Why is this mum so angry at me?

[Ohhilois]

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

It's a cam job unfortunately, unless they've updated it.

When you told her what film it was she should have checked the certification herself and told you if she was not happy with it. What a rude woman she is.

Jealous he had fun with you that’s why Headcase

She was drunk.
Not high, drunk.
She’s got a serious drinking problem.
This mean girl text & blocking is proof.
If it were a weed problem, she’d be spaced out on her sofa.
But she isn’t - she’s attacking you by text.
Jealousy topped off by liquor = very bad.
She’s a mean, mean drunk.
You made a lucky escape, OP.
lol

I took my son and his mate to see that, they are both 10, no issues. Not sure what she expects the cinema to do, they were accompanied by an adult so all good. She's a nutter, if she hasn't blocked you I'd wind her up asking for your horror movie collection back from them

Yep, am thinking about taking DS who is 7 to see Jurassic World. He loves dinosaurs and has watched the previous ones. Doesn't find them in the slightest bit scary.

This was my thought, too. My ex was like this - I would make a perfectly sane and acceptable (to me) decision such as this, then ex would ‘find out’, decide I was awful / incompetent / irresponsible and get angry / violent, etc.
It’s not beyond the realms of belief that something like this has happened, and she is behaving as though she didn’t know in order to protect herself… 😬

Christ my 8yo has seen it.
It was super boring overall
Shes a nut

She sounds very deranged...

This is good to hear as I want to take my 8year old.

Itook my DH he s 55 he loved it !

Just a little update about this, as I know I am always interested in threads I’ve commented on!

dd was invited to another child’s house today with a few of her friends, I dropped her off this morning, just as the boy I took to the cinemas mum was walking out the door. She walked right past me like I didn’t exist in the hallway.

The mum of the child I was dropping off with obviously saw, and we are all usually quite friendly to each other at drop offs, even if it’s just to smile and say hi to another parent you don’t know, and she said, “is everything ok? I thought dd and X were good friends now?”

This other mum is someone I’d class as an actual friend, I didn’t go into it, I just said that I took him out the other day and there was a bit of a misunderstanding.

She was like, “oh of course there was. I’ve known her since reception class, she’s fallen out with loads of people over nothing over the years, she’s quite dramatic. She blanked me for an entire school year once as I bought her child some bubble gum without checking. I really wouldn’t worry about it.”

Anyway, it’s good to know it’s not just me, she has form for doing this with others!

(If anyone is wondering why we drop off/pick up 11 year olds in a small area, parents do here, even with teens as it’s not a great area to put it mildly, and not safe for them to be walking around alone, sadly).

Lol, she sounds insane

Thanks for coming back @Ohhilois - I never thought you were in the wrong but good to have it validated! You now know to steer clear!

Again that poor child! I’m glad it’s not just you though, for you, if that makes sense.

I wonder whether your friend suspected you'd need the insight after seeing the (lack of) interaction, so asked in order to provide it. I'd say that's rather kind.

She should be taking her rage out on the cinema who let him in if she feels that strongly.

The woman’s bonkers. She needs therapy by the sounds of it. If you fall out with everyone you cross paths with, then you're the problem.

I’d have no more to do with her. I’d just blank her if I saw her.

Why? The cinema didn't do anything wrong. It was two 11-yr olds being brought to a 12A movie by an adult.

Thanks for the update, OP. God save us from the people who can't live without having beef with somebody. If there's no drama, they invent one.

Back in the day ( I grew up in the 80s) we were methodically quizzed by the staff as to our ages, when we said we were 15 but were in fact 13. I think the cinema do have a responsibility to quiz if there is concern. Like if a 6 year old is taken to see The Silence of the Lambs (this actually was someone I know). Surely the cinema can be held to account if the staff just let anyone in regardless of age?

Not saying there is anything wrong in two 11 year olds watching Jurassic Park. Maybe I'm scarred from the awful old woman we were always subjected to. She always asked when our birthdays were and then called us liars because my friend and I actually were born exactly a week apart in the same year. She didn't believe us.

@YourBrickTiger it's a 12A.
Under 12s must be accompanied by an adult but under 12s aren't banned.
That's it. That's the rule.
Neither the cinema or the OP have broken any rules.
In the UK a 6 year old wouldn't be able to see Silence of the Lambs.
It could happen in another country where the rating system is different but no way would that have happened in the UK.

Yes it was the USA

Well yes in the USA their equivalent to an 18 is "R" which is over 17 unless accompanied by an adult.
So unfortunately people can take a 6 year old to Silence of the Lambs if they want to.
But that's irrelevant to the OPs situation.
Neither she nor the cinema have broken any rules.

Was about to ask if you understand 12A, but I see you're in the US so it's probably unfamiliar to you. As PP said, 12A means anyone under 12 can see it so long as they're accompanied by an Adult.

My DS tried to go see a 16-rated movie (over 16s only) with friends for his 14th birthday, but they were turned away. Can't remember which movie it was now, but despite me telling him they wouldn't be let in they didn't believe me.