How many hours did you work after going back from maternity leave?

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My contract is changing to 3 days, 22.5 hours. I wondered what other people do. If you reduced your hours, at what point did you go full time again?

OK, so on working Mums who can’t afford to be SAHMs, I think it is disgraceful that they don’t have that choice in the UK. That should be a given. Deeply ashamed of our country for that.

In response, I would:

• Give all mothers a guaranteed paid 3 years off work.
• Adjust the whole taxation system to allow more that choice. Fathers who support a family should be taxed differently to men with no children for sure.
• Adjust the whole child benefit system so a mother can receive more during the first 3 years proportionately, then less as her children age.

I would back any mother doing whatever it takes who is currently stuck at work missing her baby to stay at home, including lying to claim disability benefits (which I personally know several poor mothers who are doing just that on the school run). Hats off to them, no judgment from me. They have every right to afford to be with their own children. Same as night shift work being available and WFH (one positive modern development) as givens to fit around their children’s commitments.

I’ve successfully brainwashed my partner into allowing me to be the breadwinner of our family.

No place in Heaven for me! 😂

This is one of the most concerning posts I’ve read in a long time.
I bet you’re one of those parents who discourages their daughters education because all she’s good for is breeding stock.

I was definitely an ungodly wife. Atheist AF, me.
Somehow my late husband and I did fine until life happened and he dove into the bottle.

Well, I hate to sound all Tory Lite, but I’m about to:

I would rather not pay for other people to raise their kids, via a guaranteed 3 year pay for SAHPs. I would rather pay for those people to send their children to nursery.

Double the tax, whether you agree with that or not.

I definitely don’t think we should tax fathers less than men with no children. This isn’t Gilead.

Please do not refer to women as breeding, animals breed thank you. Women conceive and birth children.

We have an ageing population and declining birth rate. People are literally forgetting to have children pursuing hedonistic lifestyles whilst simultaneously being priced out of it.

The UK also voted for Brexit and a majority didn’t want immigrants here.

Like it or not, we are all going to be in serious trouble if people keep taking their eye of the ball marriage-wise. As our many other countries. The UK has never been so anti-marriage and anti-children…wow, that’s working out really well for us all isn’t it? Congratulations.

Thank goodness that the country doesn’t operate that way

People don’t forget to have children, they don’t want them, for reasons known only to them. Reasons they’re allowed to have.

I’d rather pay a SAHP than a nursery every single time.

My DH has friends in their forties who quite frankly need to grow up. Who waste money on holidays and drinking. Contributing diddly squat of any value to the next generation. Whilst my DH is housing, feeding and clothing his entire family. Makes my blood boil.

Changes are coming though!

No one is obligated to have children if they don’t want to nor does anyone have to get married to have a family.

Well they’d better start at least being a bit more welcoming to the immigrants who will be their future carers then…we won’t have anyone left here if things continue as they are.

It makes your blood boil that other people have holidays?

You need a hobby. Might I recommend knitting, or is it darning. Can’t be sure.

Please don’t police my language.

And yet again, you’ve avoided answering the question 🙄

Yep- you definitely don’t like mothers being at home. I guess that helps you sleep at night. How lovely denying others that opportunity.

Breeding is a disgusting, immature term which absolutely sums up the disdain for motherhood and children so prevalent these days.

What changes are they then? Forced impregnation?

I don’t have any biological children. I have one wonderful stepson, who is also very disabled and won’t be caring for anyone in our later years.

Looks like that plan didn’t work out for us!

No one is stopping anyone being a SAHM but I don’t think taxpayers should be funding it. I sleep well at night, thank you

People can spend their money anyway they like. You might want other people to pay for your choices but that not the situation we’re in and you don’t get to dictate how people spend their own money.
You husband is choosing to spend money one way, your friends have made different choice. Although I realise thats a concept you struggle with.

And nobody is obligated to work when they have children, the next generation, to raise either. You know, those who are actually contributing people of worth needed to sustain society.

If nobody had children, the human race would die out. Only the human race would be stupid enough to bring about its own extinction. It’s a race to the bottom- we will bring about our own end either through climate change, AI or simply letting the human race die out.

You dont have to like it. But at the end of the day, that's what, factually, anyone who has had children has done. Breeding isn't a bad word. In fact you're more for it than most it seems

In your opinion …

Nope, just a return to not viewing men as the enemy and root of all evil, valuing a stable marriage and valuing having children as a joy not a burden.

Eh? What gave you the idea I see my dp as the enemy and I see my kids as a burden?

I think you need a time out. You're imaging things

I’m not talking about children/step children caring for parents (although that’s certainly the norm in other countries), I’m talking about paid carers. There won’t be enough people here to do those jobs, people don’t even want to spend a few years doing hands on care for their own babies, let alone for a load of unrelated elderly people. People here look down their noses on those types of job. But then the Brexit vote illustrates the UK doesn’t want help from immigrants either. What a conundrum.

So who is going to care for our ageing population whilst our birth rate continues to decline? Who has an answer for that?