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Come and tell us your dull and unexciting news 34: Calmly through the day

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/06/2025 19:30

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HildaTablet · 25/12/2025 08:14

Happy Christmas/holidays to all on this thread. I hope you continue to regain strength and get plenty of rest, @MissConductUS. You’ve been through a major physical and psychological upheaval in a very short space of time so no wonder you’re exhausted.

@MrsSPenguins I've just realised it's you! I hope the big move and the job are working out well and that DH and DS have adjusted to their new home and country. I hope you stick around for a bit as I’d love to know how you’re doing in your new life.

MrsSPenguins · 25/12/2025 22:15

Happy Christmas everyone.

Your evening sounds lovely @Mumtobabyhavoc

Hi @HildaTablet Yes its me. We are all in the UK. DD is at university in Oxford and back for the holidays until 12th so about 5 weeks. DS is not speaking / writing but spends his days in the garden a lot now especially likes wandering round, climbing trees and we converted our shed into a summerhouse for him and painted it and put furniture in it and he loves it. He does basic cooking, washing up, his own washing, bathes and is very keen on floral bath foams, shampoos and conditioners. DH is working from home in same job he's had for 20 odd years but has holiday from 24th to 5th.

Hope everyone has had a good day. I was kept awake last night by the cat (Maine Coon) who had his first tuna breakfast at midnight then from 5 mins later to 3am was pestering for a second then at 5.30am, 7.30am and 9am when I gave him one. He's been very cuddly all day and now sleeping. DS took a bath whilst we were asleep I could tell by the trail of mud from the garden to the upstairs bath and the masses of conditioner in the bath so had to clean that but good he's bathed. He at least left the boiler on, normally he turns our boiler off, so we had heating and hot water. Normally have to use electric heaters and the stove and hot water from the shower. DD woke up late but that worked out as house was now clean again and we swapped presents. DD has bought some nice presents for DS, DH and I which was kind of her. We left DSs presents at 2am under the tree. We all had the traditional turkey/pigs in blankets /stuffing /cranberry sauce, veg and roast potatoes and yorkshire's Christmas meal (DD has veggie)and Christmas pudding and cream. Just a light dinner of cheese, crackers, onions with apple juice. DS has eaten loads of the cakes from the bakers, 6 of the cinnamon buns and 10 chocolate brownies though is still as thin as a beanpole - he walks round / climbs about 4 hours a day but still impressive his ability to stay thin. He also eats lots of fruit and veg, I get a fruit and veg order from farm shop each week and he eats about 1kg of fruit a day. DS has put the solar dandelion light back together which came apart with the wind.

Hope you are still on for returning home tomorrow @MissConductUS

sproutsandparsnips · 25/12/2025 23:02

Lovely to hear news from you again @MrsSPenguins!
DS is also back from university but only 3 weeks here.
Had a lovely day with lots of food and drink and games.
Hope you got out today @MissConductUS
That lamb looks perfectly cooked @Mumtobabyhavoc!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/12/2025 07:45

sproutsandparsnips · 25/12/2025 23:02

Lovely to hear news from you again @MrsSPenguins!
DS is also back from university but only 3 weeks here.
Had a lovely day with lots of food and drink and games.
Hope you got out today @MissConductUS
That lamb looks perfectly cooked @Mumtobabyhavoc!

Thank you! It was sooo tender! 😋 I just seasoned with s&p and garlic powder, seared all sides then popped into the oven at 300f for 10-15 mins and that was it.
I made gravy to go with the duck & garlic mash tonight. Remembered I had a dish of dressing on the stove after we started eating, but completely forgot I had a bowl of cranberry sauce I had made earlier in the day. 🤦‍♀️

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MyrtleLion · 26/12/2025 16:52

Merry Christmas everyone! We've had a lovely few days, just me, DH and DSD. We hunker down over Christmas and DH has everything in a plan so it works like clockwork.

To answer questions about the lymphoedema.

Are compression stockings the only treatment you will get?
Yes, though leg elevation is also recommended. I used to wear support stockings/ tights and at night I wore compression bandages but since the advent of this like Lycra, compression has been very good.

