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How did your body hold on to trauma ??

147 replies

hellohellooo · 17/07/2025 20:29

I think mine was most likely brain fog

Lethargy

(Binge eating too) !!!

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pavillion1 · 17/07/2025 21:20

4st weight gain

PinkImbrella · 17/07/2025 21:20

Awful ways.
I developed phagophobia, which is where you can't swallow. I was terrified I would choke. It lasted years.

Panic disorder, horrible panic attacks, sometimes multiple times a day.

Pressure in the eyes.

Insomnia.

AsIsaidearlier · 17/07/2025 21:20

Heart Attack

MarySueSaidBoo · 17/07/2025 21:23

Costochondritis. Was horrific, never had pain like it. All stress induced, and I'm sadly still prone to flare ups when stressed.

JustSawJohnny · 17/07/2025 21:25

A few years back my Mum was very, very ill and we nearly lost her She spent weeks in hospital. We had to move as a family into her home temporarily so I could go up and down to the hospital twice daily, which was hard for all of us, especially as DS was still very young. Eventually she was discharged to our care so we had to change our home to house and care for her, with daily nurse visits and me having to get up throughout the night to change machines etc.

She was with us for just shy of a year and it was a LOT but we just did what had to be done at the time. You just kind of crack on, don't you?

Anyway, a year or so after she left and things were all back to normal, I put my back out and visited a chiropractor. I'd never seen one before so he went through the whole pre-spiel, which included a warning that any trauma my body was holding onto may be released and ways in which this could occur.

My thought were, honestly, what a load of woo-woo shite, but, well, I SOBBED! I felt absolutely fine, zero emotion, but the tears would not stop! I was given many tissues and I was laughing in the end but they just wouldn't stop coming!

Very weird experience.

It's such a bizarre thing.

ocelot3 · 17/07/2025 21:30

For me an emotionally abusive marriage followed by years of the abuser dragging me through family courts - since then I haven’t been able to cry apart from in extreme circumstances e.g. death of a parent.

IsThePopeCatholic · 17/07/2025 21:31

Fatigue
insomnia
diarrhea
jumpiness

Chick981 · 17/07/2025 21:35

MarySueSaidBoo · 17/07/2025 21:23

Costochondritis. Was horrific, never had pain like it. All stress induced, and I'm sadly still prone to flare ups when stressed.

How was this diagnosed if you don’t mind me asking? I had chest pain a while back which has almost completely gone since the traumatic thing I was dealing with has gone. Had tests and doctors assumed it was muscular / anxiety, but my symptoms I think matched costochronditis and this was the third occasion I’d had such symptoms. Never would have thought it could be triggered by trauma / stress?

SameOldMe · 17/07/2025 21:35

I kept repeating the pattern and craved the wrong attention.

miserableandworried · 17/07/2025 21:36

Dissociative disorder, agoraphobia and OCD.

twinmama2022 · 17/07/2025 21:42

Developed a stutter and an ED

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 17/07/2025 21:43

Fat swollen face

mambojambodothetango · 17/07/2025 21:45

A long time ago (30 years nearly) my hair fell out after a bad relationship and A level stress.

User415373 · 17/07/2025 21:46

Physically, eczema which itched horribly all over my feet for years. Puffyness. Tired all the time, depression. Constant picking at any injuries or blisters or cuts, spots etc.
Mentally, much more.

M777 · 17/07/2025 21:46

Memory loss, fibromyalgia, heart condition, pain, hypervigilance, perfectionism, deep mistrust of men, eczema, weight gain I cannot lose, IBS (or IBD..awaiting diagnosis) and more

CheeseWisely · 17/07/2025 21:49

During an abusive relationship I developed alopecia. It disappeared after the relationship and has never returned. A family member went totally grey almost overnight in childhood.

jetlag92 · 17/07/2025 21:51

@hellohellooo
How can your body release the trauma?

We need to think of creative ways to overcome.

Showerflowers · 17/07/2025 21:53

Chronic autoimmune disease and then was diagnosed with FND. When I was diagnosed I was referred to a neurological rehabilitation centre. I saw a physio and a psychotherapist. I was a bit perplexed as to why I needed to see the psychotherapist but it turned out I’d desperately needed it for a long time. I’d had a very abusive childhood and some adult traumas that I always felt I’d coped well with. But in reality, when I finally physically stopped (due to my illness) and I could no longer outrun my feelings, it all became too much and my health just snowballed. My body just stopped. Literally I couldn’t move. No physical reason. I’d just been surviving every sodding day by living at a million miles an hour, keeping busy, not letting myself think or feel. I was exhausted both physically and emotionally.

I was in therapy for a whole year. It was hard but I got back on my feet and I deal with things better.

I can now move but I still find my body freezing in stressful times.

Arran2024 · 17/07/2025 21:57

I got a quinsy on my tonsils after a really stressful event. Even the consultant agreed it was probably stress induced.

When my mother died, at the funeral I started to get an irritation at the site of a sebaceous cyst on the centre of the front of my neck a few days later I was in A& E having it drained and being checked for sepsis.

When my dad died recently, it flared up again, four years later.

Throat chakra stuff!

Mrsmouse71 · 17/07/2025 22:08

Psoriasis

hellohellooo · 17/07/2025 22:28

Tryingnottobeamouse · 17/07/2025 20:41

It's all gone to my lower back, lots of tension, and the hyper vigilance

Edited

Hyper vigilance my god yes

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hellohellooo · 17/07/2025 22:30

YourWinter · 17/07/2025 21:10

Have you read The Body Keeps The Score?

I have it need to read it now

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hellohellooo · 17/07/2025 22:32

jetlag92 · 17/07/2025 21:51

@hellohellooo
How can your body release the trauma?

We need to think of creative ways to overcome.

Exactly

I now run a lot that helps ??

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Beyondnow · 17/07/2025 22:33

No appetite at all, literally don’t feel hungry for days at a time

anxiety feeling in my chest

unable to concentrate

feeling outside of myself if that makes sense

halfpasteleven · 17/07/2025 22:39

Yes to the lower back pain, and yes to the hyper awareness/vigilance..
Over thinking
intrusive thoughts
I must read that book

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