How many hours did you work after going back from maternity leave?

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My contract is changing to 3 days, 22.5 hours. I wondered what other people do. If you reduced your hours, at what point did you go full time again?

All political parties with the exception of the Greens and Reform for a start, setting the tone for sadly a majority who can’t think critically about who benefits from that…ie the government shamelessly lining their pockets with taxes from 2 adults per household instead of 1. Well they are not getting anything from me, not one penny.

You obviously have some not very nice friends. Over 20 years later we’re still in touch with the nursery owner - she is now a friend. DT’s nursery key workers became our weekly babysitters and DH gave one of them away when she got married - he was honoured to do so in recognition of the close relationship with the whole family.

You are surrounded by a lot of negativity. None of your friends or acquaintances seem very happy.

And you didn’t ask me a question so…

But let’s talk about class privilege shall we? I grew up in abject poverty in one of the most deprived areas of the uk. I was the first (and still the only) member of my family to go to university. I have a degree, two postgraduate degrees and a PhD. I’ve worked very hard to develop my career in a male dominated field. I didn’t want to give that up when I had a child, so I didn’t.
We used a fabulous nursery, I can’t speak highly enough of the wonderful women and men ( cos there were 2 male members of staff) who cared for our son.
I haven’t benefitted from family help because my mum was murdered and my dad lives abroad. Therefore we chose an excellent nursery. I stand by that choice and nobody will make me feel bad for the choices I’ve made.

I'm sorry you are surrounded by such unpleasant and judgemental people. My experience is very different.

They won't be talking about my sons with disdain, dont you worry. Im not raising them like you are yours.

@SayItLikeItIsLetsKeepItRealno response to my question about the conflict of your Christian beliefs and your judgemental posts? No surprise there 🙄

I’m guessing you’re happy to benefit from the services others peoples taxes provide though eh?

Middle class?

You’re ignoring the many, many women who work because they can’t afford not to. Not without sacrificing food on the table, or a stable roof over their kids heads.

My mum didn’t have a Very Important Career, she worked low paid jobs and we were still very, very poor.

I work out of purpose, pride and independence. She worked because she had to or we’d have starved.

Check your privilege.

Yes of course, my DH pays plenty of tax on our family’s behalf, so yes of course. We view ourselves as a unit, not 2 individuals.

They still may up married to a SAHW though. That will be up to them.

That it will. And their partner will have chosen to be a SAHP. Or they might be the SAHP. My DP was the one who worked PT and did all the school runs etc when the DC were small.

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And not everybody is impressed by degrees and PHDs. Many are largely worthless nowadays, which people are wising up to. Not everyone wants to start married life with years of unnecessary debt.

Now who’s being judgmental? It used to be the norm in the UK, and still is in plenty of other countries that those with dependents are rightly taxed differently. Change is coming here though, mark my words.

Oh and your triple vomit emojis? That’s how I’d feel if I had been forced to leave my baby at a nursery.

I was going to say I want to watch my kids grow up too. I work FT so I can give them everything I never had as a kid. Holidays abroad, a nice detached house big enough for my 3 kids to have their own bedroom each. I watch mine grow up just fine, working FT. Stupid comment to make, everyone has their own motivation.

Of course he did, that explains a lot.

But you are two individuals 🤷🏼‍♀️

Nothing worthless about a good education- degrees and PHD’s are recognised worldwide. Education is priceless.

Where’s your evidence that they are worthless come from?

But we organise and operate as a team. Why on earth would I also earn money, pay tax to get free childcare I don’t want? How utterly bizarre. I actually have saved the government a fortune caring for my own children, and plenty of other people’s during the school holidays might I add.

I've never left my baby at nursery. They started at around 3 when free hours kicked in. Still worked FT from around 9 months.

Is that your beef? Babies in nurseries?

Plenty of people have them but can’t get a job. Plenty of people have made a great deal of money without any formal qualifications. They don’t necessarily correlate to higher pay. They definitely equate to higher levels of debt though, especially nowadays.

What does it explain pray tell? I'm literally DYING to know.

You never have anything nice to say do you?
I couldn’t care less whether you’re impressed or not but they’re certainly not worthless. They were required for my job and I’m incredibly proud of my achievements.

and anyway most young people don’t have marriage at the forefront of their minds when making education and career decisions.

You do appear to know some unusual people. I have a degree from LSE and DH from McGill - we both worked full time post Uni until recent very early retirement. DT’s degrees from UK Universities - one working in engineering in Amsterdam and the other for the EU - neither had any difficulty in getting post grad roles - neither did their classmates.

That isn’t evidence that they’re worthless.
This is literally my area of work so PLEASE provide me with actual evidence that this is the case. Proper evidence, not just your opinion or anecdotes.