Why is this mum so angry at me?

[Ohhilois]

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

Well she ought to bloody check oughtnt she?
It's her oversight, not yours.

Maybe she thinks that 12a means you have to be 12+ and with an adult, or her ds neglected to mention that you were also there and saw the film with them.

Either way, she's being ridiculous.

Her son could have twisted the situation and pretended it went badly to get attention. Maybe it's the only way to get noticed. After all, she didn't react to the film choice and probably doesn't unless he provokes her for attention.

I doubt it’s all coming from the mum and a rating- films in the atmospheric setting of a cinema are a minefield- my ten year old was once terrified by an incredibly tame cartoon, he dreamed of it a few nights in a row and would randomly talk about it. To be honest that Jurassic park movie is possibly a bit scarier than the others, if he’s any way shielded he might have found it tough.

She knew I was going in with them.

OP: message is loud and clear! You did nothing wrong. Go to bed. Don’t give it another moment. Goodnight 😃

What exactly is she hoping to achieve by raising it with the cinema? The rules around 12A films state "No one younger than 12 may be permitted to attend a 12A cinema screening unless they are accompanied by an adult"

You checked with her and she said it was fine. It's up to her to decide whether she thought it was appropriate and by saying 'fine' she did so.

Agree with responding "I checked the film choice with you and you said it was fine?”

Maybe her dh kicked off at her about iy and she is deflecting? But either way, it's crazy - her poor son!

If it wasn't the attention-seeking son stirring things up then I'm with your DH. She's drunk a bottle of something strong, son is pretending he can't sleep and she's putting the blame on you.

She is bonkers. You did nothing wrong. I'd love to know how she gets on raising it with the cinema!

You can’t argue with batshit.

It's not you. She's been on the wine or has serious issues. Our 7 year old loved it.

Don’t do any more favours for this woman. You’ll just get jurass-kicked.

Complete nut job. Just ignore her. You’ve done nothing wrong, legally or morally and you checked with her first.

Good luck to her taking it up with the cinema. Hopefully they will explain what 12A means. Ignore her some people are just nuts you can’t reason it.

This ! Honestly pay no attention to her she's bonkers

Oh heck - this young man is going into high school in a month (!) .. God help him if she’s this over protective!!! 😱 😩

OP me and DH took our two children to see it Saturday night. They are 11 and ......8! Am I a bad mother? Nope. 8 year old thoroughly enjoyed it, was just a bit bored in parts where it was just dialogue. So I'm not buying that he was scared, she sounds like an absolute fruit cake. Take no notice!!

Poor kid. That's probably the most fun he's ever had and probably will be for the foreseeable.

Was there anything scary or inappropriate?

I’m generally fairly “strict” with my DC when it comes to film / TV age ratings. I have a 12.5 year old with SEN who’s probably more of a 10 year old from a social / emotional development point of view. I took him to see Jurassic World as I and he loved it. I thought it was pretty mild boring compared to the others, tbh!!

Shes clearly batshit. You told her the film you were going to: it’s up to her to do due diligence and make an informed choice. The Jurassic films have been around for over 2 decades! They’re hardly a new concept and it sounds like he’d seen all the others.

She’s also massively rude for kicking off at you like this. Twat.

based on the age rating it was allowed and you checked with her first so she has no grounds to complain at all. If she wouldn’t have allowed a 12a then she should have checked the rating before agreeing to the film.

The only thing I will say is out of all the Jurassic world films this one was pretty cut throat. I’m glad my youngest is 9 otherwise I’d have been a little worried during the film!

Again not your fault but maybe he said something to mum. Some people are so ungrateful and can’t help themselves!

My first thought was maybe she’s not had time to do fun stuff with him over the summer holidays or just feels inadequate as a mother and is seething jealous he had such a good time with somebody else.

either that or she’s a basket case and I feel bad for the boy and any future partners he may have.

Absolutely deranged.

The good news is your dd is old enough she doesn't need you to facilitate play dates anymore really so you dont have to engage any more.