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What’s the most controversial opinion you hold?

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NC28 · 28/06/2025 19:58

Do you want to share any opinions you have that are (or may be) seen as controversial?

Mine are probably around the severity of criminal punishment the courts should be giving out for certain crimes and what kids should do in the event of physical violence from peers. Both subjects can be quite provoking for others.

What are yours?

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Ownedbykitties · 28/06/2025 21:10

Insidenumbernineteen · 28/06/2025 21:02

Pensioners shouldn’t have the vote.

Most MPs are noble and good.

Nobody should own more than one house, and if they do they should pay enormously discouraging amounts of tax.

Sexual infidelity is fine. It’s secrets and lies that are problematic.

Inheritance Tax should be completely abolished, but anyone receiving any inheritance at all should pay income tax on it.

Assisted dying should not only be introduced as planned, but made much much easier to access than currently described.

Pensioners pay tax so they should absolutely have the vote.

dynamiccactus · 28/06/2025 21:11

MrsAvocet · 28/06/2025 21:00

Democracy is over rated.Or at least universal suffrage is.

My mum was saying today that she doesn't think people should have a vote once they reach state retirement age (she's in her 80s).

I can see her point - see Brexit. But I don't think I really want to lose my vote in about 15 years' time.

the80sweregreat · 28/06/2025 21:11

Hot weather is awful.
I’ve also judge people who have children with various different men. I wished I didn’t , but I just feel sorry for the children and some blended families don’t always work.( I’d never say anything to them as it’s not my business. )
The man who murdered John hunts family is paralyzed and he should be quietly put to sleep as our taxes are keeping him alive and it feels wrong. He had to have emergency surgery , he should have been left to die.
John and Amy Hunt are so brave , but if it was me I’d struggle to know he was still breathing.

ParmaVioletTea · 28/06/2025 21:11

reversegear · 28/06/2025 20:05

Women are in fact better at driving and parking than men.

Q: why are women bad at parking?
A: because they believe men when men tell them that this much - roughly measuring 3 inches with my hands - is 6 inches.

SemperIdem · 28/06/2025 21:11

People who don’t value education are fuelling the huge rise in anti-intellectualism. It bothers me that so many are parents.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 28/06/2025 21:11

Also, I am strongly pro choice.

for both women and men.

not sure how it would work, but I do believe that men should be able to ‘opt out’ of parenthood within the same time frame as a woman could.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 28/06/2025 21:11

CatCaretaker · 28/06/2025 21:09

What is it like then? Do you have an idea? Genuinely interested. Clearly not benevolent, or, if it is, then must be utterly powerless?

Also don't get the anti-breastfeeding thing. Babies main food until 1 is milk, why would you give them expensive synthetic substitute if you can give the real thing (again, if it's right / possible for you)?

I don’t think anyone has said they are anti breastfeeding have they? Just that they find it weird to extend it beyond babyhood in a developed country

SquashMeDown · 28/06/2025 21:11

arcticpandas · 28/06/2025 21:01

@SquashMeDown Yes, but you have the whole spectrum (no pun intended) between as well. My son has 50-80% disability according to the child psychiatrists. He's verbal and has no cognitive disability according to Wisc-5. So where would you put him on the scale? He will probably never be independent and always need support but not necessarily 24/7.

I don’t know, maybe humans are just too complicated to place on a spectrum unless it’s a very specific one!

rockonwithyourbadself · 28/06/2025 21:11

Like human beings, if a domesticated animal, aka an abandoned and betrayed, or lost "pet", lived outside, in all weather, with inadequate shelter, their lives would be much more challenging, frightening, nowhere near as pleasant, more risky, more dangerous and much, much, shorter.
Anyone who has enjoyed sharing the their home with a "pet" animal of course would not agree with your point of view :)

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 28/06/2025 21:11

skippy67 · 28/06/2025 21:07

Erm, not sure what you're on about? My dc went to nursery, where they were looked after by paid employees. Childminding, also a job.
When I stayed at home looking after my dc, I was on leave from my paid employment, aka my job. HTH.

Edited

Well, if a full-time SAHM (or SAHD) is not doing an actual job, how can you say that somebody caring for their children on their behalf whilst they are at work is any more doing a job?

mylovedoesitgood · 28/06/2025 21:11

Also, social housing should be periodically means-tested. And lifetime tenancies should be scrapped.

Capital gains tax should be paid for your main home when you sell it.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 28/06/2025 21:11

dynamiccactus · 28/06/2025 20:24

I think that very much depends on the circumstances! Are you saying that if a woman's husband dies, she can never have another child with anyone else?

Or if she was raped the first time, she can't have children with someone she actually loves?

