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Why is this mum so angry at me?

253 replies

Ohhilois · 05/08/2025 23:05

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

OP posts:
fruitfly3 · 06/08/2025 11:11

Totally bonkers - there must be other context that you’re not aware of. Either way, not your problemo given you checked the film choice!

WonderingWanda · 06/08/2025 11:11

She's an idiot. It's entirely her fault if she didn't want her almost 12 yo watching a 12A. You checked, she didn't look it up....although who wouldn't know that a Jurasic Park film might be a teensy but scary? Ignore her, if you ever see her in person tell her you are utterly appalled at her outburst, she as the parent has the duty of care to her child and she didn't check.

fruitfly3 · 06/08/2025 11:14

Also OP, solidarity - stuff like this upsets me too. Probably because it makes you question whether you were in the wrong. You absolutely were not - maybe if you’d have taken them without checking, but that’s not the case. Try to do some affirmations that you did your best, checked with the parent and sat through the film with them. It’s honestly not your bad.

DandyDenimScroller · 06/08/2025 11:14

Ohhilois · 06/08/2025 08:10

I never thought I’d utter the words, “I miss Chris Pratt”, yet here we are 😆

Show quote history

🤣🤣 yeah I think they were trying to make out it would be OK at best because Scarlett thingy is in it.

beetr00 · 06/08/2025 11:19

@DandyDenimScroller

TIL, "couchtuner" who knew, thank you🌻

justasking111 · 06/08/2025 11:26

Suspect she was tiddly or on some meds

The boy had seen all the other films. She's a silly woman.

Just ignore @Ohhilois

MyMilchick · 06/08/2025 11:26

What a moron, 12A is not breaking any rules considering they are allowed to see the film if they're accompanied by an adult which they were. mental case, her poor son will end up friendless if that's the way she carries on

istheresomethingishouldsay · 06/08/2025 11:33

Yikes. I feel sorry for the poor boy. He's nearly 12, not 2.

NavyRose · 06/08/2025 11:38

I was going to suggest you screenshot and circle the messages where you checked the film was ok and send to her, but you can't if she's blocked you.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 06/08/2025 11:40

The good news is that once they're in secondary school there is very little need for interaction with other parents as the DC make arrangements themselves and you will just be the taxi driver. At least that's what happened with my DC.

BecksMama · 06/08/2025 11:43

This would blow her brains but we took DS1 to see this film - he’s not quite 5 yet….
he’s seen all the Jurassic movies, understands it’s just pretend and loved the film
There were other kids I’d guess to be 5/6/7 ish there at the time all looked pretty happy…

This woman is a mad hatter! Best she’s blocked you - life is too short for this kind of people

abracadabra1980 · 06/08/2025 11:43

In my head, I'd just want to tell her to fuck off. It's her job to research any film her child may be going to see. In reality, I feel for her poor child, who will likely be having to deal with issues like this for the rest of his life. It never ceases to amaze me how acts of kindness can get thrown back at you. You did nothing wrong.

Beyoungbefoolishbegappy · 06/08/2025 11:43

What an awful mum, poor boy.

LackOfSleepCBA · 06/08/2025 12:00

Ohhilois · 05/08/2025 23:05

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

You've said he's seen the other Jurassic films as he was talking in depth about them, which means his Mum must have let him watch the others. Only 2 films out of 8 of the Jurassic films are PG (film numbers 2 and 3) the rest are rated 12 or 12A so she must have been aware of the age rating of previous films. To me it feels like she's just being an unreasonable arse especially as they're turning 12 in about 3-4 months time.

Zimunya · 06/08/2025 12:07

BlueEyedBogWitch · 06/08/2025 04:50

Don’t do any more favours for this woman. You’ll just get jurass-kicked.

This is very witty - doubly so considering it was early hours of the morning! Thanks for the laugh.

OP - sorry you are dealing with this. Some people are just loons, and there is no explaining their behaviour.

Hankunamatata · 06/08/2025 12:10

I think hilariously she thinks its a 12 hence the taking it further. She doesnt realise its a 12A. She's going to look an ass when she complains to the cinema

JMSA · 06/08/2025 12:11

She is an absolute DICK.

Kazzmarie12 · 06/08/2025 12:12

Probably felt miffed cos he enjoyed it so much and she wasn't the one making effort too take him! It's pathetic ignore her! I'd be happy she bloked me sounds a bit aggressive and unstable

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 06/08/2025 12:15

What a knob she is.

StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 06/08/2025 12:19

No good deed...
She is BVVVU.
I saw the film and fell asleep.
The bits I saw were okay.
My kid's school used it as a treat trip - no trauma, just cheering whenever a Dino ate someone - so I do think this Mum is being daft.
Could be an excuse to break the friendship/she can't reciprocate but shouldn't have agreed for him to go, if this was the case.

Ilovelurchers · 06/08/2025 12:21

I assume she doesn't understand that 12A rating and believes that it means kids have to be 12 or over.

Not defending her rudeness and stupidity, that's the only explanation I can see.

(I have an absolute disregard for the ratings system anyway and have taken my 12 year old to see 15 rated films before, relying on my own judgement as to what would be a worthwhile experience for her - so God knows what the woman would make of me! )

Interesting that the lad had seen all the other Jurassic Parks too - did he say whether he had seen them at the cinema, or at other people's houses, for example?

DiscoBob · 06/08/2025 12:21

She's coming off very weird.

12A means adult supervision or discretion. And you were with them so it's fine. Even if it wasn't...

How uptight does she have to be to not want an 11 years and ten months old to watch a fucking 12?! I feel sorry for her kid.

Cherrytree86 · 06/08/2025 12:25

She must have been pissed

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 06/08/2025 12:26

Oh OP, I’m sorry- no good deed and all that.
Even if he did find it a bit scary, so what? When I was 7 we watched Neverending Story as a “treat” on the last school day before the holidays, and it scared the stuffing out of me, and that’s a “U”. Isn’t it part of growing up?

likeafishneedsabike · 06/08/2025 12:31

C10000 · 05/08/2025 23:52

Maybe he's gone back and told her what a brilliant time he had watching the film and then talking about it afterwards and everything that went with it etc
Probably said that you're a cool Mum or words to that effect
She could be jealous

Ah yes. He’s gone back raving about the movie, your house, your dinner - basically he had a great time and his stupid mother feels that this paints her in a bad light. Silly cow.