How many hours did you work after going back from maternity leave?

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My contract is changing to 3 days, 22.5 hours. I wondered what other people do. If you reduced your hours, at what point did you go full time again?

That I do agree with you on. Young people unfortunately don’t think about marriage young enough anymore. We are actively working on changing that. It’s a travesty that so many women waste their twenties pursuing education and careers forgetting that they are different and their time is more limited to have children. Young people really need to be dating with intent in their late teens/early twenties.

The biggest wrong in modern society goes way beyond the whole motherhood vs work debate. Actually, mothers run themselves ragged prioritising both their children and work in many cases. They force their husbands to do the same in the name of equality. Who they really neglect is their husband, and therefore their marriage.

Christian wives know that the correct order is God then husband then children. Same for husbands, wives actually come before children. Date nights and intimate lives are not neglected, children do not control the home or the marital bedroom. If husband and wife prioritise each other then everything else can flourish. The correct pair is husband and children, not work and children. Work can never replace your husband.

You’ve been falsely waltzing round like you are the man of the house. You’re not, a husband is rightfully the head of his home. That won’t end well.

Wow, what an exceptionally rude and obnoxious reply to someone who has worked their way up out of poverty! If that's how you live your Christian beliefs, you need to give your head a wobble and learn some manners.

Just read your comment out to DH - he’s laughing his head off. We’re an equal partnership.

Nope, not up for it. I’ve explained on other threads how I myself worked my way up out of poverty, childhood bereavement and living with a bunch of criminals, and nobody had one kind word to say to me. They were too busy judging me for choosing to be a Mrs and taking my DH’s surname. You were actually one I think. So just returning the favour.

I’m ok - I’m an atheist!

Many men have been led so far astray from the word of God by ungodly wives that they no longer know any different…completely brainwashed.

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And I’m a Christian, so we’ll all have to continue to rub along together won’t we?

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Jesus Christ. Are you saying this shit with a straight face? Or are you really just pulling all our legs at this point?

It was double, not triple.

And it was in reference to “we’re not individuals, we’re a unit.” Just gave me “joint Facebook/email account” vibes.

My partner and I are absolutely a team, however I’m also absolutely an individual. We haven’t morphed into one another.

I noticed you haven’t responded to me reminding you that not all working mums are middle class?

In fact, of all the SAHP I know - they’re the ones that are upper/middle class, everyone else can’t afford it.

Yeahhhh there is definitely some brainwashing going on here that's for sure... but you're looking a little too far from home

After my first I went back full time. After my second I reduced to 28 hours a week and still do this (he's about to start school in September). No plans to increase just yet.

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Andrew Tate has nothing on you!

Well. Wow.

Oh and also, there is not a husband in my household or a wife.

You don’t act in a Christian manner.

I'm so glad that most of us aren't Christian wives, and that there are a lot of different kinds of Christianity where people don't think and live like you do. You are of course free to choose - but it's oppressive and regressive.

You make it sound as if women owe it to the world to have children. We don't. My young adult children don't want biological kids of their own; they want to work to be financially secure and then foster and adopt. And of course they won't be in any opposite sex marriages, since they're all gay.

You seem incapable of accepting that there isn't one correct way to live life. There are many.

Has he got a secret wife and kids? Maybe we've found them?

Head of the house. I wouldn’t dream of it.

My partner can be head of the lawnmower, and that’s about it.

Thankfully god doesn’t exist in our house and DH is quite happy with me and vice versa. Married nearly 30 years.

WTAF 😱

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I aspire now to be an ungodly wife.. tick one... working. Easy peasy

Actually, I wasn't. I took my husband's name after marriage, and I think as long as it's a matter of free choice, it's fine.

You aggressively called the hard work and accomplishments of a poster who actually springs from a very similar situation to yours worthless - because she chose a different path to yours. You dismiss everyone's choices as inferior to yours because of your belief. Hear this: belief is all it is. You have nothing of substance on which to base your belief that your way is the only right way and that everyone who does it differently is wrong. Your arrogance is astounding.

There's a bit in the Bible that says 'Judge not, lest ye be judged'. You need to read it again.