Why is this mum so angry at me?

[Ohhilois]

So, dd asked if I could take her and her friend to the cinema. They are 11, (both 12 in November).

The kids worked out what they would like to see, the new Jurassic World film. I text his mum, saying I would book the tickets for it and take them, I checked she was okay with the film choice. She said yes, amazing, thanks so much. I took them this afternoon, they had a great time and both loved the film.

We got back, the kids had dinner here and then she picked him up, all smiles.

This evening, she absolutely kicked off at me over text as she says she didn’t realise it was a 12A and she can’t believe I took her son to see something so inappropriate, she feels so let down after leaving her son in my care, and she will take it further with the cinema, whatever the hell that is supposed to mean.

I just can’t be arsed with this madness. I don’t know where it’s suddenly come from. I checked the film choice with her prior to booking. The boy wasn’t scared or anything, he loved it. He was talking to me and dd about the previous Jurassic World films at dinner - in depth, so he has seen them.

I’ve replied that I am really sorry for any misunderstanding, I asked her if the film choice was okay before I booked but I think she’s blocked me. I mean, ffs, it’s ridiculous, right? Thank god they are going to different secondary schools.

She's absolutely bonkers.

Er, what? She can post as long as she likes.

12A is literally 12+ unless with an adult. And you specifically told her the movie - what did she think it was, a cartoon?

If she doesn’t think 12A is suitable for her soon to be 12 11 year old Son, then she needs to pay closer attention to his activities, including properly reviewing movies before approving them.

I assume he doesn’t have a phone with TikTok and other apps where he’s likely seeing far worse…

Poor kid having a mother like that.

I'd just screenshot the messages where you asked & she confirmed it was fine, and send to her. Or anyone she bitches to about it.

Then move on.

I also took my 7 year old. The only scene that slightly scared him was an arm falling down (after the rest of someone got eaten), but otherwise it’s totally fine

Wow sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet with this mum!

Posters asking / commenting on it being scary - yes it is a bit scary, but that’s irrelevant. The mum was told the film choice before they went and agreed to him going! Even if he did have a nightmare or later feel a bit scared by it, that’s not anyone’s fault!

We saw it at the weekend. DD is 11, also 12 later this year, and it’s entirely appropriate for children of her age to go to 12A’s. That’s the whole point of the rating.

Shrek is scary never mind Jurassic World 🙈🤣
Joke.

That poster was trying to put OPs mind at rest, not shut the OP down. Wasn’t that obvious?

We found it pretty scary and ours late teen! But totally fine for the over 10s. Not sure I would take a child younger than that personally

Often kids have fear at bedtime so she’s just dealt with that and is now deflecting to you. I’m a teacher and have had this with children at school where I’ve read them a story. All the class seem fine and then you get a parent email at 8pm complaining that child is terrified to sleep because there was ‘ mild peril’ in the story and what the hell was I thinking. When they discover it was Roald Dahl they normally look sheepish.

I’d be tempted to print this out, write a note saying “As you’ve blocked me, I wanted to clarify - 12A means that under 12s have to be accompanied by an adult and it’s up to the parent to decide if it’s suitable. I decided it was suitable for MY child and I texted you to see if it was suitable for YOUR child. You said it was, not my fault if you didn’t check it.”

But I’m a petty arse 🤣

Oh she can shove it up her fucking arse! Weirdo!

She is mental op. My revenge would be to tell everyone about this.

Nope, not when she was also telling OP she expects he found it frightening and may have had a nightmare.

In any case, it’s OP’s thread, and she’s not a child, she can post as long as she wants to.

Strange woman. Needs to rein it in unless she wants he son to lose all his friends

That's ridiculous. Even if he was upset in some way by the film and has hidden this from you and your DD, knowing that you'd asked her if it was OK with her, she should have taken the responsibility for her decision to allow him to go. She sounds nuts.

Your dd can join out of school clubs and activities to mix with boys when she moves to secondary school anyway. She doesn't need to rely on this one, and even if she did, they'll both be growing and changing pretty soon, so a friendship is unlikely to last for long. (My dd and a slightly younger girl were very close with a boy in their early teens. He was late to go though puberty, but when he did, they didn't see him for dust.)

She’s nuts.

She sounds like an entitled, dramatic, bitch. The type to cause drama for no reason. It’s completely and utterly on her. Ignore any further conversation. You did a lovely thing.

In any case, it’s OP’s thread, and she’s not a child, she can post as long as she wants to.

Which was my point.

Happy to agree to differ.

Forget this weird woman - you sound like a great Mum!

This is all you need to know and point out

shes clearly finding a way to have unnecessary beef with you

🙄

She is bonkers. I'd be so tempted to lose my shit and tell her how ridiculous she is being, but you can't argue with crazy and I honestly don't think it would be worth the drama. Just ignore her completely op.