I have been prescribed socks for about two years but they are quite easy to get on, so my consultant says I've had the wrong ones. I need socks that are really difficult to put on. They usually put four blood pressure cuffs on all my limbs and test them, but that is not efficient. The mapping of the lymph system should make it easier to prescribe.

This is important because the fluid gathers under the skin and can make it fibrous over time.

Unfortunately the socks only come in two colours, black or nude/flesh, which doesn't match my very very pale skin colour, or indeed anyone not white. I can only get two pairs in one colour at a time and they last six months. So a lot of washing - I would prefer about six pairs and maybe nude/flesh for the summer as well as black.

It's worse in the summer because I don't want to wear black socks with a sun dress or on the beach but the lymphoedema is worse in hot and humid conditions.

Is it painful?
I spent three months in Florida in the early 1990s and it was very bad. My feet swelled up so much that the skin was very tight and hot. This happens in the UK when the weather is more than 30°C.
It gets very sore and I get a heat rash if it gets like that again. I prefer dry heat as they don't swell as much.

Stretched skin is more prone to cellulitis, a bacterial infection, and I've had that at least once. It gets more complicated because the lymph system finds it really hard to drain any infection.

It's possible my ankle infection was affected by my lymphoedema and my consultant said I should have been prescribed prophylactic antibiotics immediately after the fusion surgery. This may have stopped any infection from starting.

There is no cure and the only drainage is via massage but that needs a specialist not just a regular masseuse. It's not like varicose veins which can be operated on because the lymph system is so tiny.

I like to think I'm contributing to medical research for future sufferers.

What will they do if you do have kidney damage?
I don't know. Presumably I'll be given lifestyle advice to drink more water, avoid alcohol etc. I have naturally low blood pressure which is a good thing and will help. If I do have kidney damage then I could be offered dialysis and/or a kidney transplant but I think it's unlikely. My DM has untreated lymphoedema and doesn't seem to have any problems, so I might be OK.

No by mouth for three days and like a lot!

It was difficult the first time as I was nil by mouth from midnight and then was allowed to eat and drink at six. The second time was in October but the protocol has changed. Possibly different hospitals or different because six years have passed. I was allowed 50ml of water every hour during the day and so I didn’t have the same issues.

The best thing is I now have a diagnosis. I'm not lazy. I'm genuinely struggling with fluid retention in my legs and I may now get better support.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/12/2025 22:35

Happy Boxing Day! ☺️
I hope everyone is having a relaxing day.
Thinking about you Myrtle and Miss, hoping you are comfortable and that the New Year brings good health.

A bit lazy here today. Puttering with laundry and a few chores; watching movies, catching up on messages and eating ...

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MrsSPenguins · 26/12/2025 22:49

Glad you had a good Christmas @sproutsandparsnips and enjoy having DS home.

Glad you had a good Christmas @MyrtleLion

Glad you had a nice day @Mumtobabyhavoc

DS has opened his presents and is going through them. He was in the garden summerhouse a lot today ipadding under his Peter Rabbit handmade quilt he had from primary age. DD and DH went shopping to top up food and drink for when DH goes to France for a few days.

DH and I did a couple of hours gardening together and made 2 green bin full of leaves as lots of trees in and around our garden, cleaned a few things out there, cut up a pallet and cleaned the silkies coop. The silkies wandered round with us. Then I cleaned downstairs bathroom for 30 mins, rest of house is still clean from Christmas Eve clean. Had turkey, stuffing and cranberry sandwiches for lunch and turkey curry with naan bread then Christmas pudding and cream. Hope everyone had a good Boxing Day.

MargaretThursday · 27/12/2025 16:42

Have finally managed a good look at the budgie chicks in the aviary - Mum's been quite territorial when I've tried to look before.
Two of them seem to be albino which is really exciting.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 27/12/2025 18:50

Good morning, everyone. 🩷
A bit tired here today having been up til 2:30 putting baby's photo collages together for birthday pic wall. I use a 4x6 key photo then
4-6 2x3's on 8.5x11 cardstock for each month of the past year showing what baby had done, where we've been etc. I put each into a sleeve in a binder to save when all the decos come down. I really need to be better organized and sort, order and print pics throughout the year rather than the week of the birthday because reviewing amd selecting pics is very time-consuming.