Those are rare examples. Its mostly I'm pregnant, new relationship, i don't want to abort (because either dad possibly or the state mostly will pay). Again it's not ok - if you and the father can't support these children, then don't have them.

2024onwardsandup · 28/06/2025 21:11

That “progressives” in the west are utter morons to believe that western societies are awful and non western societies are inherently better. modern western liberal democracies are amazing and are not all the result of stealing from non western countries.

Dragonblo · 28/06/2025 21:11

Catsandcannedbeans · 28/06/2025 21:04

If someone hits me, I will hit them back. This definitely got me beaten up as a teenager but it did stop me getting bullied so a win. My children know how to throw a punch and DD can land an absolutely flawless right hook for a 6 year old, I’ll give her that. They know if someone hits them first they hit back, full force.

I’ve never thought of this one as controversial but there was a thread a while ago about a woman who’s son was basically grabbed by a neighbour for damaging a car and it made me realise maybe it is: my kids know if an adult who isn’t me, their dad, or another care giver grabs them to scream and kick and bite them. I assumed we were all telling our kids that but I guess not, so maybe it’s controversial?

I also don’t help men I don’t know. If they ask me for directions I’ll help them (if they’re polite lol I’ve sent a few the wrong way for being rude) but if a man asks me for assistance with something else I say no. Better a bitch than sorry.

Not controversial at all. I feel the same. I also taught my kids this. I also think more women/girls need to be aware about not helping men. They can manage just fine.

Theunamedcat · 28/06/2025 21:11

Anyway my most controversial opinion is social housing no you should not get to keep that big house just because you raised your children there down size and let others have it instead you shouldn't be kicked out we should be building homes for single people one/two bedrooms small garden parking space maisonettes used to be great for this but they knocked them all down to make three bedroom boxes of doom just so granny can live in her huge three bedroom house

dynamiccactus · 28/06/2025 21:12

Inheritance Tax should be completely abolished, but anyone receiving any inheritance at all should pay income tax on it

Interesting - I guess it would get rid of the idea that you were paying tax on pretaxed money.

SailingYachty · 28/06/2025 21:12

Don’t have a kid if you can’t afford it and if you keep having them you shouldn’t be given more money by the state.

ParmaVioletTea · 28/06/2025 21:12

BearPear · 28/06/2025 20:14

After working nearly 40 years in the welfare/benefits sector I can say that there’s a significant proportion of people for whom not working is a choice. There are families where they are on to second generation of non-workers. Very sad to see, and it definitely grinds you down dealing with how entrenched it is.

I agree.

And I think the 2 child limit for benefits should stand.

SemperIdem · 28/06/2025 21:13

Theunamedcat · 28/06/2025 21:11

Anyway my most controversial opinion is social housing no you should not get to keep that big house just because you raised your children there down size and let others have it instead you shouldn't be kicked out we should be building homes for single people one/two bedrooms small garden parking space maisonettes used to be great for this but they knocked them all down to make three bedroom boxes of doom just so granny can live in her huge three bedroom house

Completely agree with this.

Insidenumbernineteen · 28/06/2025 21:13

Ownedbykitties · 28/06/2025 21:10

Pensioners pay tax so they should absolutely have the vote.

Only around 60% do. But ‘paying tax’ shouldn’t be linked to voting, or else lots of people wouldn’t have the vote eg disabled people unable to work.

dynamiccactus · 28/06/2025 21:13

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 28/06/2025 21:11

Also, I am strongly pro choice.

for both women and men.

not sure how it would work, but I do believe that men should be able to ‘opt out’ of parenthood within the same time frame as a woman could.

They can - they can keep their dicks in their pants. Not the same timeframe I realise, but men do have agency in the matter.

Dee032 · 28/06/2025 21:14

My confession is that when I hear somebody is having a fourth (or fifth or sixth etc) child I think “Another one?!” Regardless of how well looked after they are or how well off the family is. Not that controversial I don’t think with the state of the world…

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dynamiccactus · 28/06/2025 21:14

ParmaVioletTea · 28/06/2025 21:12

I agree.

And I think the 2 child limit for benefits should stand.

I agree with the cap as well. And I also agreed with removing the winter fuel supplement too.

OldMcDonaldHadABigMac · 28/06/2025 21:14

I judge men who get into new relationships with women if they have very young babies from a previous relationship. Or even more so, men who have children who are close in age, to different women. Concentrate on being a father first and finding your feet as a co-parent. I would judge the women who get with them too/have babies with them. It's a messy situation that you just don't get involved with if you have anything about you.

Cancel all foreign aid, we're in debt and our own services are falling apart.

Repeat offenders, throw away the key and protect us from them

Getting involved in wars in countries that have constant internal conflict or ongoing conflict with the same sparring partner. Let then blow each other off the map.

I'm sure there are many more if I thought about it.

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