How many hours did you work after going back from maternity leave?

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My contract is changing to 3 days, 22.5 hours. I wondered what other people do. If you reduced your hours, at what point did you go full time again?

In the 1950s it was still legal to rape your wife, children could be beaten at school and discrimination on the grounds of sex and ethnicity was legal. Women died from back street abortions, and they could be fired for getting married. Golden days indeed. 🙄

I’m fully supportive of anyone choosing to be a SAHP providing both parents agree and can afford it.
Just because I don’t want to be one doesn’t mean I don’t support others who do.

Are you supportive of working mothers? Because that respect needs to work both ways.

Exactly. Everyone is just doing their best with their circumstances. Went back FT myself, then PT over different patterns and now am shifting back up to FT. It's different for everyone. I don't think that makes me or anyone else less of a Mother and wife! Crazy statements being thrown around 🤣

@SayItLikeItIsLetsKeepItRealyou haven't commented or defended yourself. You've gone scorched earth and made some very spurious claims. It's a bit disingenuous also to come to a thread posted by a working mother who's asking for advice about working to come and "make sure she's aware of all her options". If YOU feel so secure in your decisions, likewise, you'd not waste a complete day "fighting your cause" to no good impact. You've just come across really badly.

I haven't read the SAHM threads or your previous post. What I've seen here is enough to view your responses as completely disproportionate.

There’s definitely no point discussing this any further, nothing new to say. I’m extremely bored now, and do have family plans all day 👌🏻

OP: I went back 0 hours, that is absolutely still an option, even though everyone on here will gang up and shout you down for saying that. I don’t care. You can absolutely still choose to pour all of your time, talents and energies into your own home, spouse and children. Schools, the media and wider society no longer present that as an option, but many still opt out of the oppressive obsession with working and outsourcing family life.

Good luck with your decision!

@SayItLikeItIsLetsKeepItReal I’ve just had a look aback at your posts and the responses and you massively overreacted.
People weren’t criticising your decision to become a SAHM, they were commenting on your insistence that the OP wouldn’t regret giving up work completely. You were the one who inflamed the situation by interpreting that as full time working mothers criticising your choices. You were looking for a fight.

I’ve never felt work was an oppressive obsession - I enjoyed it and financially it enabled me to retire very early and start a new exciting phase of life

Literally proving my point. Has to jump on any comment- this poster does it all the time 😂

What point???

Of course people are going to respond to you, especially when you claim things that simply aren’t true for everyone which is how it started.

You have no idea if OP would or wouldn’t regret becoming a SAHM or if she would even want to be one in the first place yet claimed she wouldn’t regret it.

You don’t which is fine but people, including women, are different.

Same. I bloody love my job!
My DS loves it too as when I travel internationally I try to take him with me - he’s visited so many countries and had some wonderful experiences.

You know how Mumsnet works yeah? You post something and people respond.

I bet if the results was agreeing with you wouldn’t have been bothered. You just struggle with hearing alternative views.

Disgusting comment. Call yourself a Christian?

Your true colours are shining bright for everyone to see. What an awful person you are.

I reported the post - it was been removed

Good call. It was a disgusting comment.
Imagine being that angry about women making a different choice to you? It's not a healthy perspective.

Imagine living in a society which is trying to normalise the institutionalisation of babies that are a few months old. The UK is a disgrace.

It’s still absolutely true though.

No, awful people leave babies of a few weeks old in institutions for hours in end.

Say what now? Most mat leave is 39 weeks. Many women take a whole year out. Hardly 'a few months old' is it? Blatant misrepresentation of reality won't help you. Also lying is a sin.

You're showing yourself up now. I'm embarrassed for you.

There was zero truth in your post and you seem to have huge difficulties in accepting that we all don’t want to live your life

Make up your mind, is it months or weeks? 😂

I was referring to a poster who left her own in nurseries at 12 weeks old. Many mothers at least spend 9-12 months with their own babies. That poster has a lot to say about SAHMs, well nobody will ever convince me that a nursery is the optimum environment for a 12 week old baby, or that is something in the UK we should promote and aspire to. Dads should step in and stop it if they are such fantastic equal parents. Absolutely horrendous.

In your opinion.
That person has done what works for her family. There is no need for the vitriol and person insults.
You need to accept that people can think and behave differently to you.