Who do you love more your spouse or children?

[Batbrown]

Of course the love you have is different for each, but I don’t know how else to phrase it. I did chat GPT and it basically said not to rank them. A spouse is someone you have a romantic commitment with, it’s a mutual respect, build on choice whilst the love you have for your children is based on instinct and responsibility, the relationship is not equal unlike a spouse and and based on guidance and provision. I think it’s also complex, not all parents like their children and some are NC or estranged so this could affect their choice. What about age? Some adult children only see their parents maybe once a month and live their own lives, does this affect the decision? I don’t think there is any right or wrong answer, everyone will have their own reasons.

I agree 😂😂

Makes me wonder if this is indeed one of those AI training threads people usually talk about...

I love my child more. Always will.

You can love someone and hate what they have done, you can love someone and dislike them as a person, you can love someone but remove them from your life.

If one of my dc did something so terrible that I had to remove them from my life I would grieve that loss forever and I would think about them daily, because I still love them.

My love for my kids is absolutely unconditional. Its not naive to say that at all.

Tbh that’s a very good point made , if one of your children intentionally and severely harmed/murdered your other child. That’s more than dislike or going NC. I honestly wouldn’t know what I’d do , or how I’d feel.

Your misogyny is showing. A child has two parents, a mother and a father. I take it you also think women are automatically the default parent.? I pity any mother who puts up with this.

My children,100 %.

I dont ever understand people who answer this question any other way.

My child, first, always. As some celebrity once said, I would use my husband as a human shield to protect her. Without question. And I would hope he would do the same.

My child, without question. And I would expect DH to say the same.

I struggle to get my head around any other answer.

Equally.He is the love of my life and without him there would be no children. I can’t choose.

I definitely judged Chris Watts parents for standing by him murdering his wife, two children and unborn child and blaming the wife for own death. How could any parent condone that?

Well that’s a leap

why on earth would you imagine that I think women are automatically the default parent?

I actually can’t even follow what your point is.

Definitely my children. It’s nature. You are driven to love and protect them at all costs.

Read back at what you said. “I find something very strange about anyone but particularly women” So yes, it’s concerning and misogynist that you think it’s strange, particularly a woman could chose a spouse. Your view just highlights that even in 2025 women are seen as the main caregiver.

You would hope so, but it does not take into account all the parents that abuse and kill their children.

When my children were younger they were my no1 priority. Now they have moved on and out my relationship is my priority.
I would be very lonely without dh in a way I wasn’t when the children moved out.

Gun to their head I would save the children.

Oh my life can't anyone have a thought these days without having it scaffolded out for them by Chat-fucking-GPT??

Agreed. I would argue that there is something fundamentally wrong with these people that disrupts their natural responses. Whether it’s a genetic issue or something to do with their own upbringing that has triggered it, I don’t know. I suspect both in many cases.

Again, not following your “logic” that being surprised that women choose a man over their child has anything to do with me believing that women are the primary carer.

Primarily my view is based on the fact that the bonds of motherhood tend to be stronger. We carry our children, birth them then nourish them. They literally come from inside us. That’s not misogyny it’s biological fact.

Secondarily it’s easier to get my head round the fact that many men can be somewhat pathetic creatures led by their dicks and statistically far more likely to abandon a child whether to death or otherwise. Women generally are better than that.

bang on

My dog.

Possibly. Reading the news most week that a parent has killed their own child proves that not all parents have unconditional love. I read a particular disturbing crime committed by Mitchelle Blair, killed two of her kids and put them in the freezer, was three years until they were discovered. Horrific. So no, I don’t think all parents love or would choose their kids.

The dog is a popular choice 😁

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Clearly not the case for those women that adopt though. I have no idea what your issue is with men or fathers, but not all dads abandon their child. There are many single fathers out there that are the sole parent and those that are widowed who raise children.