘ You approved the film choice prior to booking’

hahaha

I think she's hilarious. She'll faint if her child ever goes to a sleepover. Most parents don't bother asking other parents at that age.

I was a bit shocked by the number of kids who watch Squid Game in Primary School, and everyone has seen Stranger Things. I am not convinced Squid Game is suitable for 9-10 years old personally.

Poor kid with such a deranged mother - especially after she agreed anyway.
you've done nothing wrong OP, and she's going to make everyone laugh.

So who did he see the previous films with when he was even younger?

I really hope that she sees this thread so she can see what an absolute berk she is

The silly cow. Ungrateful, too.

Okay well she is nuts.

I doubt her kid was scared. And even if he had been scared! She approved it and she presumably knows him better.

Sometimes people will use this kind of “sensible” excuse when they’re feeling really jealous deep down. Maybe her son has been asking why they don’t do fun things like that or take friends to movies etc. and it’s made her resent you. Not that you can fix it but I feel sorry for her son as he could’ve enjoyed this friendship more

Because she is nuts

This is my thinking too 😀

Her poor DS!

Ignore her.

I bet her husband had a go about it

She doesn't understand what 12A means.

She thinks you broke the law.
She thinks you asked her because she assumes you were willing to break the law and wanted her to agree to break the law.
She doesn't understand you were asking for her consent to watch a 12A within the law.
She's complaining to the cinema because she thinks the cinema broke the law and she wants to 'hold them accountable'.
She going to look like a fruitloop to anyone she complains to because she doesn't understand 12A.

Your obligations were to inform her of the movie they were seeing.
Get parental consent to watch said movie.
It was a suitable choice of movie given their age. If she has issues with 12As then she should have checked herself and acted accordingly. You acted reasonably and didn't willfully withhold any information from her.
You reasonably thought she was fine with it.

Not your fucking problem. You did everything reasonable.

They did watch the movie with an adult within the law and within the expectations and liabilities of the cinema.

Forget about it.

She’s a Jurassic bitch

My dd had a friend with a mum like that, absolutely not a day under the age for films (or anything else). I did try to explain that the rules are pretty conservative and if you know your child and they are with an appropriate adult, it is fine, but she wouldn't have it at all the rules were written in stone for her. It wasn't like her dd was particularly sensitive or young for her age in fact quite the reverse, it made a few trips and treats difficult particularly around watershed birthdays.

A 12A film means a child under 12 can see it if supervised during the film by an adult over 18...what is her problem? Her child loved it and you did nothing wrong. Does she not understand film ratings?

She's mental. At that age I didn't even go with my kid and mates anymore. Dropped at the door and picked up later on!

She's really going to struggle letting him grow up a bit if he's starting secondary in Sep!

Dude she said yes and didn't check it herself. It's a her problem not a you problem. Honestly, put her on mute and ignore her.

She's not got a leg to stand on. Kids under 12 can see a 12a if accompanied by an adult. And it is for the accompanying adult (not the person with parental responsibility) to decide the suitability for any child aged under 12. My godson has just turned 8 and loved going to see that film with a couple of his friends for a birthday treat.

If she's that concerned she should have checked the rating herself, gone with him, or just said 'no' as she knew precisely the film he was going to. We're not talking about a cuddly kids' film; everyone knows Jurassic Park and its associated spin offs are a bit creepy and a bit scary. And if she genuinely had no clue and was a bit annoyed when she found out it was a very mildly creepy/scary film then that's a "her" problem because of her lack of due diligence in looking up what the film was about.

She's batshit and you've done nothing wrong. And if she's blocked you, then good riddance. No one needs drama queens like that in their life.

lol!!! I took my FIVE year old who is Dino mad to see it. 12a means with an adult so not sure what she thinks the cinema will do? Was her child scared?

She is a rude FUCK and I’d be texting back saying if she continues to message you disrespectfully after you paid for her child to do an agreed upon activity then you won’t be taking him out again which is a shame as the children had such a lovely time.

She is batshit! And no the new one isn’t half as scary as the ones we grew up watching.

😭😭 she sounds UNHINGED

She's a nutjob and I would steer clear!