Nice to see you back here @MargaretThursday .

@MissConductUS hope you are recovering well 🩷

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MrsSPenguins · 27/12/2025 20:08

Hope your LO has a lovely birthday @Mumtobabyhavoc

Hope you are recovering well and enjoying the Christmas period with your family at home now @MissConductUS

Lovely to have chicks @MargaretThursday

DH left for France at 4.30am this morning to see his Mum, brother, SIL and niece. I am with the children and the pets. DD and I said our goodbyes and entertained the cat from 4am to 5am. DD then slept through to 4pm. I said to DD the cat slept with me all night. She said no he didn't he banged on my door and slept with me. I said was that 9am which was your night? She said yes. He was with me before then. I've had porridge with golden syrup and turkey and cranberry sandwiches and the children had chinese takeaway for dinner.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 28/12/2025 03:28

Where did the day go? 😳
Just finishing dinner sitting on the couch watching tv. 😃 Have got White Christmas on tv.
Dinner was left-over duck and lamb on toasted sourdough garlic bread. Added cranberry sauce, roasted asparagus and smothered it in duck gravy. 😋

Hope you have a good few days and dh a good visit in France, @MrsSPenguins

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mathanxiety · 28/12/2025 06:57

Lovely to see Penguins and Margaret again!

MissC, I hope you're convalescing comfortably at home, with no unexpected setbacks.

We had a really nice Christmas together, just me and three of the DDs. The meal went well - all cooked on time. The fridge is groaning. I have the coming week off and then it's back to the grindstone.

MissConductUS · 28/12/2025 10:22

I did get home on Friday, just before a major snowstorm hit the area. It's so much more restful than being in hospital. I'm on lots of new meds to prevent edema, slow the heart, etc. A visiting nurse is supposed to come out today for a post op follow up. I have to see my regular cardiologist next week and return to NYC to see the surgeon the week after.

Sadly, my daughter and son in law flew home yesterday. It was still lovely to see them for a bit. I've been resting a lot. The incision pain is still pretty bad, especially where they harvested the radial artery.

We got about five inches of snow on Friday night.

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 28/12/2025 11:24

Miss, I'm glad you are home and have been with family. 🩷
Math, sound like a lovely Christmas with your three daughters.

I should be sleeping. 🤦‍♀️

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MrsSPenguins · 28/12/2025 17:42

Thanks @Mumtobabyhavoc Hope you got some rest.

Great to see you @mathanxiety and glad you have a lovely Christmas with 3 of your children.

Great you are home @MissConductUS and got to spend some time with family. Love the snow pictures.

Just a quiet day here. DH in France seeing relatives. DS took a bath about 7am then has been in kitchen cooking, living room ipadding and garden wandering round. Silkies have been wandering round and digging chicken sized holes. DD and I have had fairly lazy days with a bit of cooking and washing up and watching TV.

sproutsandparsnips · 28/12/2025 20:53

Glad you are home @MissConductUS- love the peaceful pictures.
once again I am in awe of your organisation @Mumtobabyhavoc. Food looks lovely!
Hope You have a peaceful few days without DH @MrsSPenguinsand that DH has a good few days visiting his family.
Nice to hear from @MargaretThursday
Enjoy your week off @mathanxiety
Went to work today, we don’t usually open on a Sunday but arranged to do so today as were worried would be busy and a lack of beds at the end of a 4 day weekend. Was very quiet and I don’t think I justified my pay!
Need to clean and tidy tomorrow as things have got a bit messy and untidy. Back to work again Tuesday then.

mathanxiety · 30/12/2025 04:09

Hope you're still resting as much as possible, MissC and recovering well. Your snowy photos are lovely.

Penguins so glad to see you and hear news of your family.

We woke this morning to wind, bitter cold, and a dusting of light snow. I went out to try on dresses for a summer wedding. Found seven possibles, but none looked good on.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 30/12/2025 07:27

Math, I think I'd find it hard to shop for a summer dress right now having been on a diet of chocolate, stollen and panettone for the past month...could you be feeling similar?

I took dc out this evening to the Harry Potter Experience at Stanley Park. Luckily the weather was good. It was dry with a fairly clear sky. Temp was about 4c. Had the kids in their snow suits and boots. We walked through twice taking about 45 mins each time.

