How many hours did you work after going back from maternity leave?

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My contract is changing to 3 days, 22.5 hours. I wondered what other people do. If you reduced your hours, at what point did you go full time again?

Where has anyone said they think these things? You’re just making stuff up now.

I’ve done pretty well on the contribution to society - raised two amazing children who are now also paying their taxes and I’ve also paid significant taxes from employment. Tick in the box for me 👍

The same people who do now. Carers.

Nobody is responsible for replenishing the country’s workforce if they don’t want to. There is no “must have child” expectation, and if there is - it’s archaic and wants getting rid of.

We have a choice.

And working mothers still care for their kids. My partner and I probably work 90-100 hours between us. When my 8 year old stepson needs changing, there’s no au pair doing it. Working doesn’t mean less hands on, it means busier - frankly.

And how do you envision this being implemented? Because unless you are going to stop people from making choices, you're on a hiding to nowhere.

And I trust you are also aware that marriage is not just man/woman these days? You may not wish to acknowledge that, but that's the law in the UK.

Wow this took a turn.

I went back 30 hours over 4 days when DS was 1. This was probably a year earlier than I'd have liked, but now works splendidly.
When he goes to school soon I will change the hours around, but it will work out a similar amount overall.

It's a pity we can't have a sensible conversation about affording to stay home when the kids are very small, without bringing duty to God and husband into it. (WTAF?)

It's a choice I would have liked to have, but would have been a big financial and career sacrifice.

Now DS is older I would argue he both likes and needs his preschool.

I've also successfully brainwashed my husband into allowing me to be the breadwinner too.

Care to join my waltz? 😂

This has just become completely bonkers now.

But I would like to say, as a Christian, and as a wife, you certainly don't represent me, or any of the many, many Christians (from quite a few different denominations) that I know with your weird, made up views.
Stop trying to imply your bonkers ideas are somehow a Christian view.

Gosh, I managed to be the breadwinner even when working part time. Some of us are just cracking parents and shit hot at our jobs.

Husband was/is an equal caregiver - we’re divorcing because I’ve realised I don’t like him but I can very much confirm that my priorities were:
Child
Horse
Cats
Husband
Work

The child, horse and cats needed me. The job and husband were replaceable.

How utterly tragic to rank animals above your husband - I’m not surprised you are getting divorced. Hope he initiated it after years of neglect!

Many Christians are hypocrites who no longer understand the word of God because it’s too hard to adhere to in our godless society.

I repeat- there won’t be any carers left. I guess we’ll have to rely on AI robots. Given how little we prioritise our most important relationships these days, and how rationality is praised over emotionality, that will likely suit many.

I speak the truth, many Christians are now unfortunately too weak to. We have morally corrupt and weak leadership in our government and churches, hence why the UK is morally bankrupt.

Hahaha.

No, very much me as I am sick of carrying him financially. He’d hang on forever to his meal ticket.

My animals are far better company than a man.

Oh he’s far from a godly man or example, godly men aren’t violent. They lead with quiet authority. Again, that comment shows a complete unawareness of Christian ideals.

There are so few public good examples for aspiring SAHMs and homemakers, which is why people feel nostalgia for the 1950s (the last time they were publicly celebrated). Who have we got really? Mrs Alena Kate Pettitt (a truly inspiring woman). Stacey Solomon (who speaks up very positively about SAHMs and home making- she’s an excellent home maker herself, so that is much appreciated). The Princess of Wales is an outstanding public wife, who certainly gets duty and behaving in a dignified way instead of embarrassing her husband (a rarity these days).

You were doing do well with your trolling @SayItLikeItIsLetsKeepItReal but Stacey fucking Soloman?! That’s hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

18 hours, 3 × 6hr days until ds started school when I worked 19 hours term time only.

SS also works. So you're contradicting yourself there

Well, there will. And if not, robotised care home it is.

If you need the extra 40+ hrs a week to prioritise your relationships, that’s your problem.

Now excuse me, I’m doing the “make the child toast before starting work at 8” waltz. 💃🏻💃🏻

Crikey. She's still going. Not sure how anyone that is devoting themselves to their child and husband has so much time on their hands. I spent my evening with my child and husband after I'd worked and they'd had the day at the zoo. This poster doesn't work and seemingly spent all of her apparently child free day ranting on the internet 😕 what a sad situation for her.

Feel sorry for OP. Asked a question, most replied in good faith and respectfully. She is likely more than aware she has the choice not to work. At least she know's that no matter what you do, however good, logical or practical your reasoning is, there's always some sanctimonious idiot ready to tear you down.

There's lots of grey area in all decisions. We all have different circumstances. 3 days a week seems to be the happy medium for a lot of people like OP is suggesting. I've done a range of working hours and patterns.

I even looked into being SAHM. Then my was husband got taken ill and then got made redundant. Luckily, I'm not that fixed on who does what, so keeping my career going has been essential for survival.

This thread has become absolutely insane 😆

Translation: I am the sole arbiter of what makes a Christian, everyone else is Christianing wrong, and I'm not arrogant at all, oh no.

I understand Christian values and I know you aren’t displaying them. The vitriol and judgement you’ve displayed towards working mothers is one of the least Christian things I’ve seen in a while.

I never said Andrew Tate displayed Christian values but your opinions on women and their role in society and relationships overlap somewhat.

Your examples of exemplary women is odd. Two on that list work! I wonder what constitutes being an embarrassment to your husband 🤔

and btw very few people hark back to the 1950’s, just you viewing it through rose tinted glasses.

Indeed. We’re also womaning wrong it would appear 🤷🏼‍♀️

I never said SS didn’t work. She is one of the most supportive of SAHMs though, she completely gets it.

I would have loved to do 3 days a week, but the option wasn't available back then and we needed two incomes to pay for luxuries like food, a roof over our heads, sort of thing. Because not everyone is or is married to a high earner.

Still, it's panned out well for me.

If you look on any thread on here, the minute anyone who is a SAHM comments about anything, just answering the initial OP, it is always without fail their comments who the working mums start on and all gang up on. This has been pointed out by others on other threads.

I have had enough of it, and will say something back. I don’t actually go on any thread and start personally replying to those who state I work FT, etc, but if they start on me I will retaliate. My first reply to the OP was short & to the point, but instantly picked up on by others who can’t hack that some Mums love being at home. If they are so happy with their own decisions stop commenting on how others do things in the first place.