Why is this mum so angry at me?

[Ohhilois]

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

The only bit you’re unreasonable for is saying sorry. No need for that! She’s ridiculous.

The only thing you did wrong was apologise to her!

You checked the film choice with her prior to booking - there's nothing more you could have done - she's a nutjob.

I’ve just seen this.

Excellent work!

I don’t think she understands the rating. And she is a bitter!

poor kid

12a means that under 12s can see the film if they’re supervised. So what exactly does she think she can achieve by contacting the cinema?

Bonkers.

Could it be a smokescreen for her not wanting to pay you for the tickets?

I know, but I HATE this sort of bollocks. It makes me feel so uncomfortable.

No, I made it quite clear the ticket was my treat when I first got in touch with her (first time I’d had anything to do with her other than a smile at school plays).

When she dropped him off, she said she had given him money to buy them both popcorn and drinks there as a thank you - which was obviously more than a child’s cinema ticket with the extortionate prices. So it wasn’t to do with money.

oh well, it’s just another one to chalk up to experience!

The boys mother had mentioned to someone else where her son had gone and what he had gone to see. Then that third party said “oh, did you know that’s a 12A film.” And the mother thought “oh, shit, I’d better make a big deal out of this despite originally being relieved that my son was being taken out enabling me to do as I wanted all afternoon and not even paying for him to go” Hence, she doubled down on you OP 💁♀️

Gosh! In that case, fingers crossed she has blocked you so that you don't have to deal with this nutter again!

Leave her to it, she’s an idiot. If you do see her in person do not apologise . Tell her you’ll be doing no more free babysitting if she’s going to be so rude and ungrateful

Ugh, totally unreasonable of her to kick off at you when you'd OK'd the film choice with her. It was on her to look into the film and its rating if she had any concerns.

What an ungrateful bitch.

If he’s off to secondary school, and is approaching teenage years, she’s got far more to be worried about in terms of what he’s watching on his phone than him seeing a Jurassic Park film supervised by an adult.

My 8 year old loves dinosaurs so I took him to see it. It’s a 12A, he was with an adult so no rules were broken. The cinema staff didn’t even question his age, it’s sooooo not an issue. My son doesn’t look anywhere near 12 but he doesn’t have to as it’s a 12A! Think the mum in question is having a bad day and overreacting and unfortunately you’ve just copped the brunt of it.

That was my first thought too - maybe she's pissed.

Very, very odd behaviour. The poor son. She sound more scary than the dinosaurs.

My son's a notorious wimp and even he wasn't scared of Jurassic (( I'm still apologising for taking him to see Coraline however 😆🤣 ))

I work in a school and loony parents are definitely on the increase. One recently removed her two children from the school based supposedly on not liking my response when one of them got into trouble with another member of staff. Her parting email was both exceedingly patronising and completely ludicrous. I feel sorry for the children.

I would be really stressed out by this too OP but you have done absolutely nothing wrong. You checked! If she'd have been that fussed about the certificate, she could have googled it in seconds.

If you know their address, I'd be tempted to drop a note round repeating what you said in your message to her.

However pissed I was I wouldn’t kick off about an 11 year old seeing a 12A film 😂

I think OP you have found a nutter parent more severe than any I’ve ever encountered. The one of the boy in dd1’s class would have thought this was a normal thing to do.

Christ on a bike he’s going to secondary school in a month 🤦🏻♀️

Neither would I! But I get mellow after a few drinks, some people get argumentative.

She's crazy, her son must be mortified. The only thing I'd have been worried about is that the cinema wouldn't let them in!

Do you think her husband has kicked off about it?

The mother is totally unreasonable and this poster is correct. The cinema will do nothing. I know this, having sat through two films which were ruined by two and three year olds where the parents clearly decided they wanted to see the film and didn't need a babysitter as the children could go with them despite being up too late, freaked out by noise, bored stiff due to having no idea what was happening and exposed to inappropriate nudity, sex and violence - Daniel Craig's James Bond does not equal Thomas the Tank Engine!