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EllaDisenchanted · 30/12/2025 08:02

I’m back on a healthy eating kick, post chanuka. Found some soup recipes to try, I usually just invent my soups, but quite fancy trying something different. today is a fast day, so I need to make a proper dinner for after the fast, so it’s a good push to try one of the recipes.
our boiler was broken for the last week; in the summer we rely on solar power for hot water but it doesn’t work in winter. Fixed this morning, the hot shower was a dream!

MyrtleLion · 30/12/2025 09:01

I was prescribed steroids yesterday to reduce inflammation in my lungs. The flu has gone but my asthma remains. Hopefully this will sort it out.

Off to the pub later. We like the pub but it gets busy and noisy as it's by the river and where we live is quite touristy all year (though much more in the summer). It will be very busy tomorrow so we thought we'd go today and then return in March when our dry season is over.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 31/12/2025 18:41

Happy New Year's Eve, Everyone!

Had a bit of a sleep-in, so feeling mostly human atm. 🤗

Have made the dc oatmeal with butter and cinnamon mixed in and topped with blueberries and blackberries. I'm having an iced latte so far.

Not 100% sure what we are doing today, but I would like to do at least one errand to return two milk frothers that are a bit crap. The replacement for the replacement for the one purchased through Amazon that is under warranty arrived the other day. So, I have three from that company and three purchased at Winners in my cupboards. Six in total. Two were bought last week after the replacement pooped out. Both barely work. They were only $10 each, though. The Amazon purchase was around $20. So, not a lot of money.

I'll likely pop in later to see what everyone is up to. ☺️

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MrsSPenguins · 31/12/2025 18:56

Thanks @sproutsandparsnips Good to hear work was quiet.

Thanks @mathanxiety Lovely to hear your news too.

Lovely photos @Mumtobabyhavoc you do such wonderful things with your two.

Glad your boiler is fixed @EllaDisenchanted

Hope steroids help @MyrtleLion

Hope everyone has a good NYE and a great 2026.

DH is now back from France. He had a lovely time and saw his Mum, brother, SIL and niece but had an awful journey back with Eurotunnel. He was supposed to be back on a 6.30pm crossing but had to wait there until 2.30am to cross, all shops closed as had run out of food and drink after first hour there. Though he was glad it was just him and not him and toddlers.

We just had a quiet few days here, had a Chinese takeaway last night. Had good weather and the silkies enjoyed wandering the garden. Today have collected cakes and nice food for tonight and will have champagne. Just a quiet night in so we can be with DS. DD will be out partying hard until the middle of tomorrow with friends and sleeping over. Both DS and DD were really good when DH was away, doing some cooking, putting things in the bin, putting washing up in dishwasher and turning it on and DD put black bin out. DH was pleasantly surprised how clean and tidy everything was. Though the cat was like I am really glad you are back but you have 4 days of cat tasks to catch up on and not my problem you got back at 4am I need you now. Though cat is now sleeping.

mathanxiety · 31/12/2025 20:23

havoc I had the same thought when I stood there in the unforgiving lighting in the fitting room...
Nevertheless, I came away with a floaty, A-line dress that 'covered a multitude', and a silky knit top, both deeply discounted. The total came to just over $30 with tax. I'll wear the top with a very dressy skirt I already have, and I'll be able to find footwear that matches both outfits - both are in the blue family. There will be a rehearsal dinner in a naice restaurant the evening before the wedding, and it's nice to have the two outfits sorted.

We are at the point of the year when I only know what day of the week it is by reference to routine events like bin collection.

mathanxiety · 31/12/2025 20:26

And (forgot, doh!) Happy New Year to everyone!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 31/12/2025 23:04

Since most of you here are 8 hours ahead I will post my favourite version of Auld Lang Syne now. Mairi Campbell. No one sings it better. (Posting lyrics version)

m.youtube.com/watch?v=_GYCZGwUZuw&list=RD_GYCZGwUZuw&start_radio=1&pp=ygUdbWFpcmkgY2FtcGJlbGwgYXVsZCBsYW5nIHN5bmWgBwE%3D

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